Have you ever encountered or lived with someone who rages every time you bring up something that concerns you?
When you approach this person with a reasonable request but they turn it into an argument instead of a discussion, you are left wondering why this happened and what you did to cause it?
When we encounter this kind of anger in someone who refuses to hear anything they choose not to hear, they will shut you down before you have a chance to say what needs to be said and then act as though you were the one causing trouble. It is a tactic to blame you for having a concern, and excuse themselves for not wanting to address the concern.
We are encountering this more in these last days described in 2 Timothy 3:1-5.
"3 But realize this, that in the last days perilous (ragingly insane) times will come.
2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these."
2 Timothy 4:2-4
"…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction.
3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires.
4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths."
Notice what God says in 2 Timothy 4? He tells us to keep on doing what we should, that is reproving, rebuking and encouraging in righteousness even though it will be met with hatred and anger. This takes the strength of the Holy Spirit!
Those who are seeking the Lord with all their heart do not become angry when someone wants to discuss something. The sad thing is that those who want to discuss a matter to resolve it will rarely be approached by anyone else to resolve something. People who are not interested in resolving things will avoid discussion all together except and unless they have a mentality to win over someone.
These people will not approach with kindness, they will do so to batter first to gain the upper hand. Their goal is not to resolve, it is to win over. Those who come to win over come to fight, without concern for what someone else might be thinking and going through in their life.
A young woman once approached me telling me she wanted to "fight it out", but I didn't even know what it was that she wanted to fight about. My response was that I wasn't interested in fighting anything out, I wanted to discuss reasonably, that means that each one tells their part and each one considers the concerns of the other. She was not interested in that so she just walked away. The fact that this woman was much younger than me and wanted to fight with me demonstrated her disrespect and angst toward me.
I am convinced now that sometimes people do mean things and don't remember them because it was a devil who influenced and worked through them. This is why narcissists often deny what they have done, they really don't remember doing it. They thought they had a good reason or it was simply too insignificant to retain in their memory.
As born again believer we want to be aware of everything we are doing in order to reflect God's character. When God shows us something wrong we want to take care of it quickly to resume on the path of righteousness.
James 1:19-20
"19 This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; 20 for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God."
Narcissists never listen to learn for the purpose of helping to resolve. If they do listen it is to find holes to poke in your concern to be able to justify themselves.
Keep looking up brothers and sisters, we can expect more of this anger and contempt from those who do not love our God.
When you approach this person with a reasonable request but they turn it into an argument instead of a discussion, you are left wondering why this happened and what you did to cause it?
When we encounter this kind of anger in someone who refuses to hear anything they choose not to hear, they will shut you down before you have a chance to say what needs to be said and then act as though you were the one causing trouble. It is a tactic to blame you for having a concern, and excuse themselves for not wanting to address the concern.
We are encountering this more in these last days described in 2 Timothy 3:1-5.
"3 But realize this, that in the last days perilous (ragingly insane) times will come.
2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these."
2 Timothy 4:2-4
"…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction.
3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires.
4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths."
Notice what God says in 2 Timothy 4? He tells us to keep on doing what we should, that is reproving, rebuking and encouraging in righteousness even though it will be met with hatred and anger. This takes the strength of the Holy Spirit!
Those who are seeking the Lord with all their heart do not become angry when someone wants to discuss something. The sad thing is that those who want to discuss a matter to resolve it will rarely be approached by anyone else to resolve something. People who are not interested in resolving things will avoid discussion all together except and unless they have a mentality to win over someone.
These people will not approach with kindness, they will do so to batter first to gain the upper hand. Their goal is not to resolve, it is to win over. Those who come to win over come to fight, without concern for what someone else might be thinking and going through in their life.
A young woman once approached me telling me she wanted to "fight it out", but I didn't even know what it was that she wanted to fight about. My response was that I wasn't interested in fighting anything out, I wanted to discuss reasonably, that means that each one tells their part and each one considers the concerns of the other. She was not interested in that so she just walked away. The fact that this woman was much younger than me and wanted to fight with me demonstrated her disrespect and angst toward me.
I am convinced now that sometimes people do mean things and don't remember them because it was a devil who influenced and worked through them. This is why narcissists often deny what they have done, they really don't remember doing it. They thought they had a good reason or it was simply too insignificant to retain in their memory.
As born again believer we want to be aware of everything we are doing in order to reflect God's character. When God shows us something wrong we want to take care of it quickly to resume on the path of righteousness.
James 1:19-20
"19 This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; 20 for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God."
Narcissists never listen to learn for the purpose of helping to resolve. If they do listen it is to find holes to poke in your concern to be able to justify themselves.
Keep looking up brothers and sisters, we can expect more of this anger and contempt from those who do not love our God.
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