The Discipline Can Save A Marriage

This is just me, but if I had a husband who beat me the first time, he would feel the brunt of my discipline through a good thrashing, learning that I cannot allow him to hurt himself or me without consequences.

I knew of a woman who was being beaten by her husband every time he came home from the bars drunk. One night she was ready for him. He came in the house skunk drunk, she beat him until he submitted, took him to the hospital and told him that he could expect this every time he came home drunk. He stopped drinking and never hit her again. Now I call that love!!!! They were able to remain married and go on to begin to build that marriage.

If a husband reacts in anger and leaves then his refusal to stop the sin is on him.

There are many ways to handle situations in which a spouse who is sinning might be able to see their evil and learn not to remain in their sin.

I knew of another woman who was being beaten by her husband after his visits to the bar. This woman was a godly woman who believed deeply in the marriage covenant and would not divorce. One night she cried out in sorrow to God to protect her this time from her husband when he arrived at home. She went to bed, when he arrived home he did not beat her, he just slipped in beside her and went to sleep. The next morning she woke up and her husband was still beside her, only this time he was dead. The Lord took his life during the night because of his wickedness toward God's daughter. This lovely lady was now a widow and freely remarried a godly man who had never been married before. She did not attempt to change her husband, nor did she divorce, she simply prayed for protection and the Lord took care of it.

Sometimes we have to take drastic action when a loved one will not stop sinning and other times all we do is pray and God protects. The same thing is true of narcissists who will not stop emotionally punching on their victims. We can remove them from our lives and allow God to work on them if we are not married to them. If we are married to a narcissist we can learn ways to live with them in peace depending on God to take care of any drastic occurrences.

In the case of the drunken husband we cannot dissolve the marriage covenant therefore the most loving thing to do is discipline that wayward husband and pray he learn a lesson from it. Sometimes God tells us to do it and others times He does it Himself.