The Family Mobbing

Parents were given the job of raising their children. After the children are raised they are to go out and make their own lives. These children are not to come back to parents and begin to dictate to their parents about anything.

If an adult child has decided they want to help their parent in their elders years, they must consider the parents desires and honor them by considering their situation and desires. Any adult child who attempts to control the parents are disrespectful and dishonoring.

I have met many people who think because someone is old they can be bossed as if they were small children. This is disrespectful and dishonoring.

I heard it from "The Royal We" that families are often turned into gangs. Extended family tends to dominate over the individuals in the family even after they had left the home. They place pressure on extended family to do things the way the "family" wants it done. To think the way the family does, to say the things the family says and to act the way the family does. This is a cult!!!!

Often the extended family place pressure on grown family members to do things the way that family decides, even show up at every family event as though it were an obligation.

God made it clear that the family of the Believer in Christ are those who love Christ. We have no obligation to maintain relationships with those who act badly, not matter whether they claim to be Christians or not.

Matthew 12:46-50
Changed Relationships
46 While He was still speaking to the crowds, behold, His mother and brothers were standing outside, seeking to speak to Him.
47 Someone said to Him, “Behold, Your mother and Your brothers are standing outside seeking to speak to You.”
48 But Jesus answered the one who was telling Him and said, “Who is My mother and who are My brothers?”
49 And stretching out His hand toward His disciples, He said, “Behold My mother and My brothers!
50 For whoever does the will of My Father who is in heaven, he is My brother and sister and mother.”

It is wonderful when bio family are also believers in and followers of Christ. Sadly this is rare, most believers who love Christ have few if any bio family members who are supportive of their decision to follow Christ.

Even many families that claim Christianity do not follow the Bible and even become angry when the scripture is mentioned to support a point in a discussion.

When we find that we cannot discuss calmly and with love a matter of principle in the Bible, that is the time to politely exit and distance ourselves. When we remain with unsaved or superficially Christian family members we only find ourselves becoming more silent to appease those who will become angry.

When we see that there is no respect for us or our God, that is when it is time to move on to more healthy relationships.

I cannot tell you the joy the Lord floods back into our lives when we make the choice to follow Him even if no one else goes with us. We may be alone for a time, but eventually God brings others who love Him the way we do. What a joy it is when He finds these people for us. Hallelujah!!