Gnashing of Teeth in Anger in Hell

Terrible trials is the only thing that will move a stubborn nation and probably that won't even do it.

The gnashing of teeth in hell is not from pain, the wailing is from the pain, but the gnashing of teeth is anger at God for casting them there. That's just how rebellious the wicked heart is, they remain angry even when God shows them who is Boss over them.

Our nation has become so stubborn that most people become angry, in the least they become indifferent to warnings about what is coming.

We are to keep warning, keep preaching and keep enduring, but the results belong to God. In these last days there will not be results, only continued anger.

We must pray for individuals and resolve to honor God in all our ways. Whatever happens after that is up to God.

Colossians 3:23-24
"23 Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men, 24 knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve."

When We Have Believed

When we have believed on Christ He then comes to live in us and change us into a new creation. Too many people believe they are going to become a Christian and change themselves by shear will power. They cannot!!!!!

Ephesians 2:10
"10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them."

Acts 1:8 "8 But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon you, and you will be My witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.”

Our power to live for Christ comes from the Holy Spirit, not from anything of our own being.

Narcissists are always Angry, We never know Why!

Narcissists are always angry at you but you never know why. Perhaps they know their anger is wrong but if they came to discuss it, it might resolve things and they hate resolutions to anything.

Narcissists believe we will be angry with them if they speak up honestly about their feelings because they are angry when we speak honestly and openly.

One of the tactics of the devil is to hide the truth to keep the drama and contention going. When someone is resistant to discussing a concern it is very likely they know what they have done and want to pretend they did nothing.

Those who have caused an offense and don't realize they did, are anxious to clear things up and reconcile a relationship.

Narcissists love their superior idea of themselves that resides in their own minds. There is too great a risk that they will have to admit something if they discuss a matter, therefore they avoid all honest communication with others.

Isaiah 32:6 "6 For the fool speaks folly,
and his heart is busy with iniquity,
to practice ungodliness,
to utter error concerning the Lord,
to leave the craving of the hungry unsatisfied,
and to deprive the thirsty of drink.

Proverbs 10:23 "23 Doing wrong is like a joke to a fool,
but wisdom is pleasure to a man of understanding."

Proverbs 18:2
"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion."

Proverbs 1:7
"The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."

Since a narcissist is a fool, they hate instruction. They hate anything that might lose them an argument. In the mind of the fool or the narcissist they must win the argument. It is far more important to win than to be correct.

I have seen the antics of the fool, the twisting of a conversation away from the issue at hand to utter silliness in the discourse. They actually believe their nonsensical verbiage is wise. Often these people use what is called "word salad", a lot of unrelated words strung together that have no meaning. The fools counts themselves wise if they have a few big words, it doesn't matter if their sentences make sense, only that they confuse and confound the hearer.

Proverbs 29:9
"If a wise man has an argument with a fool, the fool only rages and laughs, and there is no quiet."

Proverbs 14:7-9
"Leave the presence of a fool, for there you do not meet words of knowledge. The wisdom of the prudent is to discern his way, but the folly of fools is deceiving. Fools mock at the guilt offering, but the upright enjoy acceptance."

Knowing the Heart of God

Live With Discernment, Learn When to Say No

Narcissists invite you to the party so you can see them ignoring you. Don't feel obligated to attend. God told us to come out from among them and be separate. When we see that a group, whether family, church or in the community does not love our God, we have no obligation to be a part of their parties.

Seek God for the Burial

Paul said, "even if I give my body to be burned." There is no prohibition against cremation in the Bible, nor is there a command to be buried in a box in the ground. Jesus Christ was placed in a cave, there is also no command to be placed in a cave. This is one matter in which God gave us choices.

If we have great faith we don't have to worry about our body decomposing. All the bodies from 2000 years ago are gone. God told us we would begin from dust and end in dust, we can leave it up to Him how He puts us back together again when we die. Of course speaking to believers here.

So Your Sins Were not So Bad?

Have you ever met people who believe they were never bad? I met someone who proclaimed that his sins were not as bad as the sins of others. I had to laugh, no one is good before they are born again. Everyone who is not born again is going to hell, that's how bad their sinfulness is even if all they ever did was steal a pencil from a friend.

All sin is so evil that it cannot be in the presence of a Holy God. Even one small sin is enough to keep us out of heaven and into hell. It is not the one sin that is the problem, it is the sinfulness of the entire being that causes one to commit the one sin.

All the good deeds of unsaved people are as filthy rags to God. Everyone who is not born again do their good deeds to be elevated in their own eyes and the eyes of others, not to please God. God is not even a mention on the minds of unsaved people.

Those who think their sins were not as bad as the sins of others don't realize that sinfulness is in the heart even before there is an act. People who care deeply about impressing others can very effectively hide their evil, even through an entire lifetime.

This is why people are so shocked when someone does a heinous act against another human being when all their lives they lived exemplary in front of the community. Evil is in the heart before its ever an act.

It is hard to imagine that a born again believer who has been broken over his sinfulness would ever think his sins were not as bad as the sins of others.

This man was not only arrogant but often rude to others thinking that his rudeness was justified, even denying he was rude. There were also times when this man would claim his rudeness was just a joke and his offense should have been amusing.

