Imature Ways of Thinking According to Dr. David Hawkins

Imature ways of thinking: according to Dr. David Hawkins. His insights are correct on these things, well worth paying attention to.

 
1. All or nothing, black or white thinking. Others are always the problem in the relationship.
2. Entitlement Thinking: Expectations of special treatment. They are a cut above others. Attitude of superiority! Judgmental, demanding, and prosecutorial. (I added, never apologizing for anything)
3. Denying responsibility and externalizing blame.
4. Grandiose fantasies, Exaggerated sense of success and power.
5. Minimization of others, Dissmissiveness and neglectfulness of others, ( I added, excluding those who don't measure up to their idea of good enough.)
6. Emotional Reasoning: "If I feel neglected, I was neglected."
"If I feel hurt, so you did something wrong to me." "If I'm upset you did something to me." (I added, "if I feel embarrassed, you must have done something foolish.")
7. Projection: accusing others of what the narcissist is doing, but the others are not. (I added, they believe everyone else thinks like them, since they are acting this way, you must also be acting this way.)
8. Catastrophizing Criticism, over-the-top, exaggerated reactions to minor criticism. They can't handle any criticism at all on any level without defensiveness. They are easily and deeply wounded.
9. Selective memory, Playing dumb, or Gaslighting,
10. An assumption of malice, they assume ill motives when there were none. They assume we are acting in ways to try to hurt them. (I added, perhaps they know they are trying to hurt others, so they think others are doing it to them.)
11. Over-generalization, always and never are used about everything.
12. Inability to tolerate what they perceive as weakness, failure, and do not accept vulnerability. They will rarely, if ever, talk about how they were hurt for something wrong they did. They cannot admit flaws in themselves.

 
Narcissism is largely emotional immaturity.

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My personal thoughts:

 
These thinking errors are what drive attitudes and actions that affect relationships. When these things are not resolved, a relationship remains broken. Not only the relationship but the quality of the narcissist's joy and happiness is minimized if not destroyed.

 
Only Christ can change the character and bad habits of those who are trapped in narcissism. Unless Christ changes the character, a change is very likely not permanent. Even if some things are resolved, they will continually crop up from time to time because it was not Christ Who did the changing.

 
Psalm 127
"Unless the Lord Builds the House
A Song of Ascents. Of Solomon.
127 Unless the Lord builds the house,
those who build it labor in vain.
Unless the Lord watches over the city,
The watchman stays awake in vain."