Manipulative Language to Intimidate

The word "phoebes" as in "homophobe" is a narcissistic manipulation used to silence us when the perps don't like what we say or do. It is used for many things along with "don't judge" mantras, natural and deliberate ploys to create feelings of shame in us, when no shame is warranted.

When we know we have been informed by God about a matter, it is important to remember that the world will come against it the same way a child fights to avoid taking their castor oil, even though it is good for them to be healthy, they will do anything to get out of ingesting it.

In the case of worldly people, there is a natural and insatiable fight or flight response to any form of instruction or correction. The more right we are about something, the harder they fight. The world as a whole, at the present time, is in a state of complete and volatile rebellion against anything that smacks of rules, standards and limits on anything they want to do or be.

There is no reason to believe we will not encounter this rebellion in every area of our lives, the work place, the mall, spouses, extended family and everyone else. As the 2 Timothy 3 scenario plays out, and we are in the middle of the throws of it, we will see an unstoppable increase in this state of affairs.

The exciting element of all this mess is knowing we are born again, waiting for the return of Jesus Christ, not unaware of the prophetic nature of what we encounter. There need be no surprises when we know the Word of God, therefore all the nastiness that is thrown at us is not only expected but we also have the power to diminish its' effect on us through the working of the Holy Spirit.

We don't have to be like the world, we don't have to buy into their relentless emotional and verbal attacks on us, we can slide through with confidence that Christ will give us all we need when we need it.

Ephesians 6:12 "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."

We have no reason to be fearful of the sorry little elf’s who come to diminish and demolish us through their devilish tactics, they are nothing more than pawns in the hands of an evil father, their father....the devil.

Ephesians 1:15-23 "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."

Next time we encounter the trolls sent by the devil to harm us, perhaps we could remember that they are not the ones we fight against, it is their father and his minions we battle and we do that in prayer, fighting the tactics with God's principles as outlined in the word.

2 Timothy 3 tells us to get away if we should, guided by the Holy Spirit as to when.

Luke 6:28 and Romans 12:14 tells us to bless those who curse us when we must be in contact with them.

2 Corinthians 6:17 tells us to limit contact with those who are rebellious as led by the Holy Spirit.

Romans 12:19 tells us to never take revenge, leave that to God.

When we obey God, seek Him for His wisdom, we will be led by Him as situations arise, we don't have to figure out ahead of time what to do, we just need to know His Word and His heart, which will guide us in every situation. 

May the Holy Spirit be your guide in all things all the time!

The Face of Narcissism

If you want to see the ultimate face of narcissism, take a good look at our president, he really believes he knows everything, everyone else knows nothing and the voting public are unnecessary illiterate peons.

 

It is hard to remain friends with or listen to, someone who thinks they are superior, when there has been no evidence to show they actually are exceptional.

 

When is the last time you spoke to someone twenty years younger than yourself who thought they should lecture ...you on things they have never experienced or even seen? It is exasperating at best, their arrogant attitude is not conducive to a quality conversation.

When we are being "talked at" rather than "visited with", there remains no sense of reciprocal respect. My response when I encounter this is a tactical retreat to somewhere else. There is no point in attempting to be friends with someone who hold us in so little regard.

A friendship is based on mutual love and respect, when there is one side that has nothing but contempt for the other, then there is nothing of value to hold onto in the relationship, time to gracefully move on to others who understand basic empathy, kindness and love.

Proverbs 18:24 "A man of too many friends comes to ruin, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother."

Christ is our friend, the perfect example of a friend!

 John 15:15 ""No longer do I call you slaves, for the slave does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I have heard from My Father I have made known to you."

Proverbs 13:20 "He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm."

A person who thinks they know everything learns very little and almost nothing about relationships because they are too busy elevating themselves.

 

Proverbs 22:24-25 "Do not associate with a man given to anger; Or go with a hot-tempered man, Or you will learn his ways And find a snare for yourself."

John 15:13 ""Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends."

 

Dying physically for a friend is only one way to lay down ones life, the other way is to be there for the friend, weeping with them when they weep and laughing with them when they laugh. Next time you are with a person who has contempt for you, notice they cannot bring themselves to laugh with you, nor can they weep with you. Laughing and weeping are seen as weaknesses to those who are superior, and yet God commands us to have this kind of kindred spirit with brothers and sisters in the Lord. We are to be connected by Christ, sensing in our soul the things others are experiencing in their souls.

 

Romans 12:15 "Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep."

1 John 3:14 "We know that we have passed out of death into life, because we love the brethren. He who does not love abides in death."

 

Hebrews 13:1 "Let love of the brethren continue."

Narcissism Rears It's Ugly Head

This is just about as irrational as the conversations I have had over the years. No matter how much you try to get them to make sense of things, they just refuse. I run into this ultra-sensitive mentality all the time, the most innocent comments are turned into an offense that ruins the relationship. Christians even do this with the Word of God. LOL

The younger set have learned to be offended at any form of correction because it doesn't elevate them personally. They are irrational and easily enraged.

