When the narcissist accuses you of anything, that you cannot figure out why they are thinking that of you, then you know they have assigned to you their own traits.
If a narcissist accuses you of lying, then you know they are lying or about to lie to you.
When the narcissist says you are angry, and you don’t feel angry, their purpose is to assign to you their own feelings of anger, or they want you to become angry so their feelings of guilt over the mistreatment of you will be justified or go away entirely.
When narcissists cannot cause you to become angry or get you to respond in a way that makes you look out of control, they will move on to flying monkeys who listen to all their lies about you, even mistreating you because of what the narcissist tells them.
The flying monkeys need no evidence, they merely have the narcissist on a pedestal and cannot believe the narcissist would ever tell a lie.
Not only do the narcissists lie, they do it calculatingly to control the perception of others and to cause a break down in their target. If they can get their target to look bad by their defense of themselves, they can validate everything the narc said about you, in the eyes of all the flying monkeys.
We only have to look at the serpent in the garden of Eden to see that these things are so. The first thing the serpent did with Eve was to deceive her into believing God told her a lie. Then he worked on her ego with flattery to get her to believe she knew God better than He knew her.
The narcissist chooses to believe they know others they target for abuse. They say and do things that are not true but pass them on as evidence to others how enjoy the gossip too.
Keep in mind that the narcissist gets worse when they have been discovered. They will work harder than ever to discredit, demean and mock us to others when they cannot be around us to do it to us.
After the devil influenced Eve through deception to disobey God, she then influenced others to do the same. The devil is never happy just hurting others, he must get others to hurt us too. Destruction by the numbers has always been the way of Satan.
In our modern age of apostasy we can expect this treatment, while learning to be happy alone with Christ. We can trust people until they prove they can no longer be trusted, then we must move on and make our lives without those who are manipulated by the devil.
A narcissist thinks they are in control of their own destiny, they are not, the devil has them firmly in his grip, using their mouth and manipulating their minds to believe lies. These people are pawns in the devil’s hands.
We know that the devil places thoughts in the minds of people through the account of Peter when he denied Christ three times. At one point God told the devil while looking at Peter, “get thee behind me ‘Satan.’” If you doubt that the devil uses people look at the account of Judas, who betrayed Christ and then went out and killed himself. Scripture to support this is at the end of the article.
When you hear gossip from narcissists, it is best to dismiss it, unless it pertains to you, then you must check it out thoroughly and even talk to others who were gossiped about. If others refuse to discuss the matter, then they have made the choice to believe the lie. Avoid people such as this, there will never be anything resolved with them and everything you say will be twisted and maligned as though you did a terrible things, even though all you wanted was to clear the air and reconcile a relationship.
There have been so many of these people in my life, controlled by the devil’s minions working to destroy believers, truth and our witness for Christ. These people must be removed from our lives, it is better they know nothing about us than for them to spread half truths about us and others we love.
Matthew 16:22-24 “…22 Peter took Him aside and began to rebuke Him. “Far be it from You, Lord!” he said. “This shall never happen to You!” 23 But Jesus turned and said to Peter, “Get behind Me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to Me. For you do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men.” 24 Then Jesus told His disciples, “If anyone would come after Me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow Me.…”
Luke 22:2-4 “…2 and the chief priests and scribes were looking for a way to put Jesus to death; for they feared the people. 3 Then Satan entered Judas Iscariot, who was one of the Twelve. 4 And Judas went to discuss with the chief priests and temple officers how he might betray Jesus to them.…”
Not all narcissists are possessed of the devil but all are controlled and manipulated by him.
John 13:21-30 “21 When Jesus had said this, He became troubled in spirit, and testified and said, “Truly, truly, I say to you, that one of you will [a]betray Me.”22 The disciples began looking at one another, at a loss to know of which one He was speaking. 23 There was reclining on Jesus’ bosom one of His disciples, whom Jesus loved. 24 So Simon Peter *gestured to him, and *said to him, “Tell us who it is of whom He is speaking.” 25 He, leaning back thus on Jesus’ bosom, *said to Him, “Lord, who is it?” 26 Jesus then *answered, “That is the one for whom I shall dip the morsel and give it to him.” So when He had dipped the morsel, He *took and *gave it to Judas, the son of Simon Iscariot. 27 After the morsel, Satan then entered into him. Therefore Jesus *said to him, “What you do, do quickly.” 28 Now no one of those reclining at the table knew for what purpose He had said this to him. 29 For some were supposing, because Judas had the money box, that Jesus was saying to him, “Buy the things we have need of for the feast”; or else, that he should give something to the poor. 30 So after receiving the morsel he went out immediately; and it was night.”
There are devils among us who seek our ruin. They may be those in a community or in family, but they are there and we must recognize who and what we are dealing with in order to remain unaffected by them.
Gray rock: Going gray rock a lot is helpful, that means that we show no emotion when we are attacked, we do not defend ourselves and we do not answer back any challenge, we simply remove ourselves. Remember…….one cannot reason with a narcissist, the more we talk to them the more food for their lies fodder for their plots and schemes.
We know we will be encountering this phenomena more intensely as the time grows near for the Lord’s return. Even the seculars are noticing an increase in the 2 Timothy 3 description of the wicked, and guess what…..this is a description in the apostate church, the world is even worse. The secular doesn’t know what it means or the answer to it, but they can describe it very well from their observations.
2 Timothy 3:1-5
“3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, [a]haters of good,4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 holding to a form of [b]godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these.”
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