Jeremiah 12:6 "6 Even your brothers— your own father’s household— even they have betrayed you; even they have cried aloud against you. Do not trust them, though they speak well of you. "
Once the narcissists show you who they are by their refusal to love God and you, then it is time to move on to healthy and loving relationships.
They are out there, God can find them for you!
Those who are locked into remaining with rebellious and toxic family members are not necessarily responding to Biblical standards.
2 Corinthians 6:16-18 "…16 What agreement can exist between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be My people.” 17“Therefore come out from among them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.” 18 And: “I will be a Father to you, and you will be My sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.”"
When we spend more time with the ungodly, especially family members who claim to be Christians but act badly, then we will remain spiritual babies ourselves. We tend to adopt the actions and attitudes of those we spend the most time with.
1 Corinthians 15:33
Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”"
Even "moral" superficial family will mock and demean our walk because they are trusting in their own righteousness instead of the righteousness of Christ.
The more dedicated you are to the principles of God and to knowing His mind, the greater distance place between you and superficial pretenders in the church or in family.
When you find yourself seemingly on the outside of everyone all the time because of your trust in Christ and His Word, you will be isolated and demeaned by others.....guaranteed!!!!
James 1:2-8
"2 Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, 3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. 4 And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing."
Yes, you can be fulfilled, joyful and productive without the people you thought you needed so much.
Rejecting the cultural Christianity I grew up with to embrace and enjoy a relationship with Jesus Christ. A place to come and share thoughts about almost anything. Especially things of the Lord. Please no Anonymous posts, I enjoy knowing who is writing to me.
Wednesday, January 9, 2019
Excusing Sin Demeans God
If we forgive before repentance we are in disobedience to God. When we relieve someone of the guilt of their sin before they are sorry they did it we solidify the sin in their heart.
The psychology of forgiving offenders when they do not want forgiveness works against God's ways.
We are not to do revenge, we are not to be mean to people no matter what they do, but we are also not to forgive until they confess and want to reconcile.
1 John 1:9
'9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
'9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
Luke 17:4 "4 Even if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times returns to say, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him.” 5 The apostles said to the Lord, “Increase our faith!”…"
Notice in the passage "if he comes and says 'I repent', you must forgive him."
It is amazing how often believers leave out important phrases that clarify the text.
Yes we are to be ready to forgive, even excited that someone came to ask forgiveness, extending it freely and with joy. The condition for that forgiveness is that they want it and are sorrowful over their sin.
Bitterness does not come because the sinner won't repent to be able to receive forgiveness. We do not become bitter because others won't do what is needed to obey God.
Psychology has perverted the thinking of most people. They have been taught many years something that works against God's purposes and plans.
Perhaps so many like the false doctrine of forgiving before there is sorrow over sin because they want others to "just let it go" when they sin.
This culture enables and encourages sin by refusing to hold someone accountable for their actions.
Truth telling and accountability has become the new evil. Those who just let everything go without accountability foster a mentality of entitlement in the one who sins. Not only do many people treat sin as though its not so bad, they also encourage it by defending it with excuses to avoid bad feelings.
Bad feelings about sinning is a good thing. We should feel bad when we sin, it leads us to repentance, a changed heart and a changed life.
Coddling people has led to the snowflake mentality in which we live every day. Rather than shame over the sinfulness there is monstrous rage when someone is told they must repent. The gospel has been perverted by the softening of the matter of sin.
Romans 5:6-10
"6 For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.
7 For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die.
8 But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
9 Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him.
10 For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life."
"6 For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.
7 For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die.
8 But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
9 Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him.
10 For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life."
Sin is very serious, its offense against God who had to spill His blood to pay the price for our sin. How could we possibly treat it as though its just another personal choice in life.
The sin done against us is a training time for us, but that sin is also against God and very serious. An attitude of entitlement that everyone should just "let go" our sin so we can feel good about ourselves has created the monstrous culture we live in today.
This culture does not take seriously sin against God because most Christians do not take sin seriously. So many people are ready to feel sorry for the one who does evil and forget completely about those they have harmed.
The pressure doesn't ever seem to be on the ones who do evil to repent and change. The pressure is mostly on the one who was offended to forgive even without any show of sorrow or change in the offender.
This is patently wrong and works against God. He wants confession of sin, sorrow for evil deeds and forgiveness for those who want to be forgiven.
