Narcissists are always more concerned about winning in a conversation than they are about sharing ideas and discovering the best way.
Narcs are not interested in working as a team, they must always be the boss, the one in control while negating the ideas of those they consider to be under them.
God's purpose for believers is to work together, even with a leader to guide things, no one is above another in terms of wisdom. Everyone has something to offer and everyone is to be considered unless they are blatantly unBiblical in their stance.
When "hierarchy" becomes the goal as apposed to leading to protect and help, there is no longer "love" involved, just pressure to conform and often not to Biblical standards but the standards of the controlling leader.
Whenever we hear a leader say, "you must do it because I said so", unless it is a parent raising small children, the controller only has his own interest in mind not the welfare of the hearer.
God said "call no man on earth your father." This tells me that God wants to be the One Who instructs me not people. He can use people to bring to light a principle I may not know or have missed, but they have no authority to force or intimidate me into submission, only Christ has that power.
Narcissists do not work well with others, they must have things their way or make it miserable for anyone else who may think differently. Confidence is the opposite of what the narc wants to foster in anyone. They prefer mousy, wishy-washy insecure people to be their drones that do their bidding.
Sadly the 2 Timothy 3 description of the end times is in play right now. We are beginning to meet more people like this than normal and reasonable thinking people. I am sure this was the experience of Lot in Sodom and the world in Noah's time.
It is wonderful that God gave us the example of Lot and Noah to help us understand these times we live in and what we would be faced with. When we know what we are dealing with, then it does not devastate or control us, we can observe the nonsense and continue on with Christ overflowing with His joy.
I am grateful to God for His Word that describes in advance what we will see and how it will affect us, as well as the joy in knowing it isn't about us, but the condition of the world in which we have to live.
Hallelujah for God's Word!
