Narcissists Never Learn While Becoming Cranky in their Old Age

Narcissists never learn, they don't change and grow because they have been stubborn all their lives. They are full of intense pride that has dominated them all their lives and they live in fear of letting go of that pride.

They cannot become born again because to trust in Christ they would have to admit their sinful nature and desire to be changed by Christ and they will never defer to anyone. They have been the pretenders in the church who seem to drift away from spirituality as they lose interest in pretending to be something they are not.

Narcissists become more cranky in their old age because they have depended all their lives on their appearance, their agility and ability to play at adventures but as they age they can no longer do these things. Those who used to find them fascinating are moving away from them, they are often left alone without genuine companions.

Humble older people who have aged gracefully can admit their frailties and even laugh about them. But the narcissist must pretend they are still strong and still healthy and still good-looking in their appearance. They never drop the belief that they are what they were when they are young, but in their heart of hearts they know they are not and are angry about it.

It is also the reason narcissists cannot be around old people or sick people, it reminds them of their own frailties, they are the most uncomfortable with anyone who has illness and expresses their plight.

They become jealous of those who are still young, they have burned through all the relationships in their age group so they surround themselves with younger people to make themselves feel young.

I have seen this many times in my life, the continued downward spiral into an angry spirit as the narcissists are weakening in every aspect of their existence, but will not admit it to anyone.

It is important that we never allow the devil to delude us into believing remaining youthful is the most important thing in our life. When we age gracefully we accept our condition and learn to lean into God's will for us.

Aging for the born-again believer, even with all its difficulties, maintain our joy because for us when this life is over we will be with Christ and in paradise with our brothers and sisters in Christ. This life is merely a training ground for us and our death is our salvation.

1 Corinthians 15:55-58

“O death, where is your victory? O death, where is your sting?” The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ."

Death is a blessing for born-again believers and remaining youthful seems more like a curse than a blessing. Those who have walked with Christ know that there is nothing back there in our youth that we would want, we have come too far in our Spiritual and emotional growth that we could never go back to that old self.