Luke 17:3-4 "3 So watch yourselves. “If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. 4 Even if they sin against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying ‘I repent,’ you must forgive them.”"
Two important principles here, 1. if there is sin against you there must be a rebuke for that sin. 2. If the offender is sorry because of the rebuke then is when forgiveness is extended.
Psychology has confused the mind of many with evolutionary thinking that we are all animals and respond to stimuli. This is not the state of man. Man has a conscience place in them by God that gives them a higher status, greater reasoning ability and the ability to be far more devious than an animal.
Animals do things out of instinct and preservation. Man often does things out of greed and a need to feel superior to others. The heart of man is evil and capable horrid acts of hate.
God told us to forgive to glorify Him. It does not glorify Him when we pamper those who are evil. We can pray for them and refuse to act like them, but we should never excuse their sin.
Tuesday, January 8, 2019
Steady Trust in Christ or Emotional Melt Down
Knowing the tactics of the enemy of our soul (Satan) will allow us to refrain from taking any of it personally. What we do not take personally we do not react to, that's the rule.
Our response or reaction to the attacks of Satan says something about us. Either we have learned to remain trusting Christ or we are still living in our emotional space that trips us up.
We can ignore an insult, remove ourselves when we see a fight is brewing or we can respond to explain and defend which is only food for those who love to feel superior.
Proverbs 12:15-17 "…15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to counsel. 16 A fool’s anger is known at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult. 17 He who speaks the truth declares what is right, but a false witness speaks deceit."
Our response or reaction to the attacks of Satan says something about us. Either we have learned to remain trusting Christ or we are still living in our emotional space that trips us up.
We can ignore an insult, remove ourselves when we see a fight is brewing or we can respond to explain and defend which is only food for those who love to feel superior.
Proverbs 12:15-17 "…15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to counsel. 16 A fool’s anger is known at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult. 17 He who speaks the truth declares what is right, but a false witness speaks deceit."
All Believers Should Use Scripture
This was given to all believers, men women and children. No special class of people will have more wisdom simply because of their class, age or gender!


Blind Obedience to Human Authority is Sin
When God said "obey the elders" in the church gathering he was not saying to obey all that they want. The original language conveys this truth:
"be persuaded by the truth they proclaim."
In the case of obedience to elders in the church and husbands at home, we are to listen to them, evaluate what is said. If what is said lines up with truth from God's Word then we are to obey the truth of God's Word.
Following elders or husbands blindly no matter what they tell us to do is not only not Biblical it is foolish.
If we love our elders and if we love our husbands we will support them when they obey God and decline to obey them when they do not obey God.
We are never to be more loyal to a man, no matter who that man is, than we are to Christ.
Blind loyalty to a man is Satan's tool to destroy the one who chooses not to think for themselves and with the mind of Christ. Those who are blindly loyal hardly ever evaluate anything. They remain comfortable with whatever keeps the false peace of compromise.
The command to think with the mind of Christ is not just for the men, it is for the women too, even the children who are born again.
I have known many women who disobey God to obey their husband's false gospel. When this happens the husband is the god of the woman's life, not the God of the Bible. Both are in jeopardy of God's discipline and even wrath.
I can never forget a man who counseled a new believer, a woman, that she should obey her husband who wanted her to look at hard porn in their home because he was the leader. This was Satanic and evil. The damage that porn does to the delicate conscience of a new believer will drive her further from her husband if she becomes strong in the Lord or it has the potential of causing that woman to fall into worse immorality. Not to mention her personal witness to her husband of her dedication to Christ.
A woman can win an unsaved husband through her submission to Christ.
My advice to that new believer would have been to respectfully decline and remove herself from the room. If the husband were a believer doing this then it is the believing wife's responsibility to declare that it not be done in their home. If the believing husband would not comply then more drastic measures must be take to smash all the videos and the television to prevent evil from coming into her home. She is the keeper of her home and must take a stand with a believing husband.
Its hard to believe but there are many "professing Christians" who are indulging in porn these days, even pastors. The wives of these men need to demand that it be removed and never brought back into their home.
Ungodly pretenders will use the "submission card" to intimidate women into doing evil. Ladies you must become strong in the Lord and protect your home.
Job 11:14 "If iniquity is in your hand, put it far away, And do not let wickedness dwell in your tents;"
"be persuaded by the truth they proclaim."
