Gossipers Shame Themselves

Remember the old saying "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me"?

This principle can be translated to sharing our deepest desires, hurts, and pains with others. Sharing once and when they misuse it then it is on them, sharing with them twice and they misuse it, that is on us.

We need to stop sharing with anyone who has used what we said against us even one time. Those who want information for the purpose of making judgments do not love us nor do they care about truth. And, sadly they turn others against us who have not seen what has been gossiped nor have they spoken to us to find the other side of the story.

Those who gossip about others never tell the whole story and they certainly leave out the part that we were repentant and do not repeat those same sins again if the actions were even sins. Sometimes we do things that are right and the one who is jealous or hates us will interpret our actions as sin. They desire to think badly of us or they would assume the best about us.

In my experience, the gossipers always embellish the story making it worse and more frequent than what actually happened. They are not concerned about the truth, or the character growth of the repentant sinner, they only care about maligning the character of their target to gain the friendship of another gossiper.

All stories have two sides, when someone is willing to tell only one side based on their own desired belief about a person they are not showing good sense. They are more interested in feeling superior and ruining someone else than they are about loving and helping.

If there is no need to know then there is no reason to pass on the past repentant sins of others.

Gossipers do not want their targets to be repentant, this is why they are stuck in their own desired beliefs about the target. Sadly gossipers are very weak people, they cannot think well of themselves without making someone else beneath them.

It is one thing to relate to a close friend what you personally experienced and quite another to tell a tale you never saw for yourself., even making up details to validate what you never observed.

Gossips are Fools:

Proverbs 18:6

A fool starts fights.

6 A fool’s lips bring strife,

And his mouth invites beatings.

Proverbs 12:16

A fool is easily upset.

"A fool’s anger is known at once,

But a prudent person conceals dishonor."

Proverbs 14:15 A fool believes everything he reads.

"The naive believes everything,

But the sensible person considers his steps."

Proverbs 18:2

A fool loves to talk but hates to listen.

A fool does not delight in understanding,

But in revealing his own mind."

Proverbs 28:26

A fool is fiercely independent.

One who trusts in his own heart is a fool,

But one who walks wisely will flee to safety."

Proverbs 10:23

A fool makes light of sin.

Doing wickedness is like sport to a fool,

And so is wisdom to a person of understanding."

Proverbs 15:20

A fool hates their Mother.

"A wise son makes a father glad,

But a foolish man despises his mother."

Proverbs 17:9-10

"He who conceals a transgression seeks love, But he who repeats a matter separates intimate friends. A rebuke goes deeper into one who has understanding Than a hundred blows into a fool."