There are more pretenders in the church gatherings today than there are authentic believers. We are seeing more people easily angered at the mention of truth than ever before. In the past non-believers had respect for Christians. Today we have "Christians" who are angry all the time at the suggestion that they might need to adjust their beliefs to match the Biblical principles.

I have had more people in the church angry at the mention of truth than non-believers.

2 Timothy 4:2-4 "…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths."

There are many myths floating around the church gatherings today, spurning God's Word to elevate self. We are truly in the last days. For us it is hope to see these things happening, but for the world who rejects Christ it is very bad news.

A Show of Respect

Respect is always needed with everyone. When someone chooses to treat one person with respect but not another, then that person is not a respectful person as a whole, they are merely putting on a show of respect to those they wish to impress.

When there is authentic respect it is toward everyone all the time, not selective.

An attitude of respect is not turned on and off based on who one is visiting. It is a character quality that respects people. It does not mean we do not have boundaries or that we tolerate evil.

Romans 12:10
'10 Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor."

Philippians 2:3
"3 Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;"

When we are regarding others as above ourselves we will never leave room for snarky and rude responses.

1 Peter 2:17
"17 Honor all people, love the brotherhood, fear God, honor the king."

John 13:34-35
"34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another.
35 By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”

There is no love in rude superior attitudes. The longer we are away from these responses the uglier they are when we encounter them again.

Lets not allow anyone to change us into a narcissist by beating them at their own game. Just don't play at all!!!!!

Do Not Despair, Everything Has a Purpose

When we know that God allowed everything in our lives, even the difficult things, for our training we can view them differently. I am convinced that everything we learn in this life will serve us in the Millennium when we rule with Christ. I cannot believe all we go through here is only for here. By the time we get to the end of our life we just go home and start all over again? NO! I believe what we learn here will serve us well when we rule with Christ. A sort of Spiritual boot camp.

Hebrews 12:11 "12:11 Now all discipline seems painful at the time, not joyful. But later it produces the fruit of peace and righteousness for those trained by it."

Hebrews 12:8 "12:8 But if you do not experience discipline, something all sons have shared in, then you are illegitimate and are not sons."

Philippians 1:6 "1:6 For I am sure of this very thing, that the one who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus."

1 Samuel 18:5 "On every mission on which Saul sent him, David achieved success. So Saul appointed him over the men of war. This pleased not only all the army, but also Saul’s servants."

God works very much the same now and in the next life the way He worked here on this earth. Everything we are trained for is not just for ourselves, but for service, here in this life but also in the Millennium. This is my opinion, if you can prove this wrong then I am interested in your thoughts.

I just can't believe that we go through this life as born again believers only to lose all the training we had here when we pass into the Millennium.

Revelation 20:4 "4 I saw thrones on which were seated those who had been given authority to judge. And I saw the souls of those who had been beheaded because of their testimony about Jesus and because of the word of God. They had not worshiped the beast or its image and had not received its mark on their foreheads or their hands. They came to life and reigned with Christ a thousand years."

Perhaps the earth will return to its state before the fall. Adam and Eve were given dominion over the earth.

(Genesis 1:28) "And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth” .

When this life is over those who loved Christ will be rewarded with power to rule nations.

(Luke 22:28-30) "You are those who have stayed with me in my trials, and I assign to you, as my Father assigned to me, a kingdom, that you may eat and drink at my table in my kingdom and sit on thrones judging the twelve tribes of Israel .

We will judge the angels:

1 Corinthians 6:2–3
2 Or do you not know that the saints will judge the world? And if the world is to be judged by you, are you incompetent to try trivial cases? 3 Do you not know that we are to judge angels? How much more, then, matters pertaining to this life!

This life is very short, whatever we must endure here is nothing more than boot camp for the best that is yet to come. Do not despair in your trials, keep focused on the lesson and the purpose. That purpose is to ultimately glorify God for all eternity.

Group Think

Group Think?

For an entire group of people, whether church, school or family, who places undo pressure on others to think like they think is the definition of "group think".

Born again believer are called to walk in the power of the Holy Spirit. When we do this we will be unpopular. Most people have their own idea of what they like to be right, but is in fact defiance toward God.

When we stand for the principles of God in spite of what others are pressuring us to do and believe, we will be hated. Those who "group think" cannot tolerate anyone who doesn't think they way the group demands.

Flying monkeys do very little thinking on their own. They continually look to the group to see what will be acceptable to everyone else and proceed from there.

What is on the inside of the narcissist is inconsistent because it is based on feelings and group think. Their inside can never be harmonious with their outside. There is much hypocrisy going on all the time. With one person they will be one way but with the group they will be another way. They contradict themselves a lot.

I once told a facebook friend I prefer that she not come to contradict what I was teaching on facebook. She agreed not to do it anymore. Then I commented on one of her posts on her facebook, not in contradiction but to add more clarity to the post. She came back to me to ask me not to contradict her on her facebook. I agreed not to comment anymore. The reason I agreed not to comment at all is because what I wrote was not contradictory just adding too the understanding.

Because I asked her not to contradict me, she interpreted anything I would write in comments to her as "contradicting" her.

Then a few posts later this woman came back to contradict me on one of my posts and I deleted her comment. She then blocked me for deleting her comment. You see, I am convinced she wanted to control my facebook, influencing people not to believe me and could not tolerate that I placed a boundary. That boundary was that she could comment as long as it did not contradict me. She hated that I placed a boundary and had to find a way to make me the mean one.

