Please, parents, stop complaining about the bullying and rancid education of the public schools where your children attend, just get them out of those miserable public schools where bullying and lack of love happens every single day for several hours.
Those government places are ruining many children. They are teaching children how to be rebellious and how to bully by not disciplining the bullies.
When a teacher disciplines both the bully and the victim who fights back, they are unjust and enabling the bully.
Those who do nothing to stop the bully permanently are enabling him to continue. Blaming the victim of wrongdoing for fighting back is teaching the child to fight since no one is protecting him.
There is much that is taught by virtue of no training at all. It is called; "more is caught than taught." Parents teach more by example than they do by words. When children see the parent bullying others with their words the children will learn to bully with words. It works this way in extended family structure too.
When extended family, nieces and nephews, even grandchildren watch their parent showing contempt for a bullied family member they will think that person deserves it, even without evidence, and will learn to do the same thing. When this happens it is called, "family mobbings."
Children will learn all the covert forms of bullying by watching how it is done. If a parent deliberately ignores a family member, the children will do the same. When a parent rolls their eyes in contempt at everything a family member does, the children learn this too. When a parent is snappish with a particular extended family member the rest of the family will learn to be snappish with this one person too. No one really needs a reason they simply follow the narcissist's thinking he must have a good reason. Those who are flying monkeys, that is unthinking people who follow someone simply because that person appears to be the self-appointed leader, they do this without reasoning or evidence.
A lemming is a small rodent type animal who runs into the sea to die when they become overpopulated. When they become overpopulated some break off looking for new territory, they can swim but they will attempt to cross large bodies of water, unable to do it they drown.
This is the "lemming principle", meaning when the first lemming begins to run into the sea all the rest of them follow simply because all the other lemming are doing it. They move in mass, no one lemming thinks for themselves.
Don't be a lemming, evaluate all that is said and done and determine for yourself if the attitudes you are observing are justified. Much of what the narcissist does is not justified, they live on drama and feelings mostly without considering others.
If we have our own boundaries and truths, the narcissist will hate this and attempt to deter us from them. If the narcissist cannot control us through mocking, intimidation, and manipulation, they will attempt to get others to badger us with them. The narcissists believe that if enough pressure is placed on the target they will give up their principles and lifestyle to follow them.
Galatians 4:17 " 17Those people are zealous for you, but not in a good way. Instead, they want to isolate you from us, so that you will be zealous for them. "
The narcissist wishes to isolate us from anyone who will love and validate us for Christ. They cannot tolerate those who are zealous for Christ, nor can they stand to see their target or enemy in their own mind, growing Spiritually and emotionally, or any other way. They wish us to remain as they are, beggarly, weak, and self-absorbed.
Only the self-absorbed need other people to have a sense of purpose. Those who are confident in Christ need only to be connected to Him Who gives them purpose and direction. We love our brothers and sisters in the Lord but we are not dependent on anyone for our hope and our destination. Christ is all that to us, no matter what anyone else is doing.
We are not like the lemmings that follow one another into the sea without thinking only to their own demise.
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