She's My Better Half

Gary Gavriel Dawson said this, it makes very good sense to me, something that God has been showing me for years.

"Actually in Judaism a woman is half of the whole man. Much more than just a helper. Where do you think the term, SHE'S MY BETTER HALF actually came from originally? It was from a religious Jew. Jews teach that Adam was a Hermaphrodite and was split into two by the LORD: man and woman. I just thought you Christians should know."

I have been persecuted by Christians for speaking to men about God, even saying that when a husband does not obey God we are to correct him and refuse to disobey God, even appealing to the husband to return to obedience to God when he strays. If we love our husbands, we will want them to be the best person they can be before God, the same is true if a man loves his wife, he will do the same.

Acts 5:29 "29 But Peter and the other apostles replied, “We must obey God rather than men."

Romans 16:17 "Now I urge you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and obstacles that are contrary to the teaching you have learned. Turn away from them."

Proverbs 28:4-6 "…4 Those who forsake the law praise the wicked, But those who keep the law strive with them. 5 Evil men do not understand justice, But those who seek the LORD understand all things. 6 Better is the poor who walks in his integrity Than he who is crooked though he be rich.…"

We are to honor and obey our husbands everywhere we can, except when they disobey or dishonor Christ. Then we are to correct them and do what we need to in order to obey God ourselves, all the while praying for disobedient husbands. We are never to repay evil for evil nor do revenge.

There are those who would say to decline to obey a husband who disobeys God, is sin for the wife who is dedicated to Christ. They would say that she does not love her husband. The Bible teaches the opposite of this, God says that to obey Christ is to love those who disobey. By obeying Christ we set an example to those who walk sinfully while remaining obedient to God ourselves. If we love our husbands we HELP them in all areas including and especially their spiritual life.

1 John 5:2-4 "…2 By this we know that we love the children of God: when we love God and keep His commandments. 3 For this is the love of God, that we keep His commandments. And His commandments are not burdensome, 4 because everyone born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world: our faith.…"

It is entirely possible that those women who blindly obey their husband by going out to the bar with them, or attending wicked events or watching filthy pornography films, are either enjoying those events themselves or they are playing the martyr.

If a woman allows her husband to do wicked things without challenge, she is more concerned about elevating herself as the "perfectly obedient" wife than she is concerned about the well-being of her husband and her children. Appearances for her own glory has taken center stage over the welfare of those in her household. In short, she is self righteous, unconcerned about her family and her husband, while being overly prideful about her own goodness as she sees it, but not as God sees.

If we love our husbands we will be their helpmate in guiding them when needed. We are counselors for their good if we love Christ. Those who allow their husbands to make all the decisions whether good or bad are also allowing them to take the brunt of the blame when there is a failure. When we share in the decisions of our husband, no one is to blame, failures do not point to only one person who bares ALL the responsibility. The wife shares in the consequences of decisions, not only to the praise of the couple but also to the correction needed when things don't work out. We are to influence our husbands for righteousness.
There are woman who PRIDE themselves as loving their husbands because they basically say nothing, do nothing and are nothing, leaving all the hard decisions to their husbands so that they get to enjoy a life of freedom from any accountability or responsibility.

When we operate as a team in marriage we bare the consequences of decisions together, no one person takes all the heat for anything that does not go right. No one person in the relationship is burdened with the task of making all the decisions alone without counsel.

Marriage is a partnership of decision making and consequences. When one party in the marriage attempts to take over everything not allowing for the input of the other, it is not a marriage according to God, but a dictatorial narcissistic take over for the purpose of having everything their own way, while demeaning and devaluing their marriage partner.

It is important that we are not confronting every little detail of someone's life, such as a raised voice that doesn't happen often but is a reaction to an inconvenience when someone has a headache. What I am describing as sin that needs to be confronted is blatant continual sin that is damaging to the family and personally damaging to our spouse.

When husband and wife work together for the good of the marriage and the family, there is unity, resolution of problems and restoration when difficulties come. The bottom line in this is that a marriage that works together with mutual love and concern, will blossom, become very close and is unable to be affected by outside sources.

Never allow someone else to define your marriage for you. Each couple has different ways of relating to one another in the details. It's no one else's business.
Those who would attempt to interfere in our marriages must be removed from us, they can do more damage through their covert attempts at controlling emotions and spinning events to undermine what you are building.

Only allow in your lives, those who love you and your marriage, those who would encourage both of you in the way you have chosen to operate.

1 Peter 1:21-23 "21 Through Him you believe in God, who raised Him from the dead and glorified Him; and so your faith and hope are in God. 22 Since you have purified your souls by obedience to the truth, so that you have a genuine love for your brothers, love one another deeply, from a pure heart. 23 For you have been born again, not of perishable seed, but of imperishable, through the living and enduring word of God.…"