I am so familiar with this tactic it was clear to me what was happening. Narcissists must feel like the one in control, the smarter one, the superior one. When they cannot be that with others then they must eliminate the one who dares to be themselves.

I block people too for being rude or arrogant. However I don't usually do it unless I see that someone is deliberately violating my boundaries and rules. I have had interesting disagreements on my facebook, even good discussion, but some things I cannot compromise on because God has clearly shown me the truth about those things. I tend to write about what God has shown me, not very often on things I am not sure about.

Asking good questions to find out the answer is not the same as asking a question or making a comment to provoke them in some way. I recognize when there is a trap developing as apposed to an honest question or comment.

I appreciate all of you who discuss calmly without personal attacks. When the insults begin to fly we know someone is not seeking truth they are merely wanting to fight to win.

Proverbs 10:18 "He who conceals hatred has lying lips, And he who spreads slander is a fool."

Proverbs 12:15-25
15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes,
But a wise man is he who listens to counsel.
16 A fool’s anger is known at once,
But a prudent man conceals dishonor.
17 He who speaks truth tells what is right,
But a false witness, deceit.
18 There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword,
But the tongue of the wise brings healing.
19 Truthful lips will be established forever,
But a lying tongue is only for a moment.
20 Deceit is in the heart of those who devise evil,
But counselors of peace have joy.
21 No harm befalls the righteous,
But the wicked are filled with trouble.
22 Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord,
But those who deal faithfully are His delight.
23 A prudent man conceals knowledge,
But the heart of fools proclaims folly.
24 The hand of the diligent will rule,
But the slack hand will be put to forced labor.
25 Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs it down,
But a good word makes it glad.

Narcissism: Second Timothy There is Here!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KzF7DA3hmWI

The Family Mobbing

Parents were given the job of raising their children. After the children are raised they are to go out and make their own lives. These children are not to come back to parents and begin to dictate to their parents about anything.

If an adult child has decided they want to help their parent in their elders years, they must consider the parents desires and honor them by considering their situation and desires. Any adult child who attempts to control the parents are disrespectful and dishonoring.

I have met many people who think because someone is old they can be bossed as if they were small children. This is disrespectful and dishonoring.

I heard it from "The Royal We" that families are often turned into gangs. Extended family tends to dominate over the individuals in the family even after they had left the home. They place pressure on extended family to do things the way the "family" wants it done. To think the way the family does, to say the things the family says and to act the way the family does. This is a cult!!!!

Often the extended family place pressure on grown family members to do things the way that family decides, even show up at every family event as though it were an obligation.

God made it clear that the family of the Believer in Christ are those who love Christ. We have no obligation to maintain relationships with those who act badly, not matter whether they claim to be Christians or not.

Matthew 12:46-50
Changed Relationships
46 While He was still speaking to the crowds, behold, His mother and brothers were standing outside, seeking to speak to Him.
47 Someone said to Him, “Behold, Your mother and Your brothers are standing outside seeking to speak to You.”
48 But Jesus answered the one who was telling Him and said, “Who is My mother and who are My brothers?”
49 And stretching out His hand toward His disciples, He said, “Behold My mother and My brothers!
50 For whoever does the will of My Father who is in heaven, he is My brother and sister and mother.”

It is wonderful when bio family are also believers in and followers of Christ. Sadly this is rare, most believers who love Christ have few if any bio family members who are supportive of their decision to follow Christ.

Even many families that claim Christianity do not follow the Bible and even become angry when the scripture is mentioned to support a point in a discussion.

When we find that we cannot discuss calmly and with love a matter of principle in the Bible, that is the time to politely exit and distance ourselves. When we remain with unsaved or superficially Christian family members we only find ourselves becoming more silent to appease those who will become angry.

When we see that there is no respect for us or our God, that is when it is time to move on to more healthy relationships.

I cannot tell you the joy the Lord floods back into our lives when we make the choice to follow Him even if no one else goes with us. We may be alone for a time, but eventually God brings others who love Him the way we do. What a joy it is when He finds these people for us. Hallelujah!!

Confession is the Only Solution to Sin

The reason God tells us to confess our sin to be cleansed is because this is where the victory lies. When we confess, it is the indicator that we really hated what we did and want to fix it.

Those who cannot confess will not be cleansed and will not grow spiritually. So many "Chrisitans" remain infants all their lives because they refuse to admit their sin, disrespect and covert meanness. Those who will not confess to God and others cannot fix broken relationships. They love their own pride more than they love other people.

The good news is that anyone, no matter how sinful can ask God to cleanse them in their brokenness and He will do it. Those that refuse to confess and be cleansed will only remain in their sin and grow worse over time.

1 John 1:9 "9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

No one ever stands still, we either grow in holiness or we regress. Those who will not confess always regress. This is why we see old people acting badly in their elderly years. They spend their entire lives hiding their real self until they got too tired to hide anymore and just let their real selves emerge.

So many people hang onto pride and self-will thinking it elevates them. Sadly one day, if not confessed, that pride will bring them low. There is only one solution to pride, that is to confess it and be cleansed by God.

Isaiah 2:12
"A Day of Reckoning Coming
12 For the Lord of hosts will have a day of reckoning
Against everyone who is proud and lofty
And against everyone who is lifted up,"

Change Can be and Should be Happening to the Born Again Believer

Words Mean Almost Nothing Unless they are Backed by Actions

Do your actions speak so loud no one would believe your words?

