Excellent Advise for Relationships Too

Fools or the Wise Which are You

Wisdom isn't just about knowing facts or sounding smart. Wisdom is not attainable except through seeking God and continual self-reflection anyone of any IQ can be Scripturally wise.

Stupidity is the enemy of our soul. It makes bad things look good and good things look bad as we are seeing commonly in these end times days.

Wisdom is not a matter of good education it is a mindset that seeks the truth and loves the things of the Lord.

Fools have behaviors and attitudes that lead to the ruin of relationships and even their own souls.

It is impossible for a person to learn when they think they already know everything.

Proverbs 29:9-10 "9 If a wise man goes to court with a fool, there will be raving and laughing with no resolution. 10 Men of bloodshed hate a blameless man, but the upright care for his life.…"

Signs of a foolish person:

The foolish person refuses to listen or learn, when they are corrected they reject the correction as though it is stupid and continue operating from the error.

They dismiss ideas merely because those ideas came from someone they don't like, usually someone who seeks wisdom.

Fools cannot learn because they are too proud to admit they are not superior to others. The truth is not concerning to the fool, they only care about being seen as superior, even if it means embracing lies. They must appear expert at everything to feel validated, this is the irony, they are weak because they cannot admit their flaws when admitting them would cause strength in their character and progress them in life.

Fools stubbornly cling to ignorance to protect their fragile image of faux self-exaltation.

Fools are easily offended often without provocation because they take everything as a personal attack. Even our accomplishments irritate them because it is not about them.

Fools react to criticism with outrage, instead of evaluating to improve they rage to intimidate into silence the very people who could help them improve.

I have seen a young person roll their eyes at being corrected about the pronuciation of a word because they hated to admit they didn't know something. Then to make it worse they continued their wrong pronuciation in defiance.

Anger is mankind's greatest weakness, it resolves nothing and causes relationship destruction. Fools even demolish opportunities to build relationships because of their immense pride. They mock and demean anyone they can't feel superior to and who they cannot dominate.

Fools take everything personally, the slightest innocent comments are seen as personal attacks when they are not even about them.

Wise people understand that criticism can be a tool for growth when it is rooted in God's truth.

Fools chase pleasure above everything else. Everything must bring them happiness even if at the expense of others. Their good works are done only to appear good to others, and they cannot do a good deed unless others notice.

Fools are impulsive without restraint ready to manipulate and intimidate others to get what they want for themselves.

Fools are not grateful, they continually demean those who have done much for them merely because they didn't do it all to elevate the fool.

Fools are continually seeking the next adventure, they can never find joy in normal everyday living and they must boast about everything they do or they feel empty when their feats go unnoticed by others.

Fools blame others for the emptiness they feel inside when they are not being elevated as special and superior. When a relationship fails because of the lack of love and empathy in the fool, they blame others, nothing is ever their fault and yet they are continually blowing up relationships forcing them to look for new sources of supply for their addiction to attention and their own idea of superiority.

Wise people take responsibility for themselves while fools accuse others for their own pratfalls. This mindset keeps them stuck in failure and continual resentment toward others. These fools suck all the joy and peace out of the room when they walk in, there is relief and the return of peace when they walk out.

Fools always talk more than they think, the input of others is not necessary to them, it is an irritant to their need to be the center of attention.

Fools love the sound of their own voice. They throw out opinions based on how they wish to think without any information except what they desire to believe.

Wise people speak with purpose and truth while the fool gets a high from merely holding the floor as long as they can while others agonize over the lack of depth coming from their mouths, constant noise with no substance.

Fools cling to what is familiar even when it is harmful. They will retain ideas against God's Word just because everyone else likes the idea. These people do not think independently of "group think" and are wrong often because of it.

Fools are paralyzed by fear of rejection so they tend to follow whatever the crowd is saying. They are terrified of being alone because they do not think for themselves, they must have someone telling them what to think and it must align with their immense ego.

The way to wisdom is knowing our own flaws, admitting them and resolving to ask God to change our hearts to be in alignment with His truth.

Wise people are not afraid of their flaws, they admit them and seek to repair them with God's Word.

Proverbs 1:5-7

"A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; And a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels".

Fools do not seek counsel to hear solutions they seek counsel that will say what they want to hear and reject any counsel that will correct their false thinking. This is the reason our modern churches are filled with people who love to feel good about themselves but have little interest in God's Wisdom.