Take a look at the link and see where this irrational and narcissistic thinking takes us.

https://www.facebook.com/mrctv/videos/1035272086495839/?pnref=story

Slanderers Will Be Cut Off From God

Often those who are in narcissistic families, are at the mercy of the lies and triangulation of those who love to hate. They allow the devil to work on their minds to believe things that are not true and never has been true, but seem so vivid in the minds of those who have been convinced by the majority of the crowd.
 
Far too many people believe what they hear, after all it sounds so right, but in fact are assumptions based on ,little or no true information. Elevating se...lf is far more important to the narcissist than knowing and speaking truth. 

Notice that the narcissist resists any form of genuine communication, choosing to believe the lies is far more elevating for them than discovering truth that would dispel all their erroneous assumptions of their target.

Fear of being alienated by the rest of the family, drives them to believe what they are told, isolating the target while building on their false beliefs with insignificant and meaningless events, making them seem like evidence of what has been triangulated.
 
These same people who love to hate their target, speak against "gossip", while indulging in it themselves, calling it gossip to speak truth openly. One way to stop a believer from telling the truth is to proclaim everything that is "negative" as gossip, except when they are maligning their victim.
The narcissist doesn't want truth to be exposed, they live continually in a false self, appearance oriented realm, constantly fearful of being discovered for who they are, by anyone.

http://chalpari.com/watch/flhK0wdHvus/the-slandering-narcissist.html

Repentacne Requires Confession

The Face of Repentance: There is no profit for the man who will not confess their sin.

Proverbs 6:2-5

"2 If you have been snared with the words of your mouth,

Have been caught with the words of your mouth,

3 Do this then, my son, and deliver yourself;

Since you have come into the hand of your neighbor,

Go, humble yourself, and beseech your neighbor.

4 Give no sleep to your eyes, Nor slumber to your eyelids;

5 Deliver yourself like a gazelle from the hunter’s hand

And like a bird from the hand of the fowler."

Proverbs 6:16-19

"16 There are six things which the Lord hates,

Yes, seven which are an abomination to Him:

17 Haughty eyes, a lying tongue, And hands that shed innocent blood,

18 A heart that devises wicked plans, Feet that run rapidly to evil,

19 A false witness who utters lies, And one who spreads strife among brothers."

Proverbs 10:10

"He who winks the eye causes trouble, And a babbling fool will be ruined."

Proverbs 12:22

"Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, But those who deal faithfully are His delight."

Proverbs 16:30

"He who winks his eyes does so to devise perverse things; He who compresses his lips brings evil to pass."

Proverbs 16:2

"All the ways of a man are clean in his own sight, But the Lord weighs the motives."

Proverbs 19:9

"A false witness will not go unpunished And he who tells lies will perish."

Proverbs 17:15

"He who justifies the wicked and he who condemns the righteous,

Both of them alike are an abomination to the Lord."

Proverbs 21:8

"The way of a guilty man is crooked, But as for the pure, his conduct is upright."

Proverbs 28:13

"He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper,

But he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion."

Can a Narcissist Be Saved

An excellent article on the state of the narcissist.  http://www.luke173ministries.org/466808

Devils Use Their Mouths

Narcissists don't engage in real conversation of give and take to enjoy another person, their aim is to win, even when what they say doesn't make sense. Before they hear you out they are already forming in their mind the way they will refute you.  It isn't about refuting information, it is about negating the target.

2 Timothy 3:21-5, Luke 6:28!

Expressing an opposing viewpoint with a narcissists is the same as firing the first shot over the bow of a battleship.  Aggression is the only weapon in the arsenal of a narcissist. 

Someone who expects to be able to reason with a narcissist on any level at all, has not yet encountered one. There is no reasoning with a narcissist, they love to fight, while truth doesn't matter very much, only winning. They count themselves as having won when their target cowers away in tears and complete defeat.

Narcissists hate to be interrupted but are famous for talking so long the target can't seem to wedge in words to be able to enter the one sided conversation, if one could call it a conversation.  The tactic is to cause the target to become so frustrated they give up, affording the narcissists the victory by default.

The more covert narcissists use grunts and groans while you are speaking to indicate their complete disapproval of you as a person.  They feel a sense of power if they can make their victim feel insignificant and foolish.
 
While I don't understand why a "Christian" would act this way and have many times wondered if they were ever born again, I am quite sure that engaging with them is of little value at all.
 
The biggest challenge to the believer is to be able to discern the narcissist tactics to be able to assess whether or not they will continue the relationship.  There have been a few times in my life I have had to make the choice to remove myself from those who have only one thing in mind and that is to be more special than everyone else. 

Perhaps loving these people from afar is the best course of action.  We can pray for them, remain calm when we have to encounter them while making a hasty and polite get away when the opportunity arises.

Our goal as a believer is to grow in holiness, speak the truth in love and move on when we see the listener refuses us. 

Ephesians 4:15 and Matthew 10:14

May the Lord Jesus Christ through the Holy Spirit guide our every action in the midst of the battle against unseen spiritual entities.  We know that our fight isn't against people, it is against the devils that use the mouths of people. 

Ephesians 6:12