Blanket statements and generalizations are the accusations of toxic people because they know they don't really have anything against you except that you won't be like them.
I have never met a toxic person who starts a fight that ever brings details to prove their point. First they generalize, then they accuse and then attack. There are no specifics, they are merely in a war with you because of their jealousy or hope to be superior to you.
When we walk according to our own convictions, refusing to bow to the standards of others we will be a target for the toxic person.
The standards of the believer are based on the Holy Word of God and His principles. The toxic person hates this, they want to be our god. When they see that we have another God, that contradicts their ideas of goodness, they are enraged, seeking to do whatever it takes to devalue us, not only in our own eyes but in the eyes of others too, as they gossip, tell half truths and even out and out lies to cause division and isolate us from others who might otherwise love us.
The toxic person can't stand that others love us, they must do something to ruin that love by their whispers and distortions.
These self exalted toxic persons put labels on you, again without specifics. Because you will not bow to their perspective they will call you "rebellious" or "stubborn." Even telling others who might love you that you are these things, to cause those who might love you to question your character.
Sadly anyone who believes them is not acting in love and may have to be avoided too. A wise man believes what he sees for himself.
These relationship destroyers will operated often from the standpoint of assumptions and feelings rather than facts. They choose to believe things about us because of their intense dislike for us, and then pass those assumptions on as facts, to others, again without specifics and evidence to back up their assertions.
Since we know that the Lord is all about love and justice, it is difficult to see these toxic people as born again, they lack justice and love. Many of their desired beliefs about us are irrational and contrived. The question ought to be "why do they want to dislike us."
We know who the father of all this monstrous chaos is, yes...it's the devil himself. The devil is using people full of rebellion, contempt and jealousy to come against those who love Christ.
When we attempt to have a conversation about anything that is bothering us that was done to us, we are told we are "too sensitive", or that they didn't say or do what you know they did. Denial is a big part of the narcissists life, they will always pull this one out of the rabbits hat whenever it is needed. It is called "gaslighting", an attempt is made to make us look silly or crazy to deflect them from any responsibility.
The toxic person will never address the real issue, it will always degenerate into accusations unrelated to the problem or an attack of character.
Toxic people presume to know what others are thinking so they feel no need to listen. Unfortunately they are basing their assessment of what you are thinking on the way they think, not on how you think, they won't listen long enough to know how you think.
A toxic person lies frequently so they will believe others are lying to them. They twist facts so they accuse others of twisting facts. The trademark of the toxic person is to "get you before you get them", because they are always out to win in any discourse, they will attack quickly to have the upper hand. Since their mentality is always in attack mode, they will assume you want to attack them even for the slightest and mildest questioning or statements to discuss anything.
Toxic people do not want to discuss anything, they think they know everything, even what you are thinking or planning so they refuse to allow their target to have their say or explain their own thinking. Assumptions are a big factor in the heart of the toxic person.
It is a blessing to learn what evil looks like and how it operates. Keeping in mind that the one who is toxic is a pawn in the hands of the devil, we can avoid the trap of the devil. He is continually whispering in the ears and hearts of those who have no defense against him. Every day he is building up lies and assumptions within those who are full of deceit.
When we know what we are dealing with we can use the weapons of spiritual warfare, prayer, silence and removing ourselves so as not to be guilty of the same things the toxic person is guilty of, that is fighting to win in an argument that turns irrational.
Ephesians 5:11-13 "…11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you can make your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this world's darkness, and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13 Therefore take up the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you will be able to stand your ground, and having done everything, to stand.…"
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