I have spoken with divorced people who say they regretted the divorce but it was too late to fix it since their spouse remarried. If people would not remarry after divorce there could be reconciliation down the road when a couple learns they were hasty and immature in their pursuit of something better.
It isn't marrying young that is the problem, people are waiting longer to marry and still divorcing. The problem is the cultural influence that promotes doing whatever you want no matter who you hurt.
There is no longer a sense of making anything work through dialogue and understanding. With the increase in narcissistic thinking, most people are more dedicated to being seen as special without a sense that they need to grow in maturity.
They will defend violently their sin while engaging in wrong attitudes that justify it.
The Stiff-Necked Will Be Destroyed
"…8 Mockers inflame a city, but the wise turn away anger. 9 If a wise man goes to court with a fool, there will be raving and laughing with no resolution.10 Men of bloodshed hate a blameless man, but the upright care for his life.…"
We are living in very "stiff-necked" times in which most people want to think well of themselves becoming enraged at the suggestion that something about them needs to change.
An attempt to resolve a problem with a narcissist is the same as attempting to resolve a problem with a fool, therefore it is possible the narcissist is a fool.
Matthew 7:6
"Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you."
God's answer to the wise is to avoid conversation with fools, they have no interest in resolving anything. Relationships are not important to them, only preserving their elevated view of themselves. God must be the One to work in their lives without us.
Proverbs 18:6-8 "…6A fool’s lips bring him strife, and his mouth invites a beating. 7A fool’s mouth is his ruin, and his lips are a snare to his soul.8The words of a gossip are like choice morsels that go down into the inmost being.…"
When a fool cannot convince you he is special and always right he will attempt to make others see you the way he wishes to see you. This person turns friends and family against their targets, the ones who call them out on their sin, the one who has discovered what they are.
Psalm 140:9
"As for the head of those who surround me, May the mischief of their lips cover them."
Proverbs 10:14
"The wise store up knowledge, but the mouth of the fool invites destruction."
The fool believes he is getting away with something when he has perceived himself to win an argument if the only way he did was to intimidate their target into silence. What the fool does not realize is that God sees everything all the time. He protects the righteous and brings judgement to the fool.
Psalm 94:23
"He will bring upon them their own iniquity and destroy them for their wickedness. The LORD our God will destroy them."
No one who harms a born again believer will get away with it. Even if it seems as though they did in this life, in eternity they will be judged and pay the price for their attack on believers unless they repent.
Proverbs 12:1-2 "1 Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid. 2 The good man obtains favor from the LORD, but the LORD condemns a man who devises evil.…"
Reconciliation can only happen when the offending party confesses to be cleansed and is sorry for offending.
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