Don't Laugh at Funerals

I try not to laugh at funerals, tends to make people upset.

Although I remember one that would have been hard not to laugh at.

Many years ago I was a part of a bowling team. Two other ladies on my team came to bowling all upset about their aunts funeral.

I said I was sorry for their loss. They said they weren't sad about their aunt passing, she was old and it was time, there was something else that upset the whole congregation.

The daughter of the deceased woman placed her mother in the casket in a sitting position with knitting needles in her hands and yarn in her lap.

She wanted people to remember her doing what she did when she was alive. The attending relatives were beside themselves with disgust and anger.

As my friends were sharing the story with me, I couldn't help it, I let out a laugh that just would not keep itself inside. They looked at me puzzled and then began to smile themselves.

Yep, you guessed it, my friends who were kind hearted ladies thought the crowd was right in being angry so even though they thought it was funny too, they were reluctant to allow themselves to express it.

I agree that it was a tasteless and tactless way to position her mother, sort of ignorant really, without realizing that others may be offended by it, the daughter really did think it was sweet.

If it had been anyone that I knew, I know I would have seen humor in it. Mainly because the person isn't in that shell anyway, perhaps if the mother had been alive she would have laughed too.

We do need to be sensitive to those who are less free to tell the truth about their feelings. So often we act like we are grieving when in fact we really don't feel much at all, we think we have to feel a certain way to be proper.

Grief is real and we go through many forms of it over the years, I like to allow those who experience it do it their own way without expectations or judgments.

See, this is the problem with funerals when relatives never see someone for many years and show up to say goodbye, they often do not know the family at all really.

Had the relatives known the heart of the daughter they would have blessed her and even complimented her on the display of her mother sitting in that coffin!!! LOL, LOL!!!!

By the way, I don't care what happens to my body, I won't be in it! I will be with Christ and will not give one wit what people on earth are doing any more. I do my caring now, when I leave it's over for me here.