Without Confidence

I have recently come to the conclusion that the children that lack confidence the most are those who have been indulged all their lives.

These people cannot seem to function without continual praise and attention. Because they are so used to a preoccupation with self and the applause of those around them, they find it impossible to function alone without recognition.

Those who have been encouraged to operate without acknowledgment on a regular basis are more focused on the tasks than the praise for the task. They are more productive because they are not preoccupied with whether or not someone is watching them.

Those who can operate on their own enjoying their work for it's own sake are happier and more fulfilled than entitled people.

Also, I have noticed that indulged children turn into entitled and selfish adults, who accomplish little in their lives. Without adulation from others there is no incentive for them to accomplish a task all on their own without notice from others. They often do not develop personalities unique to themselves, often they mimic others and think less for themselves.

There is far greater value in fostering the individual personality God gave us. The ability to think for oneself, affords many adventures that are not possible when one follows the crowd.

Impressing others has little value, it doesn't bring much in terms of self gratification except for the few moments of glory from others. Satisfaction in doing a job well for the Lord brings deeper and longer lasting joy.

Colossians 3:23 "23 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters,"

Psalm 90:17 "17 May the favor of the Lord our God rest on us; establish the work of our hands for us— yes, establish the work of our hands."

Proverbs 12:11 "11 Those who work their land will have abundant food, but those who chase fantasies have no sense."

Fantasies are of no value at all in a believers life, they distract and can be fulfilling only as long as we engage in them. Our minds must continually fabricate new fantasies to keep the excitement alive.

Fantasies are the wind, but hard work and diligence is the substance through which real purpose is derived and long lasting effects. The more one engages in fantasy the lazier they become.

Proverbs 13:4 "4 A sluggard’s appetite is never filled, but the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied."

Bottom line: Those whose focus is self are less happy and more unfulfilled, however, those who are less self focused and whose mind is stayed on God, enjoy lasting and permanent joy.

John 15:11 ""These things I have spoken to you so that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be made full."

Colossians 3:24 "24 since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving."