10 Nonverbal Abuse Tactics

Avoid Gossipers and Their Flying Monkeys

Those who attempt to guess what others are doing and why without really knowing the whole matter are gossips and worse they are those who repeat what they do not know as fact to those who have no business knowing in the first place.

If someone has no "need to know" something about someone else then it should not be heard by the hearer or repeated by the one who guesses.

It has been my experience that much gossip is based on what the gossiper wishes to believe about someone that is not true rather than any facts or personal involvement.

I cannot tell you the number of times I have been rejected because of a lie a gossiper told without ever inquiring of me about the truth.

Sadly there is a term now that is common, its called; "flying monkeys", these are the people who believe the gossip they hear and act in angry mean spirited ways toward the one who was maligned by the gossip.

The flying monkey's never got to the one who has been maligned to hear their side, they just enjoy the lies and repeat them to anyone else who seems interested.

2 Corinthians 12:20 says, "For I fear that when I come I may find you not such as I wish, and that you may find me not as you wish; that there may be rivalry, jealousy, fury, selfishness, slander, gossip, conceit, and disorder".

Ephesians 4:29 says, "Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers".

James 1:26 "26If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not bridle his tongue, he deceives his heart and his religion is worthless."

There are also those who take things they have seen out of context and twist them to mean something that was not meant and was not said to entice others to be on their side against the one they hate.

1 Corinthians 13:3-5 "…3If I give all I possess to the poor and exult in the surrender of my body, but have not love, I gain nothing. 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no account of wrongs.…"

Many pretenders justify gossip, enjoy disrespect toward others and cannot be content just to believe their own lies they must gain supporters against the person whom they are envious of and hateful toward.

There is nothing we can do about those who gossip against us or their flying monkeys, except to avoid them as much as possible. Until they are convicted of their sin and become born again they cannot be our constant companions.

Removing all the gossipers and the flying monkeys from our lives is endorsed by God even commanded.

2 Timothy 3:1-5

Difficult Times Will Come

"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.

2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,

3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, [a]haters of good,

4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,

5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."

Verse 5 clearly states that they even have "religion" self-righteous and rude, and that we are to "avoid such people as these."

If we obey God we will find ourselves living a much more peaceful life with those who also love Him.

Hebrews 1:9

"You have loved righteousness and hated wickedness; therefore God, Your God, has anointed You above Your companions with the oil of joy."

When we love righteousness and hate evil we will want our companions who love Christ and the things that He loves.

One of the Biggest Lies of the Pretenders in the Church Who are Led by the Devil to Deceive Many

Anyone who claims they can sin all they want after salvation was never changed into a new creation by Christ. We only become born again by coming to Christ in shame over our sinful nature wanting Him to change us. Anyone who "decides" to become a Christian is doing it in the flesh and will not be thinking like someone who has been changed by Christ.

When He changes us it is His work and He changes the way we think permanently. We can never think that old way again, it has passed away and we have become new creatures.

2 Corinthians 5:17 "

"Therefore if anyone is in Christ, this person is a new creation; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come."

Ephesians 2:10

"10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them."

Those who have been changed by Christ have the Holy Spirit living in them to convict them of sin so that if they do fall they have an advocate and they desire to be cleansed of that sin.

When we become born again we hate our sin and want to be cleansed.

1 John 1:9 "9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

1 John 2:1 "My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous;"

We have many pretenders in the church who may even say a lot of right things but who have never been born again.

Matthew 7:21-23 "21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ 23 And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’"

My heart becomes agitated every time I hear a person claiming to be a Christian, say that sin doesn't matter anymore, because we are under the blood.

This is such a lie, if sin didn't matter then why would Christ go to the cross and endure a terrible death for something that was no big deal?

Christ didn't die on that cross to allow us to be comfortable with sin, even flaunting it. He died on the cross to free us from sin and make us righteous.

Romans 6:18 in the Bible states, "You have been set free from sin and have become slaves to righteousness".

Feel free to rebuke sharply anyone who would bring the false gospel of "freedom to sin" after salvation. This is exactly what the devil would teach to remove the witnesses of Christ from the culture.

When we became born again we were completely changed by Christ, this is a witness to the world around us that He has the power to change anyone who wants to be changed by Him.

Never remain silent when a "pretender" attempts to convince you it is alright to sin after salvation. They are lying against God and denying His power to change people.

Thankful for God's Promises to Us

I am thankful I have the promise of God to one day be in heaven with all my Spiritual brothers and sisters who are also watching for His return right now.

Titus 2:13 "Looking for the blessed hope and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Savior Jesus Christ".

All those who are watching and waiting for His return are full of joy and know that everything that happens on this earth has been prophesied and has a purpose as God is in control.

Titus 2:12-14 "…12 It instructs us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live sensible, upright, and godly lives in the present age, 13 as we await the blessed hope and glorious appearance of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ. 14 He gave Himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds."

There is no greater hope than the return of Christ for His bride. And, the promise that all of Israel will be saved during the tribulation. God will not forsake the nation and many will trust in Christ because of the miracles He is and will be doing there.

Look to Christ and all things will then make sense.

Reading the Bible in Context with the Help of the Holy Spirit

Please, brothers and sisters when you read the Bible do not leave out a word or two to make principles fit the culture. Read the words in the Bible every word and do not ignore some words and pay attention to others, say them all just as God said them.

Luke 17:4 In-Context

“If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. 4 Even if they sin against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying 'I repent,' you must forgive them.” 5 The apostles said to the Lord, “Increase our faith!”"

Rebuke them, if they say "I repent" then forgive them. Don't leave out the words "rebuke" or "I repent."

When God said not to judge others keep all the words in the context, here it is.

John 7:24 tells us, "Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment."

We are to judge and we are never to judge hypocritically meaning if we are doing the same things we judge others for we are sinning.

Matthew 7:1: "Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you".

There are many phrases modern Christians use that come from the Bible but are not Biblical because they are taken out of the context to make them say what God never said.

God said to judge according to His standard and not our cultural standard. He also told us to forgive the "way He forgives", that is when there is repentance.

Much of what we have been brainwashed to believe about forgiveness and judging comes from psychology which teaches us to do things according to our feelings rather than caring if what we do helps another person grow in holiness.

When we read the Bible we MUST use all the words written there not removing them from their context.

Acts 20:26-28 "…26 Therefore I testify to you this day that I am innocent of the blood of all men. 27 For I did not shrink back from declaring to you the whole will of God. 28 Keep watch over yourselves and the entire flock of which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers. Be shepherds of the church of God, which He purchased with His own blood.…"

Jeremiah 26:2

"This is what the LORD says: Stand in the courtyard of the house of the LORD and speak all the words I have commanded you to speak to all the cities of Judah who come to worship there. Do not omit a word."

Spiritual Safety is far more Important than Physical Healing

When God began to open my eyes because I asked Him to reveal all that I was taught that wasn't true, He began showing me things that most Christians believe and preach that were opposite of what Christ taught. Now that I see them I can never unsee them again.

Isaiah 42:7

"To open the blind eyes, to bring out the prisoners from the prison, and them that sit in darkness out of the prison house".

I am convinced these verses are speaking not only of physical experiences but are also pictures of Spiritual truths. Everything God tells us has Spiritual implications.

Christ said that born again believers would do greater things than He did. What could be greater than physically healing sick people, raising the dead and healing a withered hand? The greater thing that we will do is the spreading of the Gospel of Christ.

If we are informed with physical problems it does not compare to the wonder of passing from this world into heaven where we will not only be permanently healed but will also get new bodies that will never be sick again.

There is no greater blessing than trusting in Christ and realizing our citizenship is in heaven, where we will go when we leave behind this world full of its evils.

When we are born again we no longer look to this world, to being healed in our bodies and living a good life here, our focus is on Christ. He goes through with us in everything and we remain faithful to Him no matter the trials we must endure.

