The most wicked form of gossip is when we tell information privately about the things we have encountered with others and the gossip goes to those people with that information.
Sadly the gossip never relays the information in the spirit it was given, they always make it mean and hateful so that the person they are talking to will hate you, even when you shared something innocently and without guile, they relay it as an attack against the hearers.
Anyone who tells you what others say about you is not your friend. You can count on the information being twisted in some way to make the shared information seem bad or evil.
Proverbs 16:27-29 "…27 A worthless man digs up evil, While his words are like scorching fire. 28 A perverse man spreads strife, And a slanderer separates intimate friends. 29 A man of violence entices his neighbor And leads him in a way that is not good.…"
It is one thing to share what happened to you, it is quite another to share what others have said to you about others. That is moving into the realm of gossip.
If you do not like being gossiped about, then don't gossip yourself. Our personal encounters are one thing, but the encounters of others is their business.
There are far too many wrong judgments made by those who have heard things second hand, they almost never go to the person who made the statements they are angry about. In most cases they just believe the worst about the statements, as if the statements are accurate and treat their target with contempt because of the gossip they believed.
There is a gossip in our family who digs for information and then relays that information to those people they think will be angered by it to cause division. The gossip is a narcissist, he asks questions, skews the conversation when visiting with others and the others have elevated him to the position of "special", so they believe every thing they say.
Get away from the gossip, it is better for him to make up a lie than pass on a half truth.
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