Proverbs 12:15-25

"15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes,
But a wise man is he who listens to counsel.
16 A fool’s anger is known at once,
But a prudent man conceals dishonor.
17 He who speaks truth tells what is right,
But a false witness, deceit.
18 There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword,
But the tongue of the wise brings healing.
19 Truthful lips will be established forever,
But a lying tongue is only for a moment.
20 Deceit is in the heart of those who devise evil,
But counselors of peace have joy.
21 No harm befalls the righteous,
But the wicked are filled with trouble.
22 Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord,
But those who deal faithfully are His delight.
23 A prudent man conceals knowledge,
But the heart of fools proclaims folly.
24 The hand of the diligent will rule,
But the slack hand will be put to forced labor.
25 Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs it down,
But a good word makes it glad."

Don't Let the Narcissist Do Your Thinking For You

Follow the Link:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DcYJH1gETPI&feature=em-lsp

"Fools despise wisdom and instruction." 

Proverbs 15:32 "…31He who listens to life-giving reproof will dwell among the wise. 32He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding. 33The fear of the LORD is the instruction of wisdom, and humility comes before honor.…"

Proverbs 29:9
"If a wise man contendeth with a foolish man, whether he rage or laugh, there is no rest."

Lack of Truth in the Apostate Church

If someone cannot forgive themselves for past sins, then they are simply not believing God. Shame over past sins is false shame if the sin has been confessed and we have been cleansed from it.

1 John 1:9 "9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

There are no verses in the Bible that addresses forgiving ourselves. We are to forgive others when they are repentant.

If we walk in shame about past forgiven sins we are more concerned about what others think of us than what God said.

If you have someone in your life who loves to hold past sins over your head to make you feel small, then that person is wicked. These people must be removed from our lives, they are manipulated by the devil to cause us doubt and harm.

There are those who love to feel superior to others. They massage their superior attitude through demeaning others. For these people nothing is about your past sin, its really about finding a reason to demean and mock others to feel better than them.

When someone becomes born again any sense of superiority leaves them. When we know what we were before Christ changed us, we have no reason to think we were more special than anyone else.

Romans 3:23
"23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,"

Those who based their superior attitude on their education, or comparing their good deeds to the deeds of others are falling into the trap of self glorification. People who compare themselves to others are not wise, we ought to be comparing ourselves to God. When we compare ourselves to Christ we have no reason to feel "special." When we are too busy comparing ourselves to other people we will miss any flaws that need attention in ourselves.

2 Corinthians 10:12-13
"12 For we are not bold to class or compare ourselves with some of those who commend themselves; but when they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are without understanding. 13 But we will not boast beyond our measure, but within the measure of the sphere which God apportioned to us as a measure, to reach even as far as you.

Those who treat others with contempt because they have human rules they have decided everyone else must follow but are not Biblical, are walking in pride.

Proverbs 11:2
"When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom."

The louder a person sings their own praises the more likely it is that what they say is not true. Those who must boast are trying to convince someone of something they know is not evidenced in the way they live their lives.

Many people in our culture use words rather than being a living example. When the words do not match the life example then we can believe the life example, the words mean nothing.

There is an old saying; "your actions speak so loud I can't hear a word your saying."

James 4:6
"But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”

Anyone who uses "grace" for an excuse to continue in sin is one who has little regard for Christ and the sacrifice of His shed blood for our sin.

1 John 2:16
"16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world."

Galatians 6:3
"For if anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself."

James 4:16
"As it is, you boast in your arrogance. All such boasting is evil."

2 Timothy 3:1-5
"But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people."

Perhaps one day it would be good to do a study on each one of these character flaws that God mentions will dominate the end times. All of them are present now in many people we encounter.

Even within the church we see these things playing out. In our day those who are called "divisive" are the ones who bring truth and attempt to bring teaching back to the Bible.

The divisive people who bring a false gospel and wrong doctrine are those who are elevated and treated with great respect. The reason this is so is because the wrong doctrine and false gospel makes people happy but it does not foster holiness.

The Father of Lies is at it Again!!!!

Perdition: Utter Destruction

Son of Perdition: Satan the father of lies.

Satan in the epitome of total destruction.

Blinded by his own desire to be elevated above God and control others he is destroying himself along with those he attacks who do not have Christ.

Isaiah 14:12-14
12 “How you have fallen from heaven,
O star of the morning, son of the dawn!
You have been cut down to the earth,
You who have weakened the nations!
13 “But you said in your heart,
‘I will ascend to heaven;
I will raise my throne above the stars of God,
And I will sit on the mount of assembly
In the recesses of the north.
14 ‘I will ascend above the heights of the clouds;
I will make myself like the Most High.’"

Satan's goal was to be superior to God, he didn't just want to be like God, he wanted to be over God. This is why this devilish creature seeks to destroy whatever belongs to God. He will ruin as many relationships as possible to defy God.

Gossipers do this too, they work to ruin the objects of their hatred to elevate themselves in the eyes of others.

This is the picture of the narcissist. The narcissist is controlled by thoughts and feelings that destroy relationships, especially relationships with God. The devil is behind all of this.

The devil hates God so thoroughly that every attempt is being made continually to turn people against one another and against God. If he can destroy the work of God he can destroy people, sending them to hell where he knows he will be going.