James 1:12

"Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him."

1 Peter 5:10

"And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you."

Romans 12:12

"Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. "

James 1:2-8

"Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind."

Forgiveness is not for the Unrepentant Heart

Forgiveness is not for the unrepentant but for those who confess their wrong and desire to do differently. God said;

Luke 17:3-4 "3Watch yourselves. If your brother sins, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. 4Even if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times returns to say, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him.”…"

There is a good reason God requires confession and forgiveness, two sides of the same coin, both must be present. The purpose is for a relationship to be restored and for the offender to change his behavior.

If we only "say", "I forgive" without any confession of the offense, then we are selfish and unlikely to remain in a relationship in which the offender doesn't think they did anything wrong.

There must be restoration for the relationship to become even stronger. To say we forgive but the relationship remains broken then nothing has happened of value, merely words and feelings that fall to the ground without anything good coming from it.

If we love people we are willing to wait for the confession and then willing to forgive when it comes.

The whole idea of forgiveness God's way has been almost entirely lost in a culture that cares more about feeling special themselves than they are willing to do the hard work of accountability for the sake of restoration.

Feelings over substance has dominated our world causing the evil to grow and the one who requires accountability to be judged and maligned.

The perpetrator of sin is further empowered to continue in sin and even become worse as there is no responsibility to change and grow emotionally and spiritually. Because of this even the offended who say they forgive remain emotional and spiritual children pretending forgiveness without any good result.

No one is willing to do the hard work of requiring repentance, that is a change of mind leading to a change in behavior, so that everyone becomes better and the relationship is restored.

Relationships in our day are neglected in favor of momentary emotional feelings that have little if any value.

When we do things God's way we grow, the offender grows and relationships are restored or ended based on the response of the offender. It is not on us when a broken relationship cannot be mended because the offender is not sorry and even continues their offense.

We are not required to forgive those who refuse to admit their fault and we are not required to remain in a relationship in which an offender remains in their sin.

1 John 3:9 says, "No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God's seed remains in them".

No Greater Teacher than Jesus Christ

Transubstantiation is cannibalism of the heart. Those who have bought into the idea that the wafer host, body and blood of Christ in the Catholic teaching actually turns into the real body and blood of Christ have no Biblical evidence that this is the case.

The reason this church system calls the wafer for communion, "the host" is because they believe that substance is turned into Christ, it is hosting the body of Christ, in their own minds.

They use the scripture "this is my body and this is my blood" to justify the belief that the emblems they call the host, becomes the real body and blood of Christ. And, very sadly the priests are the ones who change the host into Christ by their incantations and prayers. They believe it is a miracle even though there is no evidence any miracle occurred. The "host" still looks like a little round wafer and it melts in ones mouth as food would. Those taking it believe it is a sin to chew the wafer. None of this has any basis in Scripture.

Christ said these things:

The Bible verse John 14:6 "I am the way (path, road), and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me"

We know Christ is not a road but He used this analogy to show which way we should all go, and that is to follow Him.

The Bible verse "I am the door" is John 10:9, which reads, "I am the door; if anyone enters by me, he will be saved and will go in and out and find pasture".

We know Christ is not a physical door, He is the Spiritual door to salvation.

1 John 10:11 "11 I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down His life for the sheep."

The analogy of being a Shepherd is one of a protector over His flock. Christ never was a shepherd of sheep but we are referred to as His sheep.

John 6:35: "I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me shall not hunger, and whoever believes in me shall never thirst"

We know Christ is not a loaf of bread, this analogy pertains to the most necessary activity of all as believers which is to feed our minds on His Word and meditate on His desires for us. WE also know that we continue to be hungry and thirsty as long as we are here on this earth in the flesh. Christ's analogy pertains to a Spiritual hunger and thirst after righteousness and His truth.

John 15:1 "1“I am the TRUE vine, and My Father is the keeper of the vineyard. "

We know Christ is not a literal vine but that He is the source of life for the branches, those who have been born again.

