Enabling the Lazy

There are many takers in our culture now. Young people who feel a sense of entitlement to the money and things of others.

Notice too that those who demand to have our money, don't give to others and become angry when we begin to make them accountable.

Imagine that, being angry that someone else will not give them what they refuse to earn for themselves. Often those who are in financial trouble, have managed very badly the monies God did give them, wanting to be bailed out to continue business as usual.

They have no desire to listen to a plan that would help them develop skills making them wiser with money in the future. I have encountered those over the years who ask for help in the form of money, but when the offer of help came, to teach them how to manage what they do get, they become angry as though the offer was mean and selfish. When given the money, most often these people waste it on play things and pleasure, needing more later to pay the legitimate bills.

I am sure that many people reading this have experienced people like this, only to realize that those who wanted their money and their things, never wanted them.

When the request for help was revised to show them how to live without wasting, it was met with deep hostility, there never was love, respect or concern for us. When we encounter this we can count ourselves as "off the hook." Helping rebellious and lazy people to continue their lifestyle of wanton avarice while diminishing our own resources to do it, is in my estimation sin.

Psalm 37:21 "The wicked borrows and does not pay back, But the righteous is gracious and gives."

1 Peter 4:4 "In all this, they are surprised that you do not run with them into the same excesses of dissipation, and they malign you;"

As believers we are commanded to give freely, however that does not mean to those who waste and will not learn. We are to give needs and not necessarily desires. Giving a desire to a frugal person is a joy and encourages their frugality. However giving desires to wasteful people will only encourage further wastefulness.

I never have guilt when I offer to teach someone how to earn their own way or how to manage what they have, when they spurn teaching and training. I am a firm believer in promoting dignity through hard work and diligence in spending. I don't care about what anyone buys, as long as they use their own money, can afford it and are not in debt.

Proverbs 19:19 "A man of great anger will bear the penalty,
For if you rescue him, you will only have to do it again."

When we rescue lazy, rebellious and disrespectful people, we enable their sin, which makes us a party to their lifestyle.

Ephesians 5:6-7
"…6 Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience. 7 Therefore do not be partakers with them;