The way we see this being played out in our world today is through the feelings of the narcissist to be elevated above others. The continual attempt to be superior to others dominates every other human character trait. The way a person thinks will determine the way they treat people and God.

There is an irrational need to be superior, creating in the narcissist a mentality that values honor of them over love for them. A narcissist would rather be feared than loved.

1 Peter 5:8 "Be sober, be vigilant, because your adversary the devil walketh about as a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour."

1 John 3:8 "8 The one who does what is sinful is of the devil, because the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the devil’s work."

When we see people raging at us for merely mentioning God's word or a principle of God that bring light to a discussion, we are watching the arrogance of the devil. He is influencing thoughts to cause division against God.

If believers are isolated from those who understand truth they are more likely to doubt the truth. After all how can one person be right and everyone else wrong? This is the uncertainty that the devil and the people he uses, brings to a person who lacks confidence in what God has said in His word.

1 Peter 5:7-9 "…7 Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you. 8 Be sober-minded and alert. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 9 Resist him, standing firm in your faith and in the knowledge that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kinds of suffering.…"

Narcissists who claim to be believers often interpret the Bible the way they choose, to maintain their own desired belief. They feel free to twist the Bible to suit their own agenda, the very reason they wrongly divide the word of God.

When someone believes they are superior to others they lack empathy, authentic kindness and understanding. Their skewed version of the Bible and elevated view of their own importance leads them to believe everyone else is foolish, they are the ones with all the answers.

A secure and loving person does not feel the need to be superior to anyone. The secure loving person merely enjoys seeking God and learning truth.

We live in a culture now that has the same heart as the devil. As a whole the culture loves their high opinion of themselves. The culture goes so far as to teach people to think of themselves first and that they are capable of anything they want to be. This builds excessive pride and intolerance for truth.

In order to become born again one must admit their sinfulness and believe on Christ. This culture is angered at anyone who dares to tell them they have a need for Christ, let alone telling them they are flawed and in need of a different way of thinking.

God told us in His word that the only way to become born again is to mourn over our sinfulness, this is what brings us to Christ in humility desiring to be changed by Him. No one can become born again merely by deciding they like God. They must see the sinfulness of sin and themselves to desire to be cleansed by God. We see many pretenders in the church because so many have come to the church to feel superior, not because they have been broken over their sinfulness.

2 Corinthians 7:10
"10 For the sorrow that is according to the will of God produces a repentance without regret, leading to salvation, but the sorrow of the world produces death."

Matthew 4:3-5 "3 “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 4 Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. 5 Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.…"

The poor in spirit are those who know they have nothing good to offer. These people are blessed because they come to Christ knowing that He becomes their righteousness. They are loved by Christ Who died for them.

Imagine not loving someone who gave His life for us, it is irrational not to love someone who died that we might live. The world hated Christ as they will hate us. WHY? They hate us because we expose their sin, they love their sin. Even though their sin leads them to hell, they would rather go to hell loving their sin and hating Christ, than believing on Christ, becoming freed from sin and going to heaven. If this is not irrational I don't know what is.

The devil is behind all these things, the irrational thinking, the denial of Christ's principles and the anger, the emotional upheaval going on in the mind that prevents people from thinking and acting in truth.

Have You Suffered More than Christ

If you have not suffered as much as Christ had when He died for us, then you have not suffered to be able to say Christ would not want you to suffer through any difficulty. Notice too that Christ died for us while we were still in our sin.

We do not bail out of marriages just because our spouse is not acting right. We go to prayer and even fasting to allow God to work in our lives.

I have heard people say, "God wouldn't want me to go through that."

My answer: "If God didn't want you to go through something it would not cross your path."

So often we make choices in our lives that bring severe consequences and then we want to escape them rather than endure and resolve what we created. Resolving our mess ups can only be done correctly if we seek Christ for His solutions.

James 1:2-11 "2 Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials,
3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance.
4 And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
5 But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him.
6 But he must ask in faith without any doubting, for the one who doubts is like the surf of the sea, driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For that man ought not to expect that he will receive anything from the Lord,
8 being a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.
9 But the brother of humble circumstances is to glory in his high position;
10 and the rich man is to glory in his humiliation, because like flowering grass he will pass away.
11 For the sun rises with a scorching wind and withers the grass; and its flower falls off and the beauty of its appearance is destroyed; so too the rich man in the midst of his pursuits will fade away."

The Sins Do Not Have to Dominate the Marriage

I was asked a question by a dear sister in the Lord about a woman who trapped a man into marrying her by getting pregnant by him before they were married, causing them to decide to get married. I thought this was a good question and wanted to place it here for others to see.

Here is my answer below:

Our actions have consequences. When we make a promise at the altar, that is the binding promise God uses to make two people into one, He makes them one. The man now is responsible to see to it that the woman he got pregnant is treated with dignity as his wife. And, the women hopefully will be contrite about trapping the man. However, keep in mind the man could not have been trapped if he acted like an honorable man and chose not to sleep with someone who was not his wife.

The woman and the man must now live with their consequences. So many people think these situations are forever, they are not. A man and woman can grow, repent and have a great marriage, if at least one of them turns to Christ for forgiveness and resolves to be the spouse God commanded in His Word. Hopefully both will repent.

