The Truth Godly Wives

Be very cautious about judging a woman as leading over her husband when you do not live in the household.

There are woman who love the Lord, they walk uprightly desiring to please the Lord in all their ways, however, they are married to men who are either not saved or who are Christians who do not lead. These men provoke their wives through their disobedience to God.

When a woman is following hard after Christ while living in a home with a man who does not lead, she is not usurping him, she is merely following Christ and often the unsaved or lazy husband will follow her.

It is not the desire of the woman who loves Christ to lead over her husband, it is her desire to obey Christ even if no one comes with her. Often the husband follows her because its a safe place to be. This lazy husband will not lead even if the woman were to stop obeying God, because he has no desire to lead anyone, except when it benefits him personally.

I have met many women like this, they want righteousness in their home but their spouse does not care anything about that. In these cases the woman must speak truth as led by the Holy Spirit and she must obey God even when her husband refuses.

Everyone of us will stand before God on the day of judgment and no one will be asked "who made you live this way?" God will focus on our own obedience to Him first.

1 Peter 3:7
"Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered."

More husbands violate this passage than any other! They do not honor their wives and they train the children by their dishonor to also dishonor their mother.

Men who do not obey this passage often experience silence from God when they pray. They have no interest in honoring their wife, their prayers are not answered but they can't figure out why.

SO......what is the answer to this problem of disobedient husbands, I write now to the wives. The answer is simple, keep in prayer continually, walk as the Holy Spirit tells you to walk and do not operate in the relationships with your husband according to your feelings. You will feel frustrated and lonely at times, do not engage with him when these feelings are present.

Calmly speak truth AS LED BY THE HOLY SPIRIT and do not respond to accusations and rage. If you, the wife have done something unkind then make it right by apologizing for your responses in anger and go on to do better next time.

Some husbands will deliberately attempt to start fights over things in which there should be no fight, but the wife does not have to fight, she can choose not to respond.

Do all you can to love your husband, serve him with proper boundaries and remain faithful to God even when he is not.

1 Peter 3:1
"Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives,"

Those who will judge a wife who is faithful to God as sinning when she has to say no to the request by her husband to sin, are not to be regarded as friends, remove them and carry on with Christ Who lives in you.

No husband has been brought to the Lord by a woman obeying his sin. However a husband can be influenced for Christ because she follows hard after Christ. When a husband sees a woman willing to be rejected to follow Christ it shows the husband how much she loves God.

NOW : "Stay calm and carry on", as the British phrase goes! Never allow the unsaved or lazy husband to keep you in a state of frustration and depression, simply give all your feelings to God and keep going. Never operate from your feelings, always operate from truth.