Friday, May 5, 2017

Haughtiness the Killer of Relationships

Haughtiness: exuding the appearance of being superior.

Isaiah 16:6 "We have heard of the pride of Moab, an excessive pride; Even of his arrogance, pride, and fury; His idle boasts are false."

Romans 12:16
"Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight."

When we see someone treating a "less intelligent or less educated" person with contempt, we are witnessing arrogance. Intelligence does not mean superiority, in fact it is wisdom that determines a man's wealth of intellect. Many haughty people display less wisdom than the very people they mock and demean.

Narcissists attempt to impress and exude charm, when in the presence of those above them, but treat with contempt and disdain those they perceive to be beneath them.

If you are being treated with contempt and dismissiveness then you are seeing how the narcissist feels about you, you are, in their minds, beneath them, not worthy of kindness and consideration.

The actions of the narcissists tell you their attitude toward you, they don't have to speak a word, you will know by their conduct, lack of manners and kindness are always present for those who are lesser than in the mind of the narcissist.

Covert narcissists will be sure to do this in secret to their target when no one is looking, and even deny it when confronted to maintain their false persona in the presence of those they wish to impress.

Two things, pray that the Lord show us our blind spots to discover what may be in us that is displeasing to God and secondly, pray that the Lord will help us to learn how to respond when faced with malicious cruelty.

Christ was treated shamefully, mocked, tortured and demeaned even though all He ever did was good, total and complete sacrifice for those who hated Him, and yet He went to the cross anyway.

He left the presence of those who rejected Him and went on to die for them, leaving their final response to God the Father. We can take a lesson from this. We can move on from those who have rejected us, never allowing that rejection to make us timid or relent from continuing on with new people.

Rejection is common, continual and the life God has for us, let our trials not be because we have sinned, fallen into the trap of the narcissist to respond ourselves in a narcissistic way.

Matthew 5:9-11 "…9 Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God. 10 Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 11 Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me.…"

Galatians 6:8-10 "8 The one who sows to please his flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; but the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. 9 Let us not grow weary in well-doing, for in due time we will reap a harvest, if we do not give up. 10 Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to the family of faith.…"

1 Peter 3:16-18 "…16 keeping a clear conscience, so that those who slander you will be put to shame by your good behavior in Christ. 17 For it is better, if it is God’s will, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil. 18 For Christ also suffered for sins once for all, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God. He was put to death in the body, but made alive in the spirit,…"

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