These are not hopeless situations, they are foolish in the beginning but God can fix them. Sadly so many people think only in the here and now rather repenting and changing their attitude which leads to a change of behavior.
Divorce is not the answer, a change of heart toward God leading to a change in behavior is the answer.
WE all do foolish things when we are young, but we can grow out of those mentalities to become what God meant for us to be.

Divorce and Remarriage are Sins against God

There are no qualifiers here as to how difficult a marriage can be to allow for divorce, there is simply no allowance. When God glues two people together with the Spiritual glue the only thing that separates them is death.

The words "one flesh", denote a gluing together that cannot be severed by man, its spiritual and permanent until death.

Keep in mind that when we choose a spouse we have promised in the wedding vows to stay by them in sickness and in health, no matter what happens. This promise is serious to God.


Sadly it is not serious for most Americans today. I have been called many things and rejected many times for simply standing for God's standard on marriage. Its not just a standard, its a physical and spiritual oneness that only God can sever by death.

One can come up with ever excuse possible to get away from a difficult situation, but God has no excuses. If you think you cannot forgive or forebear for a wayward spouse then you would have to say Christ was a fool for dying for us while we were still sinners.

Adultery is not the unforgivable sin. I have known people who remained single after their spouse left them to eventually experience the blessing of reconciliation after years of praying and fasting. To bail out of marriage because its tough shows lack of faith and is a form of hatred. When we love someone we are willing to die to self to be able to be true to God. It takes faith to remain loyal to God when our spouse is not acting right.

Malachi 2:16
“For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.”

Mark 10:11-12
11 And He *said to them, “Whoever [a]divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her; 12 and if she herself [b]divorces her husband and marries another man, she is committing adultery.”

Luke 16:18
18 “Everyone who [a]divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries one who is [b]divorced from a husband commits adultery.

1 Corinthians 7:10-11
10 But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not [a]leave her husband 11 (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not [b]divorce his wife."

Adultery is serious, that's why it takes serious prayer and trust that Christ will get one through. Some spouses never return after leaving but the born again believer can remain alone, its possible to live a full and joyful life without a spouse. Those who love Christ more than they love their own life can do this with God's help.

Throwing People Away Because They are Inconvenient

Once again I have been blocked and rejected for telling the truth about divorce and remarriage. It is amazing to me that this topic is such a hot topic among "Christian."

If there is nothing wrong with divorce and remarriage then why do people become so angry over a higher standard for marriage.

I don't believe we had fewer problems in marriage 50 years ago. What we had was a resolve to remain married no matter what. We worked out problems over time because we knew there was no out for us. Today the young people are bailing out of marriage when it is the slightest uncomfortable, often for no other reason than they just want another partner.

Whatever happened to loving someone through the hard times. Whatever happened to praying and fasting for the reconciliation of a spouse who has gone wayward? The self esteem teaching has managed to make everyone less tolerant of hardships in order to work through them.

This culture shouts tolerance all over the place but it means nothing. They want it for themselves but don't want to endure for anyone else.

If someone said to me "it is better to buy a brand new car to avoid the problems with an old one, would that make anyone "angry?" No, there would be a calm discussion about it.

I suggest that people get angry when they are convicted of sin. They want to appear spiritual and righteous but are not willing to obey God.

No one gets angry at the suggestion that someone get off drugs or alcohol. No one gets angry at the suggestion that we should be more careful about the food we eat. Why then if divorce and remarriage is just as benign, they would be so angry at the suggestion that it is better not divorce and remarry?

Our culture to some degree knows that divorce and remarriage is sin or they would not become so hostile when we suggest that one should avoid it all together.

God was very clear about this sin that has run rampant in the culture. AND, that is not bad enough it has run rampant through the church. All those people who endorse the divorce and remarriage of their friends are endorsing and enabling sin against God.

All those leaders in the church who marry divorced people are endorsing and enabling sin in the body.

James 3:1 "1 Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly."

It truly is astonishing that people want to fight to defend a sin simply because a family member or friend might get their feelings hurt. Even worse is to fight to defend sin because we don't want to lose a friend or family member.

Who is more important to us, Christ or our companions.

Malachi 2:14
"Yet you say, 'For what reason?' Because the LORD has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant."

The love of this age is shallow and hateful, based only on personal pleasure and a life without difficulties. Throwing people away because they are difficult is not God's way.

The lack of faith in Christ is what is demonstrated when a Christian fights to defend the throwing away of a person simply because they don't measure up.

The person who blocked me today for my stand on marriage has shown the same mentality of "throwing away" a friend for the sake of maintaining a love of sin. At least she is consistent.

Narcissists and the Devil Only Have Control if We Let Them

Narcissists often deny what they say and do to make us doubt ourselves.

The devil did this in the garden with Eve. He managed to convince her that she didn't hear God correctly. He also caused her to believe God was withholding truth from her.

Narcissists will cause doubt in someone who is not aware of their tactics. If we know what they are doing we become strong, never buying into their lies.

The goal of the narcissist is to cause us to elevate them above ourselves. In a healthy relationship no one is above another person nor do rational people care about denigrating another person. A healthy person enjoys blessing others with truth and support in their goals when those goals are aligned with God's principles.

Healthy relationships are based on mutual love, mutual compassion, mutual empathy and mutual kindness.

Narcissists are all about self all the time.

