My entire narcissistic family basically taught one another how to treat me as though I was completely stupid. I was analytical enough to think that something was off with them even though I felt bad that they didn't like me. I thought about things to discern what it was about me that was worthy of contempt. The fact that they treated me the same all the time no matter what I was doing made me realize that it couldn't be about me because even when I did nice things they mocked and demeaned it as though I did something wrong. Even when I was polite they acted embarrassed that I was foolish for being polite. I realized later that it was my empathetic kind way that upset them. When I finally realized this after many years of enduring the bad feelings I was able to see truth and no longer feel bad when they are rude. In fact they now avoid me because there is no sense in me that I have bought into their manipulation. They can no longer control my emotions so they aren't having fun anymore. LOL
I know there are many people who have encountered this! Sadly some who encounter this buy into the lies of the narcissist and actually become the person the narc says they are, even without realizing it. There are those who need to get stronger and not allow the narcissist to manipulate feelings and responses. I suggest that the goal of the narcissist is to goad their victims into becoming just like them, then they can scapegoat them. Scapegoating meaning the narcissist can point to their victim and accuse them of what the narc is doing because the narc poked at them until they responded badly.
Never allow the narcissist to control your feelings or your reactions!!! The best course is to avoid them entirely when possible, if not possible then to ignore them whenever they are acting the fool.
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