2 Timothy 4:3

"3 For the time will come when they will not tolerate sound doctrine; but wanting to have their ears tickled, they will accumulate for themselves teachers in accordance with their own desires,"

The greatest blessing and strength of born-again believers is the ability to look with honesty at their own development, admit what is needed to improve, and move forward beyond mere words. It is the power of Christ Who brings about authentic change. Mere words to impress others stagnate and regress those who have no intention of growing in holiness.

Hebrews 12:14: "Pursue holiness, without which no one will see the Lord"

Romans 12:1: "Offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God"

Jesus Christ Told the Truth about Marriage

https://youtube.com/shorts/z6QJ9nwew7s?si=NZmLZOqk396y_C82

Our Actions and Words Match Our Hearts

Our hearts cannot be different from our decisions and actions. Good people act righteously as a lifestyle, if they fail they confess to be cleansed.

There is no such thing as a person who makes bad decisions being a "good person."

Good people say and make good decisions and bad people do and say bad things.

The only way to improve ourselves is to admit our failures, and confess them to God and to those we have offended, this is the way to healing and progress in holiness.

1 John 1:9

"9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous, so that He will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

Notice the word "if" in this passage, we cannot become better if we do not confess. Just trying not to do the bad things again will not produce a heart that has been cleansed. WHY?

Because trying in our own effort presumes that we have within ourselves the ability to be better without God's help. We can only be cleansed from the sin permanently by the power of the Holy Spirit. It must be a work of God to cleanse our heart.

Ephesians 2:9-10 "…9 not by works, so that no one can boast. 10 For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance as our way of life."

When our heart is cleansed the desire to sin is removed. We hate the sin so much that we do not repeat it.

My concern is that too many people do not confess sin, do not grow in holiness and develop a mentality of excuses for bad attitudes and behavior. It does not take many times of excusing sin to create a hardness of heart that is unable to repent and no longer has the ability to understand right from wrong.

Hebrews 3:7-8 "7 Therefore, as the Holy Spirit says: “Today, if you hear His voice, 8 do not harden your hearts, as you did in the rebellion, in the day of testing in the wilderness,"

I am convinced that someone who develops a hard heart cannot be saved. The Holy Spirit would not allow someone who has been changed by Christ to be comfortable in their sin no matter how small that sin seems.

Romans 2:3-5 "…3 So when you, O man, pass judgment on others, yet do the same things, do you think you will escape God’s judgment? 4 Or do you disregard the riches of His kindness, tolerance, and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness leads you to repentance? 5 But because of your hard and unrepentant heart, you are storing up wrath against yourself for the day of wrath, when God’s righteous judgment will be revealed.…"

If we love Christ and others we will encourage confession of sin to be cleansed.

Narcissists And Their Flying Monkeys

The Church is not a Building!

Those who are born-again are the church, those buildings are nothing and should not even exist.

Imagine if every believer did things the way God directed, meeting in home, we would have thousands of homes within communities in which the people live influencing those communities for Christ.

Instead, now we have huge buildings for people go to sit like lumps, who do not participate, do not edify one another and go home to live as they have always lived without growth or enthusiasm for the things of the Lord.

This is not what God commanded and what will cause the church to grow.

In fact, the people in those expensive buildings are diminishing as people become bored or those who love the Lord hate the entertainment aspect of those gatherings detracting from Christ and are leaving in favor of preserving their walk with Christ.

I have watched many Christians over the years regress in their kindness and love for others if they ever had this fruit. Because the culture as a whole is normalizing rudeness, even defending it, so also are the cultural Christians. As gossip is increasing, rudeness and jealousy are also increasing.

We are living in the days just like those of Noah right before God flooded the earth with water. This time He will not flood the world but instead, He will remove the believers and begin some serious discipline for the rest of the remaining world.

This discipline will cause some people to trust in Christ but most will reject Him and be devastatingly schooled in the power of Christ.

Authentic or Ritualistic Phony

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Today in Proverbs:
Every word of God is pure; He is a shield to those who put their trust in Him.
DO NOT ADD TO HIS WORDS, lest He rebuke you.

Proverbs 30:5-6

Whatever I command you, be careful to observe it; you shall not add to it nor take away from it!!!
Deuteronomy12:32

The Church Grows Under Persecution

A discussion between a brother and myself that I think may be of interest to others.

