A Holy Spirit controlled person would not be mean just to provoke, and if they were having a bad day and were rude without thinking, they would catch themselves, they would be ashamed and say sorry immediately.
No child of God uses tactics such as "the silent treatment" to cause deep hurt in the other person. No child of God could stand that they hurt someone, they want to help, they love to fix.
Those who practice control and intimidation are not walking in the Spirit. The Spirit would convict them of sin.
1 John 3:9
"9 No one who is born of God practices sin, because His seed abides in him; and he cannot sin, because he is born of God."
A child of God defends those who are being abused, stands with the innocent and seeks to help in recovery. A child of God never takes the side of the abuser.....ever.
Proverbs 31:8-9
"Open your mouth for the mute, for the rights of all who are destitute. Open your mouth, judge righteously, defend the rights of the poor and needy."
Psalm 82:3
"Vindicate the weak and fatherless; Do justice to the afflicted and destitute."
Zechariah 8:16
"These are the things that you shall do; Speak you every man the truth …"
