Yes, one of the tactics of the narcissist is to accuse others of what the narcissist is doing and the others are not. They make up in their mind what they want to believe about those for which they have contempt and over time they actually believe it.
The lies of the narcissist never stop in their own mind, they set out to convince others of these lies in order to have allies that align with them.
We see a lot of this in our interactions today. Many people make up stories in their own mind without strong evidence and judge the condition of someone else based on the machinations in their own mind.
When someone is rebellious they will make up ideas in their minds that fit with what they wish to believe about someone. They do not need evidence because their desire is so strong they can convince themselves, everything they see after that will be interpreted according to their desired beliefs.
One woman was accused by her son in law of never having engaged in anything productive outside her home and Sunday services at church.
This was so far from the truth it was laughable. This woman who was accused of having no influence or learning nothing in all her years had spoken on the radio, been on television, spoke at benevolent clubs and even in schools with messages of importance concerning the evil of pornography and abortion.
The son in law had not seen her doing these things because he was 10 years old living 3000 miles away when she was a young woman raising children as well as involvement in the community for twenty years.
His assessment of her was based on nothing more than his desired belief that she had done nothing significant in her life. This allowed him to dismiss her as nothing more than a foolish woman to be demeaned. In his desire to believe she was nothing more than a "house wife" allowed him to believe she lacked intelligence as well as boldness, the reason he felt justified in disrespecting her as much as he desired.
We know this is true because of all the people who are convinced that divorce and remarriage is acceptable. Other beliefs that are indicators of this is the transgender and homosexual movement.
Then there is the liberal medias pushing all the time to convince the public that our president Trump has been involved in some covert illegal activities. Whether or not this is true we cannot know, but the media presents it as though it is true without any evidence of it. They keep pushing and pushing to convince others of something for which they have no evidence, even fabricating evidence to pretend they have some. This is also a phenomena in personal relationships too. The devil uses the same tactics everywhere, messing with the mind of people according to their desires to turn them again people who have done no harm to them.
Many people in the church are convinced of things that are opposed to the Word of God. This also is growing in intensity and frequency.
We live in a culture that acts as though just saying something is tantamount to truth. They believe that speaking and believing is enough, truth has no place in a culture such as this.
When a culture bases what they believe on feelings and desires it is next to impossible to convince them of the truth. When a lie is told often enough to enough people soon no one can be convinced of anything different no matter how much evidence or proof.
We are now living in a culture of lies continually. Lying has been accepted as long as it make the hearer feel good, elevated and special.
I have come to the point in my life that I don't take seriously anything I did not see for myself. I will believe a trusted friend, but trusted friends are few and far between in our day.
I have actually witnessed a person pumping someone for information about others only to leave that person to go tell the others what was said about them, however, the information relayed was embellished to sound bad when it was not bad at all.
Those who would rush to tell gossip they heard about someone is not to be trusted with any information they say they hear.
I have to ask, "what kind of person would deliberately gather information hoping to rat out the person they are talking to, to the person they are talking about." Only a wicked person would do such a thing.
We all confide in friends who are loving and sympathetic, but it is folly to confide in self righteous people who love their gossip. Their only goal is to turn people against one another while appearing to remain friends on both sides.
Gossipers never listen to truth, they merely gather information to pass on with lavish amounts of embellishment to make the exchange exciting. It manages to elevate themselves, turn the hearer against the target as well as gaining the attentions of others who love the gossip.
There once was a man who declared to his parents that his sister was a bad parent even though he lived 2000 miles away, was never in her home and was not even talking to his sister in months and years. He wanted his parents to hate his sister so he gossiped things that were not true without any evidence. When the parents didn't believe him, he shouted at them in rage and never apologized for his evil gossip or actions. Believe it or not this man claimed to be a Christian having attended church all his life. His jealousy of the sister was blatantly clear but he never showed any remorse for his lies nor did he attempt to find out the truth.
Those who gossip and those who repeat a confidence are tools of the devil and must be avoided.
When we confide in a trusted friend something that happened to us personally is far different from gathering information to assume things that we never saw for ourselves.
The devil is the one who places evil thoughts in the minds of people and convinces them that what they are thinking is truth when it is monstrous and devastating. He loves to destroy relationships. We must avoid those who have no defense against the devil, whose heart is bent toward love of lies without evidence.
The good news is that we do not have to answer to the lies, we do not have to respond to anything said about us. Christ is our defender, He will fight our battles for us much more effectively than we ever could.
1 Peter 5:7-9 "…7 Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you. 8 Be sober-minded and alert. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 9 Resist him, standing firm in your faith and in the knowledge that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kinds of suffering.…"
Psalm 18 :1-3
The Lord Praised for Giving Deliverance.
18 “I love You, O Lord, my strength.”
2 The Lord is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer,
My God, my rock, in whom I take refuge;
My shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.
3 I call upon the Lord, who is worthy to be praised,
And I am saved from my enemies."
Hallelujah we have victory in Christ and we don't even have to battle, He battles on our behalf.
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