Sometimes narcissists are sincere at the time they promise something but because they are led almost entirely by their feelings in the moment, when their feelings change they will feel justified in purposely dropping the promise when they think they have a good enough reason and they do make up reasons that do not exist.
Since narcissists make promises in the moment to manipulate or make themselves feel good, they have nothing to guide them when they decide they don't feel good anymore. And, their feelings take priority over truth and righteousness. Since the promises are never about the good of the other person there is no sense of love in avoiding hurting someone else. The narcissist's own desires and needs always take priority over others.
We have all promised things and later wished we could renege on that promise, but if we have integrity we ignore our feelings and do the right thing in keeping our promise.
Deuteronomy 23:21-23
"If you make a vow to the Lord your God, you shall not delay fulfilling it, for the Lord your God will surely require it of you, and you will be guilty of sin. But if you refrain from vowing, you will not be guilty of sin. You shall be careful to do what has passed your lips, for you have voluntarily vowed to the Lord your God what you have promised with your mouth."
Numbers 30:2
"If a man vows a vow to the Lord, or swears an oath to bind himself by a pledge, he shall not break his word. He shall do according to all that proceeds out of his mouth."
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