There are many other such statements in the Bible that use physical examples of Spiritual concepts.

God makes it clear in His Word when He is telling an event that happened or when He is using examples from life to demonstrate a spiritual principle. When we seek the Holy Spirit for the meaning and purpose of the Scriptures as we read we will see the difference.

It is astounding to me how many times I see people of any denomination or cultic religion use a portion of scripture as evidence of their belief system and leave out all the other evidence that proves their assertions wrong and even devilish to fool those who do not read their Bibles with the help of the Holy Spirit.

This is what happens when mankind ignores God and makes up their own doctrines influenced by the thoughts the devil places in their minds.

Sadly many Christian churches are doing this very thing with many of their doctrines passed down to them from traditions of men and will stick to them like gum on someone's shoe fearful that if they seek God they will be rejected by family and other church attendees. This is the reason there are more pretenders in the church than there are authentic believers.

Far too many things are done because of traditions of men and out of fear than they hold true to God's Word.

Mark 7:7-13

"7 And in vain do they worship Me,

Teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.’

8 Neglecting the commandment of God, you hold to the tradition of men.”

9 He was also saying to them, “You are experts at setting aside the commandment of God in order to keep your tradition.

10 For Moses said, ‘Honor your father and your mother’; and, ‘The one who speaks evil of father or mother, is certainly to be put to death’;

11 but you say, ‘If a person says to his father or his mother, whatever I have that would help you is Corban (that is, given to God),’

12 you no longer allow him to do anything for his father or his mother;

13 thereby invalidating the word of God by your tradition which you have handed down, and you do many things such as that.”

My advice to believers is to question everything you were taught, taking it to the Lord Jesus Christ with the willingness to reject everything you were taught that does not align with the Bible.

It is the Holy Spirit Who will tell the truth if you truly want to know. People will base their opinions on what they are familiar with and what makes them feel comfortable.

Christ will tell you the truth and you will be at peace when you are no longer in bondage to man's acceptance of you.

John 14:42-43 "42 Nevertheless, many of the leaders believed in Him; but because of the Pharisees they did not confess Him, for fear that they would be put out of the synagogue. 43 For they loved praise from men more than praise from God."

Do not be one who is in bondage to what man thinks or wants, free yourself by consulting with the Holy Spirit on all things all the time. There is no greater teacher than Jesus Christ.

The Only Way is Christ

Arguing with a Fool

Fable: DON'T ARGUE WITH “DONKEYS”

The donkey said to the tiger:

- "The grass is blue".

The tiger replied:

- "No, the grass is green."

The discussion heated up, and the two decided to submit him to arbitration, and for this they went before the lion, the King of the Jungle.

Already before reaching the forest clearing, where the lion was sitting on his throne, the donkey began to shout:

- "His Highness, is it true that the grass is blue?".

The lion replied:

- "True, the grass is blue."

The donkey hurried and continued:

- "The tiger disagrees with me and contradicts and annoys me, please punish him."

The king then declared:

- "The tiger will be punished with 5 years of silence."

The donkey jumped cheerfully and went on his way, content and repeating:

- "The Grass Is Blue"...

The tiger accepted his punishment, but before he asked the lion:

- "Your Majesty, why have you punished me?, after all, the grass is green."

The lion replied:

- "In fact, the grass is green."

The tiger asked:

- "So why are you punishing me?".

The lion replied:

- "That has nothing to do with the question of whether the grass is blue or green.

The punishment is because it is not possible for a brave and intelligent creature like you to waste time arguing with a donkey, and on top of that come and bother me with that question."

The worst waste of time is arguing with the fool and fanatic who does not care about truth or reality, but only the victory of his beliefs and illusions. Never waste time on arguments that don't make sense...

There are people who, no matter how much evidence and evidence we present to them, are not in the capacity to understand, and others are blinded by ego, hatred and resentment, and all they want is to be right even if they are not.

When ignorance screams, intelligence is silent. Your peace and quiet are worth more.

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