Never bother with defensiveness or explaining to the narcissist. Speak truth, if they do not receive it then move on without further discussion.

Narcissists do not care about resolving anything. The goal of the narcissist is to dominate and devalue all those people who do not agree with them or bow to them.

In healthy relationships the friends have no need to devalue anyone else, they are simply happy being themselves and allowing others to be themselves. This does not mean that we never disagree, or that we allow sin to carry on without challenge. When we challenge someone about sin our goal ought to be to help someone confess, turn from their sin and be restored. The narcissist will have none of this, they are only about one thing and that is to win over others.

Narcissists love to poke at every single thing their target does no matter how small. They also have no ability to engage in joy for the accomplishments of others, nor do they have empathy for the trials of others.

In short, and this is important.....the narcissist is all about self all the time. If they do a good deed it comes with expectations and strings. Everything then narcissist does for others must have a benefit for them. They will not do anything kind if it does not bring them accolades from others.

God spoke of this in his word;

Philippians 2:3-4
"3 Do nothing [a]from [b]selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; 4 do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others."

God cannot be on the throne in our own minds when ourselves are on that throne.

Dishonesty and lying is the basic character of the narcissist. They lie to elevate self, they lie about others to demean them, they lie about their accomplishments, they lie by omission to skew perceptions of things, in short they live a lifestyle of lies.

Guess who is the father of lies? The devil!!!!

When we see narcissists at work in relationships we can surmise that the devil is speaking into the mind while using their mouths.

1 Peter 5:7-9 "…7 Cast all your anxiety on Him (Christ), because He cares for you. 8 Be sober-minded and alert. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 9 Resist him, standing firm in your faith and in the knowledge that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kinds of suffering.…"

The goal of the narcissist is to cause us to falter and fall so they can feel superior to us. The devil is very adept at frustrating someone to cause them to sin. When we know this is what is happening then we must remain calm, refuse to answer to the manipulations and be on our way.

Mark 6:7
"And He summoned the twelve and began to send them out in pairs, and gave them authority over the unclean spirits;"

Narcissists are unwittingly allowing unclean spirits to dominate them. Even convincing the narcissist they are the ones in control, but they are not, it is devils who reign over the narcissist. They are pawns in the hands of the devil.

Matthew 10:8
"Heal the sick, raise the dead, cleanse the lepers, cast out demons. Freely you received, freely give."

The devil and the narcissist only have control over us if we allow them that control.

1 John 2:14
"I have written to you, fathers, because you know Him who has been from the beginning I have written to you, young men, because you are strong, and the word of God abides in you, and you have overcome the evil one."

God's Formula for Forgiveness.

An excellent article on God's meaning of forgiveness. Please watch the video within the article to listen to the short message.

Follow the Link:

https://www.gotquestions.org/withholding-forgiveness.html

Christians in the Closet

Christians have gotten in that closet with the wicked through their silence. When we do not speak out against evil we empower it.

The Apostasy is Growing

We lived in a small basement apartment when we were first married. Once in awhile I would walk out to the kitchen in the dark to get a drink of water, one time I felt something under my foot. When turning on the light I lifted my foot to find a roach.

You can imagine what my response was, I screamed, ran about the room looking for something to kill it. I found a can of "Raid." I guess I had injured it with my step that it could not run away so I drown it in raid to make sure it was dead.

One thing I learned is that if I had turned on the light before entering the kitchen that horrid looking creature would have run so fast under the counters or in the cracks that I would never have caught it.

The lesson here is that when we live as born again believers our light of Christ is always shinning. Those who hate the light hate us. They scatter like roaches when we come near.

The unsaved hate the light, this is why we see the taverns dark and dreary, there is a sense that sin will be safe in the dark.

This is also why unbelievers want no discussion to resolve problems. They are convinced if they hide the truth, refuse to face it or discuss it, it will be hidden from view. They can hide it from most people but the signs are clear for the discerning born again believer.

When someone will not discuss a problem openly, that is the clue that they love their secrets and the darkness. They know that they would fight and expect us to because they do. They expect us to do what is normal for them.

When someone attempts to convince us to embrace the world's standards, setting aside the Word of God to follow after worldly doctrines we know they are in darkness.

When we begin to pray for truth no matter where it takes us, God will show us things that astonish us. We will be astonished at the unbilbical principles that many Christians have embraced and defended. The apostate condition of most churches will stand out like a sore thumb.

It is astonishing how many things have crept into the church unnoticed by most Christians. They didn't notice these things because they liked how it all sounded. It allowed them to remain popular with everyone.

Last year on Halloween we read an article in the news paper of a local Baptist church that had a "tail gate" party in their parking lot. They set up the cars of parishioners with trunks open and goodies inside to allow the children to go "trick or treating" in a safe place.

That was not bad enough, then the pastor preached a sermon on honoring head relatives. He encouraged people of the church to bring pictures of their dead relatives. These pictures were placed on tables with candles and other paraphernalia to honor them. The parishioners were told to say something to their dead relative.

These practices using candles, photos of dead people and the trick or treating was as paganistic as it gets. AND YET, this was done in a "Christian" church with the title of "Baptist."

What is wrong with those who participated in these things? How could a born again believer indulge in this nonsense without any reservations at all, even embracing it with vigor as though it were something good?