 
Aldo Gismondi
Gwendolyn Wehage it's really curious that persecuted Christian groups in China and elsewhere gather together at homes not in buildings
Right like the early Church did in the book of Acts, they shared everything among them and took care of the ailing and the elderly studying our Bible with elders.
(that's when deacons tasks showed up and are first mentioned in Acts)
They also were actively preaching the Gospel and gaining new souls for Christ ardently

Gwendolyn Wehage
Aldo Gismondi amen, amen! God is forcing believers to go back to the way He commanded. I believe this is why He allowed COVID to prove to people they didn't seem to be able to be without those "pastors" and "buildings", they didn't gather at home, they were addicted to those buildings and those pastors.

The Devil is the Accuser of the Brethren

No one is without a sinful heart before they are born again. This makes accusations of past forgiven sins ridiculous. Only the devil holds past forgiven sins against a born-again believer.

The one who holds past forgiven sins against someone is playing the hypocrite when they presume they have never sinned while they accuse others of sin that has been forgiven. Those who accuse others are themselves sinning through their accusations.

Matthew 7:1-5

1 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. 3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?

This is where judging is wrong when those who are not forgiven and have never confessed their sin accuse others of past forgiven sin.

Psalm 32:1

"Blessed is the one whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered"

Luke 7:48

"48 And He said to her, “Your sins have been forgiven.”

Nowhere in the Bible does God say "Your sins are forgiven but I will hold them against you for the rest of your life."

1 John 1:9

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

Acts 2:38

"And Peter said to them, “Repent and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins, and you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit."

No one who has confessed their sin and been forgiven is held accountable anymore.

Another phenomenon in our culture is those who attempt to accuse us of sin that is not sin. If we do not do the things they think we should do that God never commanded, they treat us disrespectfully. They also treat us disrespectfully for speaking the truth of the Bible that would help them make the right decisions that glorify and bless God.

The devil's tactics are legion, they involve guilt and shame over things we never did or things that have been forgiven a long time ago. He works in the minds of those who are not filled with the Holy Spirit to believe things that are not true.

This is how the devil was able to turn Eve against God. He convinced her that "God didn't really mean that", and that God was withholding the truth from her.

The form these lies take now is for people influenced by the devil to use scripture out of context to make us believe things God never said and would hate. Twisting Scripture is the favorite means the devil uses in our day.

Once someone is convinced of the deception that fits with their desired feelings they can never let go of it except for a dramatic intervention of the Holy Spirit. Then they are faced with choosing the Holy Spirit or the lie. Most times they choose the lie and regress in their walk or it is evidence they were never born again.

Yes, the church has gone apostate, but not all in it are unsaved, some are born again but have allowed the apostates to influence them. Many believers in these last days will look like tares because they are weak in their faith, have been influenced by the apostates, and have dug their heels in to accept what God hates.

Matthew 13:24-30

How then does it have tares? ' He said to them, 'An enemy has done this. ' The servants said to him, 'Do you want us then to go and gather them up? ' But he said, 'No, lest while you gather up the tares you also uproot the wheat with them.

In our culture today Christians will say they believe in God and yet support relatives or friends in their disobedience against God and call it "love."

It is not loving to allow a Christian friend to flounder and flirt with sin. It is only love to speak the truth that will help them maintain their soul in holiness and progress in their wisdom.

The question we have to ask is; "who are we loving most? God or our friend." When we love God first we will love our friends enough to tell them the truth that will save their soul if they listen.

Matthew 22:36-40

36 “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?”

37 And He said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’

38 This is the great and foremost commandment.

39 The second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 Upon these two commandments hang the whole Law and the Prophets.”

When we love God with all our hearts we will love our neighbor so much we will want him to obey Christ.

In these last days few care about truth, they use the Bible as an amulet claiming they believe in Christ but pick and choose from His Word what they will trust. In our day there is more of the scripture disobeyed than obeyed by church attendees while they proclaim; "I am a Bible believer", it just is not true. Those who believe the Bible will obey God's principles rather than adhering to the demands of the culture.

Want to know the truth about everything? Ask God, search the Scriptures and what it says. When we don't understand a principle in the bible ask the Holy Spirit to show you!

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Signs of Emotional Immaturity

Some signs of emotional immaturity in the narcissist are evident in these last days!

Those who depend on their own mindset to carry them through life lack empathy, overreacting to minor things resulting in chaos while blaming others.

These people have a need for immediate gratification and fail to plan ahead, they are impulsive in their actions and expect others to follow them.

The narcissists are full of self-centeredness, meeting their own needs while ignoring the needs of others, they just don't care about what is happening to others. They only help people when it benefits themselves and can be seen by others.

Narcissists often ask how something affects them without asking how something affects others.

