I hope the sisters will not be offended that I used their comments in this status. I did so without last names and for the purpose of comforting other rejected grandparents who cannot seem to find an answer for the reason for the rejection and isolation. Many of us have experienced this in these last days before Christ comes for us.
In one of the other threads on this site some of the Sisters discussed how they were being rejected by their children and even being isolated from grandchildren, without understanding why. Their children do not offer any explanation as to why they refuse to have anything to do with them, even though they pop in rarely to drop off their children for baby sitting but will not allow the grandparents to have them any other time.
Another Sister said this: "My daughter didn't want me to speak or touch my granddaughter. They lived with me. She made it clear I was nothing to them. I babysat few times when it suited my daughter. I was delighted to spend time with my granddaughter and spoke Jesus name even tho she didn't understand as she was only a baby. Praying for salvation for them both until they are saved by God and then thanking him."
Sister Sarah said this: "Yes oh Yes, 18 years praying for my children and grand children some of them I do not know as there parents kept them away from me,
I will pray for them till my dying breath. To repent and be born again.Even if they never want me in there lives again. my prayer is for there Salvation ..
The gospel seeds have been sewn all I can do is Pray they are all in His hands now I gave Jesus my broken heart many years ago."
My response to these ladies is in the following statements:
"These are "difficult" and "ragingly insane times" as described in the Bible. Those of us who were raised in a culture that revered still the elderly have a sense of being robbed of our grandparent status by selfish and arrogant children. However, and this is a big however, we know that we are living in exciting times when Christ will come and take us away soon. Our main focus must be Christ. Our children and grandchildren can not rise above Him. I notice something when I read God's Word. The apostles and even Jesus Christ our Lord did not mention family members in their lives. Christ spoke of His family as being the church, those who love Him."
I want to add to this statement that the devil wants you to believe you are at fault for the angst in your children's heart toward you. The truth is that in these last days children have become vindictive using judgmental attitudes to make you believe you are the evil one. They hate rules and standards, love "self esteem" and are angry at anyone who loves the Lord.
Not only will you be rejected by your own children you will be hated by their spouses who have listened to their half truths. The children infect their spouses and their children to believe their parents were evil when there is no testimony of significance against them except the normal family struggles.
Also lets remember that these adult children who foster hate in their spouses and children cannot be very pleasant people to live with. Their lives are miserable on many levels. They pretend to be the perfect parent with the perfect marriage but we know that no one who treats their parents with such contempt can possibly have good relationships with anyone else either.
Remember our basic character does not change based on who we are with, we have the same character everywhere we go. Those who live with these hateful and vengeful types are experiencing the animosity every day of their lives. The only way angry people can be appeased is to do everything their way, elevate them as special by never disagreeing with them on anything. These people are easily angered and do not hesitate to exact revenge on anyone who walks by their own standards.
The goal of the revenge in this generation is to cause anger in us. If we begin to beg and shout to get them to listen they will count themselves as having won and as being superior. Never mind that they caused the frustration and refused to consider the needs or thoughts of the person they demeaned.
Bottom Line: When you have done your best to resolve a problem and those involved refused to act in a civil manner there is nothing left to do but move on to become a blessing to others who are humble, gentle and loving.
We will know the heart and character of a person by their response to our concerns.
1 Corinthians 13 1
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."
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