Friday, January 29, 2021

Gaslighting is Increasing

As the world grows darker and more wicked we will see gaslighting increase, many people use it regularly.

It is emotional abuse and those who do it should be avoided. These people are beyond disrespectful without love and honor.

Some of the tactics of those who gaslight others are as follows:
Lying
Discrediting you through gossip
Blaming you and others for their own behavior
Trivialize your feelings, thoughts, actions, and successes
Accusing others of what the gaslighter is doing and the others are not.
Changing the recollections of conversations, very different from what was actually said.
When shown proof the gaslighter was wrong they continue to deny it anyway even with proof.
Gaslighters remain silent when confronted with their own behavior when they cannot come up with a good lie to refute it.
The purpose of the gaslighting is to cause the target to become insecure and insignificant. Why? Because the gaslighter is very insecure and must feel superior at all times. They do this only to those they are jealous of and they believe is beneath them, or more accurately they want their target to feel less than them.
These gaslighters attempt to make you look crazy through our reactions to their foolishness. The best thing to do is not to react, but even when you are calm they will accuse you anyway because they are liars.
I once had a very angry man accuse me of being angry when he was clearly the angry one. I calmly told him I disagreed with him. He sat in a chair, legs crossed, leg swinging, arms cross, and face turning red when out of his mouth came the words; "you seem angry."
When you encounter this more than once with the same person you can be sure this is a character flaw that is not going to go away. We cannot change their behavior by telling them or exposing them, because they deny everything they do.
However we can love them from afar and pray for God to work in them. However, we must also pray for ourselves to be strong enough not to react or retaliate toward those who act badly.
Telling the truth may be useful for others in the room who may observe what is going on, but often if you are alone you can choose not to respond when you are attacked verbally.
When we see these things happening, hopefully early on in the relationships, so that we can avoid contact with the gaslighter.
Kind loving people do not gaslight, they are truthful and honest as a lifestyle. Those who gaslight do it also as a lifestyle.
Romans 16:17-18 "17 Now I urge you, brothers, to watch out for those who create divisions and obstacles that are contrary to the teaching you have learned. Turn away from them. 18 For such people are not serving our Lord Christ, but their own appetites. By smooth talk and flattery, they deceive the hearts of the naive.…"
There are many ways for someone to be divisive, gaslighting is only one of them.

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