The Narrow Path with Those Who Love Christ

When a narcissist falsely accuses you of something simply reply with; "thank you for letting me know" and walk away. The narcissist is attempting to cause anger in us and an ungodly response. Any explanation will be met with another accusation or rage for the purpose of causing us to revert to our fleshly defensive nature.

The devil loves nothing better than to cause a Christian to react badly the way a narcissist would act. This diminishes the witness of the believer for Christ. It also has the potential to escalate the angst of the narcissist creating an atmosphere of devilish hurt.

Having experienced every tactic of the narcissist over my more than 70 years of life I can tell you will confidence that every action of the narcissist is to manipulate their target into misbehaving so they have a reason to accuse us of the very thing the narcissist is doing but we are not.

It's the old idea of poking at someone in their eye until they finally shout in anger at which point the narcissist says; "see how you are?" When the first polk comes it is best to immediately remove ourselves without response and see to it that our contact with that narcissist is at a bare minimum, and even no contact at all in the future.

Narcissists rarely apologize and if they do it is to return to the relationship to further offend. These people cannot be trusted even with an apology.

Having said all this I must say that not every ugly encounter is narcissistic. It is possible for decent people to have a bad response and feel sorry that they were offensive. When we meet someone like this who does not have a pattern of offending deliberately regularly, then we can forgive when they are sorry and resume the relationship.

In my personal experience, narcissists are very predictable, they act badly every time I am with them, it is a lifestyle toward me that never changes. There are no encounters with them that are pleasant so I keep my distance and some I have gone no contact with permanently.

Our culture is so very crass right now that rude behavior is seen as normal and the one who says it is rude is the one who is a target for disrespect.

2 Timothy 3:1-5 "3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult (ragingly insane) times will come.

2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,

3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,

4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,

5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."

I have been accused of personally writing about someone when my articles were generic without names. When this happens we know that the one who believes we were writing about them has been convicted because they see themselves in it but instead of repenting to be cleansed and grow they fight against it and blame the writer.

They even act as though it was wrong to speak the truth even if it had been about them. This is a sure sign that the person complaining about the post is stubborn and rebellious. If the writing had been about them without their names then they should repent and fell shame that they acted so badly.

Narcissists are full of shame but will pretend they were attacked rather than repent.

Proverbs 1:7

"7 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction."

Proverbs 1:29

"29 Because they hated knowledge and did not choose the fear of the LORD,"

A wise person listens to a matter and self-reflects to make sure they were not the offender. If they were the offender they apologize and move on to do better. An insecure person will think they were the offender merely because someone else said they were. The narcissist will prey on weak-minded people, those who have been trained by the narcissist to accept false accusations, they endure false guilt.

When God has removed the pride from our hearts we can objectively evaluate whether we are wrong and admit when necessary. Those who are self-willed and narcissistic will never admit the wrong things they do and will readily accuse the one they offended of deserving it or that the narcissist didn't do it at all, in other words, they "gaslight" the victim of their hate.

If the narcissist cannot control the emotions of their target they will gossip and lie to others to turn them against the victim. Narcissists cannot endure that anyone likes their target, they must make sure that others hate them as much as the narcissist does.

The only real solution to this matter of gossip and triangulation is to remove ourselves from the narcissist and all those who believe their lies.

Proverbs 23:9 " 9 Do not speak to a fool, for he will despise the wisdom of your words."

When you have endured a narcissistic family system and those in it are not changing it is time to remove yourselves. Allow God to bring kind and loving people into your life as you wait on Him. It is better to be alone with Christ than in the company of mean-spirited God-haters who have only one goal and that is to ruin your walk with Christ.

Remember, you are never alone when you have Christ. And, there are others in the world who have endured what you have encountered. These people will be a blessing to us and we will support them in the Lord.

2 Corinthians 6:16-18 "…16 What agreement can exist between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will dwell with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be My people.” 17 “Therefore come out from among them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.” 18 And: “I will be a Father to you, and you will be My sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.”…

When family pressures you to remain in contact you are free to politely decline invitations and make other plans without any explanations. Narcissists will want to goad you into explanations so they can argue to instill shame and guilt for not attending their functions. If we do not explain and are calm and kind, they will eventually understand that we cannot be manipulated into doing their bidding.

Our family are those who love Jesus Christ the way we do and are walking the same path with us, that narrow one God speaks about.

Matthew 7:13-14

“Enter by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it. Because narrow is the gate and difficult is the way which leads to life, and there are few who find it."

Hallelujah!!!!

