Keepers of Our Homes

We are keepers of our own homes, it is our job to make sure that evil does not come to live in our dwelling! If there are adult children who refuse to obey the standards of the household, they must leave so that God's peace can return.

We have to remember we are not responsible for the safety or physical needs of adult children, they must carry their own weight in respectfulness, or they may not partake of the blessing of the home.

Psalm 101:7
"7 He who practices deceit shall not dwell within my house;
He who speaks falsehood shall not maintain his position before me."

Romans 16:17-18
"17 Now I urge you, brethren, keep your eye on those who cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching which you learned, and turn away from them.
18 For such men are slaves, not of our Lord Christ but of their own appetites; and by their smooth and flattering speech they deceive the hearts of the unsuspecting."

I have no tolerance for whining, lazy, disrespectful adult children who are not only selfish but ungrateful. In order for them to learn a proper attitude they need to support themselves in the world where they will experience buffeting as their training. If they have straightened their life and have learned their lesson out in the world, it is a mistake to take them back, they could backslide, after all, when things are too easy, they will tend to sit back and let things ride.

If rebellious adult children have not learned our standards by the time they are adults, then they won't learn it by remaining in our home, God will have to teach them somewhere else.

2 Timothy 3:2-5
"2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, [a]haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these."

Some adult children will pour on the charm to work their way back into the home where they think they can ride freely again. There is no reason to let this happen, if they have proven themselves to be responsible they will take care of themselves in their own place and come and visit their parents for a few hours and leave again to go home.

The Biblical model of the family is for the adult children to care for their aging parents if necessary, never is there any mandate for aging parents to care for their adult children. Our culture has this backward in this age of entitlement.

Of course there are exceptions to this rule, that might be necessary. If something happens not of our adult child's own making, a terrible accident on the job, a car wreck, a flood that takes their home and other calamities that were not their own fault, are exceptions to this, but the attitudes of respect and compliance to the household boundaries still apply. A responsible child will listen to their parents while living in their home, respecting all the boundaries while being an asset to the household by helping out when ever possible.

The adult child who is respectful, loving and hard working can be a joy in the house. Sadly this is not the norm these days and some elderly people need the permission to expel their lazy good for nothing adult children.