In the case of obedience to elders in the church and husbands at home, we are to listen to them, evaluate what is said. If what is said lines up with truth from God's Word then we are to obey the truth of God's Word.
Following elders or husbands blindly no matter what they tell us to do is not only not Biblical it is foolish.
If we love our elders and if we love our husbands we will support them when they obey God and decline to obey them when they do not obey God.
We are never to be more loyal to a man, no matter who that man is, than we are to Christ.
Blind loyalty to a man is Satan's tool to destroy the one who chooses not to think for themselves and with the mind of Christ. Those who are blindly loyal hardly ever evaluate anything. They remain comfortable with whatever keeps the false peace of compromise.
The command to think with the mind of Christ is not just for the men, it is for the women too, even the children who are born again.
I have known many women who disobey God to obey their husband's false gospel. When this happens the husband is the god of the woman's life, not the God of the Bible. Both are in jeopardy of God's discipline and even wrath.
I can never forget a man who counseled a new believer, a woman, that she should obey her husband who wanted her to look at hard porn in their home because he was the leader. This was Satanic and evil. The damage that porn does to the delicate conscience of a new believer will drive her further from her husband if she becomes strong in the Lord or it has the potential of causing that woman to fall into worse immorality. Not to mention her personal witness to her husband of her dedication to Christ.
A woman can win an unsaved husband through her submission to Christ.
My advice to that new believer would have been to respectfully decline and remove herself from the room. If the husband were a believer doing this then it is the believing wife's responsibility to declare that it not be done in their home. If the believing husband would not comply then more drastic measures must be take to smash all the videos and the television to prevent evil from coming into her home. She is the keeper of her home and must take a stand with a believing husband.
Its hard to believe but there are many "professing Christians" who are indulging in porn these days, even pastors. The wives of these men need to demand that it be removed and never brought back into their home.
Ungodly pretenders will use the "submission card" to intimidate women into doing evil. Ladies you must become strong in the Lord and protect your home.
Job 11:14 "If iniquity is in your hand, put it far away, And do not let wickedness dwell in your tents;"
Satan Loves to Devalue
Satan is an abuser he loves to devalue and destroy human beings. If he can keep those who love God in a state of frustration and fear he can reduce their effectiveness for Christ. This is why we must trust Christ, see His truth and move forward, giving the narcissist no foot hold in our lives by listening to them.
When we base our worth or effectiveness on what others might think of us we will not be able to carry out God's plan for us as His children.
The abuser only thinks they know you, they have an idea of us that is only a concoction in their own mind, its not you at all. They choose to believe what they want to believe about you, not what is real. This is Satan's ploy to keep God's children fearful of rejection.
Envious people are very unhappy people bent on destroying those whom they envy. Satan is an envious being, angry that he could not be like God and even attempting to overthrow God. This shows us just how foolish he was. He was with God and should have known better, that God was far more infinitely powerful than he is.
This is the case with narcissists too, they have such a high view of their own importance that they cannot see how beggarly they are in reality. They believe they are superior to others therefore excusing themselves for their rudeness toward their targets.
Satan believed he was superior to the God Who made him. He was so infected with jealousy that he indoctrinated himself by his own thoughts that he could achieve the highest power.
Satan goes to the throne of grace every day accusing the brethren.
Revelation 12:10 "10 And I heard a loud voice in heaven, saying: “Now have come the salvation and the power and the kingdom of our God, and the authority of His Christ. For the accuser of our brothers has been thrown down, he who accuses them day and night before our God. "
Competitiveness is a demonstration of a need to be superior to others. There is no problem for one compete with themselves to improve at something. The problem comes when we feel a need to defeat others to be superior to them.
I see this in athletes all the time, they have a need to be better, faster and bigger than those around them. When they use physical prowess as a means of evaluating themselves they are missing the more important aspect of our being and that is the spiritual.
There is an aspect of sports that promotes team cooperation, this is good, to see the team as the purpose for doing well. Being an asset to the group to accomplish the goal is "others" focused. When a team thinks in terms of supporting one another to accomplish a goal, then there is true sportsmanship. Yes, the goal is to win but winning should never demean or destroy others to meet that goal.
