I was listening to someone this morning that gave me one more tidbit of understanding into the mind of the narcissist.
This person said that since the narcissist is coming from the standpoint of feelings rather than facts, they are more often wrong than they are right.
This made so much sense to me. It also increased my understanding that this mentality is perpetuated by the devil who would rather use feelings than facts to control the thinking of those he wishes to use against God and against God's people. It also explained why the narcissists in my life disagree with nearly everything I say and do, nearly all the time. They can never validate anything I do because to validate me would be to "submit", something that is unthinkable to the narcissist.
It's not that they have seen something wrong in us, it's that they saw something right and it frightened and infuriated them. I once was told by a narcissist, "you think you are always right", but the fact was that the narcissist was projecting, He can never be wrong so he accuses me of what he is doing. This is a common tactic. The narcissist hates to be wrong, it is an injury they cannot tolerate and we know where that is coming from, the devil working the minds of those who have no defense against him.
A born again believer who is following Christ has no problem admitting they don't know something, in fact often they will say they don't know and then go to find the answer. They never "rage" at anyone over disagreements. Raging to intimidate others is a tactic only the devil would use. The devil loves to use unsaved people to accuse us of things that we are not doing, it disarms us, making us feel a sense of defensiveness.
Revelation 12:10
"Then I heard a loud voice in heaven, saying, "Now the salvation, and the power, and the kingdom of our God and the authority of His Christ have come, for the accuser (Satan) of our brethren has been thrown down, he who accuses them before our God day and night."
I am convinced that the Holy Spirit emanates from the soul of believers. When we are in the presence of those who are lost, He, the Holy Spirit, brings condemnation to their soul.
John 16:8 "8 And when He comes, He will convict the world in regard to sin and righteousness and judgment: 9 in regard to sin, because they do not believe in Me;…"
How can the Holy Spirit convict others of sin, He cannot be seen and does not speak audibly to those in our presence, but often there will be something about us that repels the non-believer.
There is a sense of uneasiness that comes when unbeliever are in the presence of the Holy Spirit. They think it is us, so they may concoct something about us that to explain their unease. Sadly they pass their concoction on to others as facts, maligning our character in an attempt to explain away their own feelings of fear.
Yes, the Holy Spirit frightens those who do not belong to Him. This is why they rage and accuse when we have done nothing wrong to them.
There are many pretenders in the church today, they claim they are Christians, but the name of Christ never rolls off their tongue, they are even embarrassed at the mention of Him or His principles. Some of these people may be infant believers who are still growing, but sadly a majority of them are people who have been in church all their lives, are past middle age now and have never grown past a controlling and intimidating mentality.
We cannot always know who is saved and who is not, but we can tell the truth and watch the reaction. Those in rebellion will hate truth and hate even worse if someone perceives them as wrong, even if it is only one time. We become a target for defeat by a narcissist for the rest of our lives over one or two disagreements.
Amos 5:10 "10 They hate him who reproves in the gate, And they abhor him who speaks with integrity. "
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