Monday, March 25, 2019

Narcissists and the Devil Only Have Control if We Let Them

Narcissists often deny what they say and do to make us doubt ourselves.

The devil did this in the garden with Eve. He managed to convince her that she didn't hear God correctly. He also caused her to believe God was withholding truth from her.

Narcissists will cause doubt in someone who is not aware of their tactics. If we know what they are doing we become strong, never buying into their lies.

The goal of the narcissist is to cause us to elevate them above ourselves. In a healthy relationship no one is above another person nor do rational people care about denigrating another person. A healthy person enjoys blessing others with truth and support in their goals when those goals are aligned with God's principles.

Healthy relationships are based on mutual love, mutual compassion, mutual empathy and mutual kindness.

Narcissists are all about self all the time.

Never bother with defensiveness or explaining to the narcissist. Speak truth, if they do not receive it then move on without further discussion.

Narcissists do not care about resolving anything. The goal of the narcissist is to dominate and devalue all those people who do not agree with them or bow to them.

In healthy relationships the friends have no need to devalue anyone else, they are simply happy being themselves and allowing others to be themselves. This does not mean that we never disagree, or that we allow sin to carry on without challenge. When we challenge someone about sin our goal ought to be to help someone confess, turn from their sin and be restored. The narcissist will have none of this, they are only about one thing and that is to win over others.

Narcissists love to poke at every single thing their target does no matter how small. They also have no ability to engage in joy for the accomplishments of others, nor do they have empathy for the trials of others.

In short, and this is important.....the narcissist is all about self all the time. If they do a good deed it comes with expectations and strings. Everything then narcissist does for others must have a benefit for them. They will not do anything kind if it does not bring them accolades from others.

God spoke of this in his word;

Philippians 2:3-4
"3 Do nothing [a]from [b]selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; 4 do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others."

God cannot be on the throne in our own minds when ourselves are on that throne.

Dishonesty and lying is the basic character of the narcissist. They lie to elevate self, they lie about others to demean them, they lie about their accomplishments, they lie by omission to skew perceptions of things, in short they live a lifestyle of lies.

Guess who is the father of lies? The devil!!!!

When we see narcissists at work in relationships we can surmise that the devil is speaking into the mind while using their mouths.

1 Peter 5:7-9 "…7 Cast all your anxiety on Him (Christ), because He cares for you. 8 Be sober-minded and alert. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 9 Resist him, standing firm in your faith and in the knowledge that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kinds of suffering.…"

The goal of the narcissist is to cause us to falter and fall so they can feel superior to us. The devil is very adept at frustrating someone to cause them to sin. When we know this is what is happening then we must remain calm, refuse to answer to the manipulations and be on our way.

Mark 6:7
"And He summoned the twelve and began to send them out in pairs, and gave them authority over the unclean spirits;"

Narcissists are unwittingly allowing unclean spirits to dominate them. Even convincing the narcissist they are the ones in control, but they are not, it is devils who reign over the narcissist. They are pawns in the hands of the devil.

Matthew 10:8
"Heal the sick, raise the dead, cleanse the lepers, cast out demons. Freely you received, freely give."

The devil and the narcissist only have control over us if we allow them that control.

1 John 2:14
"I have written to you, fathers, because you know Him who has been from the beginning I have written to you, young men, because you are strong, and the word of God abides in you, and you have overcome the evil one."




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