Narcissists will deliberately attempt to engage you in fights for no other reason than to see you squirm. Don't humor them!!!!!
Wednesday, November 20, 2019
The Voice of the Pretender
When you are chastised by other "Christians" for speaking the truth of the Bible keep in mind that you are probably dealing with pretenders.
Those who desire to believe false doctrine in order to justify their sin often accuse us of things that they are guilty of and from which they will not turn.
We are living in a time when there are more apostates than there are authentic believers. These apostates will come against truth with vicious attacks designed to keep us in meaningless and fruitless drama.
The most vitriolic of pretenders will not accept scripture when it is handed to them, they will fight against truth as though their life depends upon it.
Has anyone noticed that the pretender will tell you how wrong you are but not address any one of the scriptures that you addressed. They repeat only their feelings over and over the things they have already said but are refuted easily with the scripture you gave.
The most vicious attacks have come from pretenders far more than from other unbelievers. You see, the pretenders have information about the Bible but they have not rightly divided the word to be able to discern truth. These people hang onto secular wisdom rather than wisdom from the Word of God.
A pretender is a person who likes to be seen as a good person, even learning the words of the Bible while not understanding what they read correctly. They are known for snatching scripture out of context to justify their desired beliefs. When confronted with Scripture they will not engage with you, only defending their false belief.
When I realize what I am dealing with, that is an ignorant person who loves their sin and self righteousness, I remove myself and no longer try to convince them.
However the pretenders tactic is to continue to stalk you to begin fights that are unnecessary. The best course of action with these people is to get away and leave them to God.
2 Timothy 2:15
"15 Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth."
Proverbs 12:15 "15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to counsel."
Proverbs 6:12-15 "A worthless person, a wicked man,
Is the one who walks with a perverse mouth,
13 Who winks with his eyes, who signals with his feet,
Who points with his fingers;
14 Who with perversity in his heart continually devises evil,
Who spreads strife.
15 Therefore his calamity will come suddenly;
Instantly he will be broken and there will be no healing."
When we realize it is not possible to reason with someone it is time to walk away. When we realize we are in disagreement about important matters then is also when to walk away.
Amos 3:3 "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"
The answer to the question is no, two cannot walk together who are not agreed.
Those who desire to believe false doctrine in order to justify their sin often accuse us of things that they are guilty of and from which they will not turn.
We are living in a time when there are more apostates than there are authentic believers. These apostates will come against truth with vicious attacks designed to keep us in meaningless and fruitless drama.
The most vitriolic of pretenders will not accept scripture when it is handed to them, they will fight against truth as though their life depends upon it.
Has anyone noticed that the pretender will tell you how wrong you are but not address any one of the scriptures that you addressed. They repeat only their feelings over and over the things they have already said but are refuted easily with the scripture you gave.
The most vicious attacks have come from pretenders far more than from other unbelievers. You see, the pretenders have information about the Bible but they have not rightly divided the word to be able to discern truth. These people hang onto secular wisdom rather than wisdom from the Word of God.
A pretender is a person who likes to be seen as a good person, even learning the words of the Bible while not understanding what they read correctly. They are known for snatching scripture out of context to justify their desired beliefs. When confronted with Scripture they will not engage with you, only defending their false belief.
When I realize what I am dealing with, that is an ignorant person who loves their sin and self righteousness, I remove myself and no longer try to convince them.
However the pretenders tactic is to continue to stalk you to begin fights that are unnecessary. The best course of action with these people is to get away and leave them to God.
2 Timothy 2:15
"15 Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth."
Proverbs 12:15 "15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to counsel."
Proverbs 6:12-15 "A worthless person, a wicked man,
Is the one who walks with a perverse mouth,
13 Who winks with his eyes, who signals with his feet,
Who points with his fingers;
14 Who with perversity in his heart continually devises evil,
Who spreads strife.
15 Therefore his calamity will come suddenly;
Instantly he will be broken and there will be no healing."
When we realize it is not possible to reason with someone it is time to walk away. When we realize we are in disagreement about important matters then is also when to walk away.
Amos 3:3 "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"
The answer to the question is no, two cannot walk together who are not agreed.
Forgiveness God's Way 4
"The pattern is clear: Real love longs for the betterment of another person. This causes a person to care enough to get involved in practicing Christ’s process of correction and then holding the wrongdoer accountable for future choices. Suddenly, there is the opportunity for what has been broken to be made whole."
From the article, "The Dangers of Superficial Forgiveness."
From the article, "The Dangers of Superficial Forgiveness."
Forgiveness God's Way 3
Forgiving God's Way 2
Is Unconfessed Sin Hindering Your Prayers?
Sadly there are those who are using the principle that our sins are covered in the blood as born again believers to excuse sin in believers.
I deal with it all the time, that sin is not dealt with in the gatherings because God has covered their sin in His blood. How odd it seems to me since Christ did not die that terrible death and rise from the dead to make sin guilt free.
Christ died to give those who have Christ living in them able to resist, to turn from sin and grow in holiness.
Those who want to justify their sin using the grace of God are sinning by doing so.
Romans 6:1-2 "1 What then shall we say? Shall we continue in sin so that grace may increase? 2 Certainly not! How can we who died to sin live in it any longer?…"
An authentic born again believer hates sin, they are deeply convicted if they commit it and ask to be cleansed of it.
1 John 1:9 was written to believers. Remember the words "IF WE CONFESS." These are the words Christians like to omit when talking about forgiveness.
"9 IF WE CONFESS our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
God disciplines those whom He loves because He cannot have fellowship with His children who are in sin.
Hebrews 12:5-7…5 And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not take lightly the discipline of the Lord, and do not lose heart when He rebukes you. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises everyone He receives as a son.” 7 Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?…
God will not hear the prayers of those who are sinning, even as born again believers.
Isaiah 1:14-16 "…14 I hate your New Moons and your appointed feasts; they have become a burden to Me; I am weary of bearing them. 15 When you spread out your hands in prayer, I will hide My eyes from you; even though you multiply your prayers, I will not listen. Your hands are covered with blood. 16 Wash and cleanse yourselves. Remove your evil deeds from My sight. Stop doing evil!…"
1 Peter 3:7
"7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so THAT YOUR PRAYERS NOT BE HINDERED."
1 Peter 4:7
"7 The end of all things is at hand; therefore be self-controlled and sober-minded FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR PRAYERS."
1 Peter 3:7
"7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered."
Matthew 18:15-16 " 15“If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. 16“But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that BY THE MOUTH OF TWO OR THREE WITNESSES EVERY FACT MAY BE CONFIRMED. 17“If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector."
We confront people about their sin to help them resolve a relationship and cleanse themselves of it by confessing to God and others.
Sin is growing in the church because those who say they are Christians are refusing to confess their sin. Rather they defend it, even willing to break fellowship with those who adhere to the rule of discipline set by Chris in His Word.
Since the onset of psychology taught in the university all over the country the word "sin" has become a bad word. The idea that people only do bad things because they are hurting has been solidified in the minds of most people.
We do not automatically do bad things because we have been hurt. Lots of people who have been hurt do not hurt others. Hurting others is a choice coming from a wicked heart. Excuse making for bad behavior causes that bad behavior to grow. This is where we are in our culture today. Sin has been ignored thus creating a culture that embraces it as good.
If your prayers do not seem to be answered its possible you are living in unconfessed sin.
James 5:15-16 "…15 And the prayer offered in faith will restore the one who is sick. The Lord will raise him up. If he has sinned, he will be forgiven. 16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man has great power to prevail."
I deal with it all the time, that sin is not dealt with in the gatherings because God has covered their sin in His blood. How odd it seems to me since Christ did not die that terrible death and rise from the dead to make sin guilt free.
Christ died to give those who have Christ living in them able to resist, to turn from sin and grow in holiness.
Those who want to justify their sin using the grace of God are sinning by doing so.