Narcissistic Abuse and Gaslighting in Family Structure and Siblings

Narcissism is growing in our world today because of the teaching for the past 50 years of "self-esteem" in all the schools and in the churches. The culture has trained the children to love themselves above everyone else.

My entire family was narcissistic and thought they were wonderful people, even though I was the scapegoat because I didn't like the way they were acting. I never figured out why they liked these rude attitudes even though they attended church every week. They were pretenders in the church looking good to those in those gatherings but at home they are devils. My parents were both narcissistic and taught my brothers to treat me disrespectfully. 

Matthew 7:21-23 "21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’
23 And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’"

2 Timothy 3:1-5 "3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."

The word "difficult" here in the first sentence it actually means in the original language "ragingly insane." And, God said to "avoid such people." Our family is not the bio family we were born to, our family as a Christian are those who love Christ. 

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Pride and the Fruit of the Spirit Cannot Co-exist in the Same Body

Our worth is not tied to what others perceptions of us. We do not consider our own worth anything to be validated, it is only Christ Who is worthy, we are the recipient of His amazing grace, extended to us in our unworthiness.

Those who are proud of themselves because of how good they think they are walk in arrogance. They are in need of brokenness and humility.

Psalm 51:17

"17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit;

a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise."

Matthew 5:3 (ESV)

3 “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven."

No one will be saved who loves their own reputation according to the perceptions of those around them, more than they love God.

James 4:6

"But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.”

Jeremiah 9:23–24

"Thus says the Lord: “Let not the wise man boast in his wisdom, let not the mighty man boast in his might, let not the rich man boast in his riches, but let him who boasts boast in this, that he understands and knows me, that I am the Lord who practices steadfast love, justice, and righteousness in the earth. For in these things I delight, declares the Lord.”

Humility is the key to trusting in Christ and walking in the wisdom of God. No one who is proud can walk in the wisdom of Christ.

Proverbs 9:10, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.”

Proverbs 10:27, “The fear of the Lord prolongs days: but the years of the wicked shall be shortened.”

Those who have been born-again and walk according to the Holy Spirit Who lives in them will have all the fruit of the Spirit of God.

Galatians 5:22-23 - "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."

Those who walk fleshly in pride will have none of the fruit of the Spirit no matter what they say or their pretense of goodness. The fruit are the character qualities of Christ that only born again believers possess.

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Elevating Men is Our Downfall

Those who wish to think highly of themselves will often judge things about others that are not true. They desire to believe others are beneath them so they look for flaws that are not there and every action or word is twisted to sound foolish.

The Pharisees did this to Jesus Christ. They said He did His miracles by the power of the devil. And, the modern Pharisees will assign wicked intentions to the good things the believer does just to feel superior to us.

Pharisees are all around us, more than ever now. They love the elevated idea of themselves in their own minds.

Matthew 23:5-7

"5 And they do all their deeds to be noticed by other people; for they broaden their phylacteries and lengthen the tassels of their garments.

6 And they love the place of honor at banquets, and the seats of honor in the synagogues,

7 and personal greetings in the marketplaces, and being called Rabbi by the people.

8 But as for you, do not be called Rabbi; for only One is your Teacher, and you are all brothers and sisters.

9 And do not call anyone on earth your father; for only One is your Father, He who is in heaven.

10 And do not be called leaders; for only One is your Leader, that is, Christ.

11 But the greatest of you shall be your servant.

12 Whoever exalts himself shall be humbled, and whoever humbles himself shall be exalted."

Nearly every church gathering today gives titles to their leaders to elevate them above others in the church. This ought never to be, God expressly forbid the elevating of one man over another.

All believers no matter what their calling are equal and able to correct, rebuke and admonish one another. We all have Christ living in us and He is the only Authority over His believers.

Luke 16:15 "15 So He said to them, “You are the ones who justify yourselves before men, but God knows your hearts. For what is prized among men is detestable before God."

Proverbs 16:5

"Every one that is proud in heart is an abomination to the LORD: though hand join in hand, he shall not be unpunished."

It is pride that motivates people to desire titles and elevate others. People who want titled leaders are those who follow men rather than Christ. They are lazy, expecting men to tell them what to believe instead of seeking Christ for themselves and depending on Him, they desire to be accepted by men. It is easier to allow others to do our thinking for us than to search the Scripture as we pray for wisdom from the Holy Spirit. There is a problem of unbelief that we would trust in men we can see rather than in Holy Spirit we cannot see.

Proverbs 29:25

"25 The fear of man lays a snare,

but whoever trusts in the Lord is safe."

Trust in Christ alone, be led by Him, He will never lie to you as men will do.