This is how far the modern church has fallen. They see these things as perhaps something to disagree with but not a big enough problem to leave the church or even complain about it to their designated one man salaried pastor. After all, he's paid to do his job, so he must know what is right to do. Anyone else complaining is a divisive person only wanting to make trouble.

The truth is that it is not the one who rebukes these pagan things that is divisive. It is the one who brings these abominations into the church who is divisive, that is the apostate one man salaried pastor.

There is every reason to believe that the melding of Catholicsm and Protestantims is moving rapidly. Since there is a the mentality in our world today that every religion has something to offer, there must be a coming together to share all this wisdom. Sadly its not wisdom at all, its apostasy, a departing from the truth to embrace the devils' schemes.

Apostasy and demeaning of God's Word has been embraced in nearly every gathering everywhere. We are in the end times when hearts are hard, pride is huge and no one will listen.

Jeremiah 7:26-28 "…26 Yet they would not listen to Me or incline their ear, but they stiffened their necks and did more evil than their fathers.’ 27 When you tell them all these things, they will not listen to you. When you call to them, they will not answer. 28 Therefore you must say to them: This is the nation that would not listen to the voice of the LORD their God and would not receive correction. Truth has perished; it has disappeared from their lips.…"

Yes there is a form of godliness that in reality is satanic. There are many who will claim to love God but they do not. Their Jesus is a different Jesus, a Jesus of their own making in their own mind, not the Jesus Christ of the Bible.

Matthew 15:7-9 "…7 You hypocrites! Isaiah prophesied correctly about you: 8 ‘These people honor Me with their lips, but their hearts are far from Me. 9 They worship Me in vain; they teach as doctrine the precepts of men.’”…"

Do Not Chase Them, Leave Them to God

We cannot chase after someone who refuses to want cleansing. We cannot make someone else stop sin by dogging them. We must tell the truth and let them go where they choose.

It takes faith to let go of someone who will not listen. We must believe that God is the only one who can reach them. We have no power to "reason" a person out of their sin or foolishness.

The real faith is in realizing we cannot be someone else's righteousness for them. They must want it so badly they are ready and willing to turn from their sin toward Christ.

Sometimes we have the idea that love means either accepting them in their sin or dogging them until they finally get tired of us. The truth is that this is lack of faith that God can do it without us and we must allow Him. Sometimes we get in His way, keeping the sinning one's focus on us instead of seeking God.

Perhaps a part of us enjoys the elevated status of being the one to rescue another person, this is pride.

God does not need us and only He knows exactly what is to be done, we do not.

Proverbs 19:19-20 "19 A man of great anger must pay the penalty; if you rescue him, you will have to do so again. 20 Listen to counsel and accept discipline, that you may be wise the rest of your days.…"

If we allow someone to rely upon us to continually rescue them they will keep relying on us, and never be healed. It is Christ they need to rely on, so there are times when we need to get out of God's way and leave Him to His work.

Dr. C on Narcissism

https://kmusic.site/video/XZOOA9heAf0/narcissist-sociopath-or-psychopath-how-to-recognize-the-distinctions

Avoid Such People

Narcissists have fears that they will be condemned by others because they condemn others regularly and think everyone is like them.

Seek the Holy Spirit for truth and you will not being sucked into the manipulation and intimidation of the narcissist.

God described these people in 2 Timothy 3:1-5. This was His warning about what to expect in these end times when all that has been prophesied is coming to fruition.

We are living in ugly and dangerous times getting worse every day. We are going to encounter more of these people than ever before. When we can keep our calm and carry on, ignoring the evil people who want to destroy our walk with God, then we have learned to walk according to the Holy Spirit.

The narcissist wants us to become angry because they are angry. They want us to be the blame for their anger. This is the reason they poke at us to cause frustration, hoping we will blow up so they can say; "see how you are." This has happened to me a number of times in my life.

2 Timothy 3:1-5
“Difficult Times Will Come”
"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these."

Galatians 5:16-18
16 But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh. 17 For the flesh [a]sets its desire against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; for these are in opposition to one another, so that you may not do the things that you [b]please. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the Law.

The narcissist requires that we think like them to be respected by them. If we show that we think our own thoughts and make our own decisions the narcissist will have contempt for us, even showing disrespect for us as though we were evil for not being like them.

"Going Gray Rock" is a good idea in dealing with a narcissist. Simply do not become flustered or show any emotion around them. Ignoring them is the best policy when they have one of their tantrums. If we can remember they are nothing more than little bratty children in a grown up body, we don't have to take anything they say or do seriously.

God warns us about them because He wants us to recognize them to be able to avoid them. When we have to be around them at all then the best course of action is to completely ignore them as if they are not in the room. Any answer at all is food for them to further abuse and even make us look silly to onlookers. It is best to allow the onlookers to see only the actions of the narcissist. Of course if the narcissist is popular and surrounded by flying monkeys, the flying monkeys will think the narcissist had a good reason.

Its quite a strange phenomena, when the narcissist acts badly in front of people and the target simply deals with it, the onlookers only seem to notice the reactions of the target. Its almost as though the groupies in the room only see the narcissist as having a reason for acting badly because they were so bombastic.

Very few people have the ability to think critically about something that happens so quickly without warning and off the wall. They only see the reactions of the target to the narcissist, making the narcissist look like the offended one.

If at all possible obey the Word of God that says in 2 Timothy 3 verse 5, "avoid such people as these."