Romans 6:1-2 "1 What then shall we say? Shall we continue in sin so that grace may increase? 2 Certainly not! How can we who died to sin live in it any longer?…"
An authentic born again believer hates sin, they are deeply convicted if they commit it and ask to be cleansed of it.
1 John 1:9 was written to believers. Remember the words "IF WE CONFESS." These are the words Christians like to omit when talking about forgiveness.
"9 IF WE CONFESS our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
God disciplines those whom He loves because He cannot have fellowship with His children who are in sin.
Hebrews 12:5-7…5 And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not take lightly the discipline of the Lord, and do not lose heart when He rebukes you. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises everyone He receives as a son.” 7 Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?…
God will not hear the prayers of those who are sinning, even as born again believers.
Isaiah 1:14-16 "…14 I hate your New Moons and your appointed feasts; they have become a burden to Me; I am weary of bearing them. 15 When you spread out your hands in prayer, I will hide My eyes from you; even though you multiply your prayers, I will not listen. Your hands are covered with blood. 16 Wash and cleanse yourselves. Remove your evil deeds from My sight. Stop doing evil!…"
1 Peter 3:7
"7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so THAT YOUR PRAYERS NOT BE HINDERED."
1 Peter 4:7
"7 The end of all things is at hand; therefore be self-controlled and sober-minded FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR PRAYERS."
1 Peter 3:7
"7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered."
Matthew 18:15-16 " 15“If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. 16“But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that BY THE MOUTH OF TWO OR THREE WITNESSES EVERY FACT MAY BE CONFIRMED. 17“If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector."
We confront people about their sin to help them resolve a relationship and cleanse themselves of it by confessing to God and others.
Sin is growing in the church because those who say they are Christians are refusing to confess their sin. Rather they defend it, even willing to break fellowship with those who adhere to the rule of discipline set by Chris in His Word.
Since the onset of psychology taught in the university all over the country the word "sin" has become a bad word. The idea that people only do bad things because they are hurting has been solidified in the minds of most people.
We do not automatically do bad things because we have been hurt. Lots of people who have been hurt do not hurt others. Hurting others is a choice coming from a wicked heart. Excuse making for bad behavior causes that bad behavior to grow. This is where we are in our culture today. Sin has been ignored thus creating a culture that embraces it as good.
If your prayers do not seem to be answered its possible you are living in unconfessed sin.
James 5:15-16 "…15 And the prayer offered in faith will restore the one who is sick. The Lord will raise him up. If he has sinned, he will be forgiven. 16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man has great power to prevail."
Clearing Up The Confusion!
Why are so many people confused about the nature of salvation security?
The confusion comes because many people say they are Christians and then walk away as Judas did. Judas was a pretender much like the ones we have in all the gatherings today. He was with Christ but never gave his life to Christ. He was never born again. Judas even felt remorse for betraying a "good man" as he saw it. But he was never saved. Evil people can feel remorse, they like to think of themselves as a good person, so when it is obvious that they did evil they feel a betrayal of self. Depression comes upon those who discover their true nature.
Even unsaved human beings have a conscience that was given to them at birth. This is not salvation, having a conscience comes to everyone but it becomes seared when someone rejects Christ. Those who are not born again may feel temporary remorse but not because they offended a Holy God. They feel remorse because they wanted to think of themselves as good and the actions they took prove they were not.
Many have deluded themselves into thinking they are a good person, they cannot be saved because their pride loves themselves. They add "Christ" to their own desires hoping to use Him for safety and prosperity, but they do not love Him. They treat people the same way, using them until they don't get something they want, then they throw them away. Pretenders in the church remain there to gain "narcissistic supply", there is no love for the people that are there nor is there love for God.
Narcissistic supply is a term used to describe a person who uses people who provide accolades, praise, happiness to them. These narcissists do not provide these things to others but demand it from others.
Born again believers never use or throw away people. They withdraw from narcissists who refuse to seek Christ, who use others and are not repentant, but then they pray for them.
Remaining companions with a narcissist only validates their evil character or when challenged to take a good long look at themselves they will rage and cause problems for the believer.