In family dynamics we will often see a spirit of competitiveness to be superior. When this happens we as believers must resist the temptation to play the game. We must remain true to God's principles no matter how anyone else is acting.
Proverbs 6:12-16
"A worthless person, a wicked man, goes about with crooked speech, winks with his eyes, signals with his feet, points with his finger, with perverted heart devises evil, continually sowing discord; therefore calamity will come upon him suddenly; in a moment he will be broken beyond healing. There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him:"
We must train our minds to think like Christ while ignoring personal attacks, unless they are executed by believers who need a rebuke to get back to godliness.
Proverbs 28:1-28
"The wicked flee when no one pursues, but the righteous are bold as a lion. When a land transgresses, it has many rulers, but with a man of understanding and knowledge, its stability will long continue. A poor man who oppresses the poor is a beating rain that leaves no food. Those who forsake the law praise the wicked, but those who keep the law strive against them. Evil men do not understand justice, but those who seek the Lord understand it completely. ..."
Praise the Lord, we can live in this world without becoming like it.
Psalm 37:1
"Of David. Fret not yourself because of evildoers; be not envious of wrongdoers!"
Hebrews 13:6
"So we can confidently say, “The Lord is my helper; I will not fear; what can man do to me?”
Hallelujah!!!!
When we base our worth or effectiveness on what others might think of us we will not be able to carry out God's plan for us as His children.
The abuser only thinks they know you, they have an idea of us that is only a concoction in their own mind, its not you at all. They choose to believe what they want to believe about you, not what is real. This is Satan's ploy to keep God's children fearful of rejection.
Envious people are very unhappy people bent on destroying those whom they envy. Satan is an envious being, angry that he could not be like God and even attempting to overthrow God. This shows us just how foolish he was. He was with God and should have known better, that God was far more infinitely powerful than he is.
This is the case with narcissists too, they have such a high view of their own importance that they cannot see how beggarly they are in reality. They believe they are superior to others therefore excusing themselves for their rudeness toward their targets.
Satan believed he was superior to the God Who made him. He was so infected with jealousy that he indoctrinated himself by his own thoughts that he could achieve the highest power.
Satan goes to the throne of grace every day accusing the brethren.
Revelation 12:10 "10 And I heard a loud voice in heaven, saying: “Now have come the salvation and the power and the kingdom of our God, and the authority of His Christ. For the accuser of our brothers has been thrown down, he who accuses them day and night before our God. "
Competitiveness is a demonstration of a need to be superior to others. There is no problem for one compete with themselves to improve at something. The problem comes when we feel a need to defeat others to be superior to them.
I see this in athletes all the time, they have a need to be better, faster and bigger than those around them. When they use physical prowess as a means of evaluating themselves they are missing the more important aspect of our being and that is the spiritual.
There is an aspect of sports that promotes team cooperation, this is good, to see the team as the purpose for doing well. Being an asset to the group to accomplish the goal is "others" focused. When a team thinks in terms of supporting one another to accomplish a goal, then there is true sportsmanship. Yes, the goal is to win but winning should never demean or destroy others to meet that goal.
In family dynamics we will often see a spirit of competitiveness to be superior. When this happens we as believers must resist the temptation to play the game. We must remain true to God's principles no matter how anyone else is acting.
Proverbs 6:12-16
"A worthless person, a wicked man, goes about with crooked speech, winks with his eyes, signals with his feet, points with his finger, with perverted heart devises evil, continually sowing discord; therefore calamity will come upon him suddenly; in a moment he will be broken beyond healing. There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him:"
We must train our minds to think like Christ while ignoring personal attacks, unless they are executed by believers who need a rebuke to get back to godliness.
Proverbs 28:1-28
"The wicked flee when no one pursues, but the righteous are bold as a lion. When a land transgresses, it has many rulers, but with a man of understanding and knowledge, its stability will long continue. A poor man who oppresses the poor is a beating rain that leaves no food. Those who forsake the law praise the wicked, but those who keep the law strive against them. Evil men do not understand justice, but those who seek the Lord understand it completely. ..."
Praise the Lord, we can live in this world without becoming like it.
Psalm 37:1
"Of David. Fret not yourself because of evildoers; be not envious of wrongdoers!"
Hebrews 13:6
"So we can confidently say, “The Lord is my helper; I will not fear; what can man do to me?”
Hallelujah!!!!
Saturday, January 5, 2019
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