Misjudgments are almost always do to an unwillingness to speak to the one being judged. In every case where I lost a friend over a misunderstanding, it was because the person judging would not discuss the matter with me.
When we are able to discuss things, tell the whole story with our reasons, we can usually dispel any wrong interpretation of a matter.
Proverbs 18:13 "He who gives an answer before he hears, It is folly and shame to him."
When there is unwillingness to resolve a misunderstanding or get to the truth, then there is the evil desire to believe what is wrong, knowing that if you allowed the victim to explain things, you might not be angry and it may even require an apology for believing the wrong things.
Proverbs 6:12 "A worthless person, a wicked man, is the one who walks with a perverse mouth,"
Proverbs 10:6 "Blessings are on the head of the righteous, but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence."
Proverbs 10:18 "He who conceals hatred has lying lips, and he who spreads slander is a fool."
Proverbs 10:32 "The lips of the righteous bring forth what is acceptable, but the mouth of the wicked what is perverted."
Proverbs 12:1 "Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is stupid."
Those who love Christ desire to believe the best, with that desire comes a compulsion to hear the other side of the story from what we heard or thought we saw, to be able to discern truth by having all the facts, not just one side and not just our limited view.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 "4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
Most people these days do not want to "work out" problems, they prefer to elevate themselves by devaluing their victim through avoidance of discussion that might clear things up.
If we have the love of Christ, we desire deeply to clear up misunderstandings and we never hear gossip without checking out the source and the victim. If the source of the gossip is one who is always making trouble, then we can dismiss the gossip without any action, knowing this person does not love and does not care about truth.
Proverbs 12:13 "An evil man is ensnared by the transgressions of his lips, but the righteous will escape from trouble."
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