For an entire group of people, whether church, school or family, who places undo pressure on others to think like they think is the definition of "group think".
Born again believer are called to walk in the power of the Holy Spirit. When we do this we will be unpopular. Most people have their own idea of what they like to be right, but is in fact defiance toward God.
When we stand for the principles of God in spite of what others are pressuring us to do and believe, we will be hated. Those who "group think" cannot tolerate anyone who doesn't think they way the group demands.
Flying monkeys do very little thinking on their own. They continually look to the group to see what will be acceptable to everyone else and proceed from there.
What is on the inside of the narcissist is inconsistent because it is based on feelings and group think. Their inside can never be harmonious with their outside. There is much hypocrisy going on all the time. With one person they will be one way but with the group they will be another way. They contradict themselves a lot.
I once told a facebook friend I prefer that she not come to contradict what I was teaching on facebook. She agreed not to do it anymore. Then I commented on one of her posts on her facebook, not in contradiction but to add more clarity to the post. She came back to me to ask me not to contradict her on her facebook. I agreed not to comment anymore. The reason I agreed not to comment at all is because what I wrote was not contradictory just adding too the understanding.
Because I asked her not to contradict me, she interpreted anything I would write in comments to her as "contradicting" her.
Then a few posts later this woman came back to contradict me on one of my posts and I deleted her comment. She then blocked me for deleting her comment. You see, I am convinced she wanted to control my facebook, influencing people not to believe me and could not tolerate that I placed a boundary. That boundary was that she could comment as long as it did not contradict me. She hated that I placed a boundary and had to find a way to make me the mean one.
I am so familiar with this tactic it was clear to me what was happening. Narcissists must feel like the one in control, the smarter one, the superior one. When they cannot be that with others then they must eliminate the one who dares to be themselves.
I block people too for being rude or arrogant. However I don't usually do it unless I see that someone is deliberately violating my boundaries and rules. I have had interesting disagreements on my facebook, even good discussion, but some things I cannot compromise on because God has clearly shown me the truth about those things. I tend to write about what God has shown me, not very often on things I am not sure about.
Asking good questions to find out the answer is not the same as asking a question or making a comment to provoke them in some way. I recognize when there is a trap developing as apposed to an honest question or comment.
I appreciate all of you who discuss calmly without personal attacks. When the insults begin to fly we know someone is not seeking truth they are merely wanting to fight to win.
Proverbs 10:18 "He who conceals hatred has lying lips, And he who spreads slander is a fool."
Proverbs 12:15-25
15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes,
But a wise man is he who listens to counsel.
16 A fool’s anger is known at once,
But a prudent man conceals dishonor.
17 He who speaks truth tells what is right,
But a false witness, deceit.
18 There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword,
But the tongue of the wise brings healing.
19 Truthful lips will be established forever,
But a lying tongue is only for a moment.
20 Deceit is in the heart of those who devise evil,
But counselors of peace have joy.
21 No harm befalls the righteous,
But the wicked are filled with trouble.
22 Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord,
But those who deal faithfully are His delight.
23 A prudent man conceals knowledge,
But the heart of fools proclaims folly.
24 The hand of the diligent will rule,
But the slack hand will be put to forced labor.
25 Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs it down,
But a good word makes it glad.
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