There is much hostility in the heart of a contentious person drought with narcissism. They are quick to become angry, whether covert or overt while claiming they are not angry.

The 2 Timothy 3 types treat those who disagree with them as though they are bad or foolish. They refuse to validate anyone who corrects to help, they do not see it as help but as a personal attack.

The 2 Timothy 3 types lack agreeableness and are contention about things that are not important. They are fraught with jealousy when the attention is on others.

There is constant deception occurring in personal interactions, much manipulation, and lying to impress others. Everything that is done is to elevate self and dominate others.

The 2 Timothy 3 types are unable to understand the needs of others, are very shallow and will not engage in discussions of depth and importance unless they are the center of attention, then appearing intelligent is more important than truth.

They have an inability to set boundaries, and failure to take action because of co-dependence. They are deeply dependent on others for their validation. They become angry when others do not support decisions that seem unwise.

They do not grow because they think they already know everything and no one can instruct them or correct them. They have figured everything out, they know everything and have every ability. And, when they are wrong they will never admit it which is the reason they cannot grow wiser.

These people believe they have everything figured out and no one has anything to offer them, there's no room for personal development.

These attributes of the narcissist are the reason we see older people who still act like they did when they were in their twenties. They never challenged themselves to grow in holiness and wisdom causing a lifelong regression and a permanent state of immaturity.

Proverbs 8:5-21 May this passage encourage those who love the things of God!!!!

Narcissists are Controlled by Devils

Narcissists can never take accountability for their actions. They do not love anyone, and this foolishness is growing in these last days.

2 Timothy 3:1-5

Difficult Times Will Come

"3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.

2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,

3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,

4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,

5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."

2 Timothy 4:2-4

"2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction.

3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths."

Acts 20:29-30

"I know that after my departure, savage wolves will come in among you and will not spare the flock. / Even from your own number, men will rise up and distort the truth to draw away disciples after them."

We are living in the last days that are literally "ragingly insane", irrational thinking is common and rampant now. Christians are being accused of what the narcissists are doing and we are not. Just like the devil going before God and accusing the brethren who have been forgiven and are changed.

The narcissist hates our progress in wisdom and holiness, even if in the smallest way, it is intimidating to them when others progress in wisdom and holiness.

And, worse yet these angry narcissistic people are in the church. The 2 Timothy 3 passage is a description of the apostate church, God tells us they have a form of religion but deny Christ while claiming to be a Christian. They deny Christ by ignoring His principles and making up their own.

James 3:13-15 "13 Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good conduct, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. 14 But if you harbor bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast in it or deny the truth. 15 Such wisdom does not come from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic."

Do not fear any of this, God said it would be this way and that we would have the strength in Christ to pass through this very difficult time with joy and peace as long as we keep our focus on Christ.

No One Has to Be Arrogant and Weak it's a Choice

The mask that someone is wearing is usually the opposite of what is under the mask. Arrogance shows us that under the mask is fear.

Those who think they are hiding their fear by raging at us gives us a clue about their emotional intelligence.

Raging is a demonstration that someone feels out of control of others so they think anger will bring them back under their thumb.

Those who need to control others to feel whole are the weakest people of all. Those who are confident are those who do not have reactions to provocations and do not rage when they are challenged. They either know what they have done or are willing to learn what they may have done that needs adjustment.

Those who are confident grow and change over the years, experiencing great joy and peace about their continual movement toward wisdom.

James 1:5

'If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.'

Those who refuse to admit they are in need of correction will never be wise they will only thing they are and they will regress in what they have over time.

Matthew 13:11-12 "…11 He replied, “The knowledge of the mysteries of the kingdom of heaven has been given to you, but not to them. 12 Whoever has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken away from him."

The reason we are seeing fewer people with wisdom in our day is because it has become the new normal for the culture to wallow in defensiveness because of their lack of confidence. They often mistake confidence with arrogance, but they are two different things.

Arrogance is rooted in fear and confidence is rooted in self-reflection to improve.

Luke 8:18

"Pay attention, therefore, to how you listen. Whoever has will be given more, but whoever does not have, even what he thinks he has will be taken away from him.”

Proverbs 9:9

"Instruct a wise man, and he will be wiser still; teach a righteous man, and he will increase his learning."

Proverbs 1:5

"let the wise listen and gain instruction, and the discerning acquire wise counsel"

No one has to be arrogant and weak, they can confess their sin of pride, resolve to ask God to show them the truth about themselves and they too can become wise.