We cannot help those who are deeply dedicated to self, they must come to the end of themselves through the consequences God brings. We must separate from them to protect our families and our own walk with Christ.
Constant exposure to them will cause us to become like them.
1 Corinthians 15:33 " 33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
There are more narcissists today than there were one generation ago and more emerging every day as we are moving into the end times. We see that the tolerance of the believer who think if they are just nice to wicked people has caused the believer to emulate the narcissist in many ways they are not even aware of because the culture does not chastise these behaviors or ways of thinking.
1 Corinthians 2:16 …15The spiritual man judges all things, but he himself is not subject to anyone’s judgment. 16“For who has known the mind of the Lord, so as to instruct Him?” But we have the mind of Christ."
1 John 2:18-20 "18 Children, it is the last hour; and just as you have heard that the antichrist is coming, so now many antichrists have appeared. This is how we know it is the last hour. 19 They went out from us, but they did not belong to us. For if they had belonged to us, they would have remained with us. But their departure made it clear that none of them belonged to us. 20 You, however, have an anointing from the Holy One, and all of you know the truth.…"
John 15:15 "No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not understand what his master is doing. But I have called you friends, because everything I have learned from My Father I have made known to you."
Because we are friends of Christ, His Bride, we will think the way He does and our companions must be those who thinks the way He does.
The confusion comes because many people say they are Christians and then walk away as Judas did. Judas was a pretender much like the ones we have in all the gatherings today. He was with Christ but never gave his life to Christ. He was never born again. Judas even felt remorse for betraying a "good man" as he saw it. But he was never saved. Evil people can feel remorse, they like to think of themselves as a good person, so when it is obvious that they did evil they feel a betrayal of self. Depression comes upon those who discover their true nature.
Even unsaved human beings have a conscience that was given to them at birth. This is not salvation, having a conscience comes to everyone but it becomes seared when someone rejects Christ. Those who are not born again may feel temporary remorse but not because they offended a Holy God. They feel remorse because they wanted to think of themselves as good and the actions they took prove they were not.
Many have deluded themselves into thinking they are a good person, they cannot be saved because their pride loves themselves. They add "Christ" to their own desires hoping to use Him for safety and prosperity, but they do not love Him. They treat people the same way, using them until they don't get something they want, then they throw them away. Pretenders in the church remain there to gain "narcissistic supply", there is no love for the people that are there nor is there love for God.
Narcissistic supply is a term used to describe a person who uses people who provide accolades, praise, happiness to them. These narcissists do not provide these things to others but demand it from others.
Born again believers never use or throw away people. They withdraw from narcissists who refuse to seek Christ, who use others and are not repentant, but then they pray for them.
Remaining companions with a narcissist only validates their evil character or when challenged to take a good long look at themselves they will rage and cause problems for the believer.
We cannot help those who are deeply dedicated to self, they must come to the end of themselves through the consequences God brings. We must separate from them to protect our families and our own walk with Christ.
Constant exposure to them will cause us to become like them.
1 Corinthians 15:33 " 33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
There are more narcissists today than there were one generation ago and more emerging every day as we are moving into the end times. We see that the tolerance of the believer who think if they are just nice to wicked people has caused the believer to emulate the narcissist in many ways they are not even aware of because the culture does not chastise these behaviors or ways of thinking.
1 Corinthians 2:16 …15The spiritual man judges all things, but he himself is not subject to anyone’s judgment. 16“For who has known the mind of the Lord, so as to instruct Him?” But we have the mind of Christ."
1 John 2:18-20 "18 Children, it is the last hour; and just as you have heard that the antichrist is coming, so now many antichrists have appeared. This is how we know it is the last hour. 19 They went out from us, but they did not belong to us. For if they had belonged to us, they would have remained with us. But their departure made it clear that none of them belonged to us. 20 You, however, have an anointing from the Holy One, and all of you know the truth.…"
John 15:15 "No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not understand what his master is doing. But I have called you friends, because everything I have learned from My Father I have made known to you."
Because we are friends of Christ, His Bride, we will think the way He does and our companions must be those who thinks the way He does.
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