The Abuser's Belief System

Once again you are speaking the truth. All of what you speak about I have endured with narcissistic family members. The abuser says very covert things to dig at us and even using nonresponsiveness to poke at us. They will be attentive to their favorite accomplished person, at least accomplished in their own eyes, while demeaning the one of whom they are jealous. They want their target to believe they have nothing to offer when in reality they are jealous and want to undermine their target. They are pretenders, pretending someone who fawns over them is special while the rational person is treated as though they are foolish and stupid. Anyone who does not hold them in a superior position will be a target. These people absolutely refuse to work out a problem, because they like that there is a problem. They feel elevated and pretend you are the problem. When we have tried a few times to resolve a problem and are met with rage or victimhood tears, then is time to remove ourselves. Narcissists often create problems covertly or overtly but will make you the problem when you try to resolve it so the behavior stops happening. After many years of dealing with this we finally realize that we will never be able to fix it. Then we should be done moving on to more healthy relationships.

2 Timothy 3:1-5 "You should know this, Timothy, that in the last days there will be very difficult (ragingly insane) times. 2 For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred. 3 They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control. They will be cruel and hate what is good. 4 They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God. 5 They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that!