"Helpmeet" the Counselor

The word "helpmeet" was given to one who would be a counselor that is the woman. When Eve neglected her job of helping the man in Spiritual matters and life principles she went out on her own to disobey God. Rather than discussing the matter with her husband she merely believed the snake allowing her emotions to carry her to forbidden actions. She counseled her husband to follow the snake and mankind became cursed because of it.

This ought to tell us how powerful the wife is in the life of a husband. She has been given that power by God, but in Eve's case she misused it to influence her husband to follow her and the snake instead of to follow God.

God knew that the man was spiritually incomplete without Eve's encouragement and counsel. To leave the husband alone to figure things out all by himself is like a ship without a rutter. What is more important, the ship or the rudder? They are equally important.

Adam was commanded to lead his wife, but instead, he chose to follow her. He could have taken the fruit from her hand and said no to her, but he chose to follow the wrong way. They both fell down on their God-given responsibility to lead and to counsel correctly according to God's commands.

James 3:4-5 "4 Consider ships as well. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot is inclined. 5 In the same way, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it boasts of great things. Consider how small a spark sets a great forest ablaze."

In this passage we see how powerful the woman's words and guidance are, they are either a blessing or a curse to husbands.

Men can be deeply encouraged or deeply discouraged by the words and overall mentality of a woman. God said it was not good that man be alone, he needs the support and guidance of his wife.

In a cursory study of the word "helpmeet", we find that the woman is the completion of man, she is the other half of him that is lacking. He has attributes his wife does not have and she has attributes her husband does not have, they are the completion of one another.

Neither is above the other but each has unique qualities that the other one must have to be complete.

In our culture we often find men mocking women for thinking a certain way and women mocking men for thinking a certain way, this is contrary to God's design. To mock how God made men is to deny His purpose in the marriage. And to deny how God made women is to deny His purpose in the marriage.

Men and women were created for different tasks appropriate to their genders. One is not better than the other, both are needed, they are both equal and needed.

Sadly in our day women are refusing to admit their own gender roles. It is sort of strange that instead of women embracing their role and purpose they want to be like the man as though his role is better and preferable.

Ask any woman's libber which role is better she will avoid the subject. To want to be like the man she is declaring she is nothing unless she is like a man.

A woman's role as God has given to the woman is powerful, to step out of the role is to place the woman in a role that negates her natural bent.

To see her natural bent as worthless to the degree that she must be like the other person is to declare her own being is not worthy of acceptance.

The women's libbers are basically saying they are worthless unless they become like men. This is absolute foolishness flying in the face of the womans' natural, God-given and blessed abilities.

Families have been destroyed by self-denigrating women who hate their own bodies and their own abilities.

Wise women accept and love how God made them. They are an asset to their husbands because they have remained in the role God gave them and they excel at it because of their love for God first and their husband and children.

Those who have bought into the women's libber concept of accomplishment have denied themselves the joy and pleasure of their own God-given gender qualities. I feel sorry for them, they have destroyed their families, ruined communities, and ultimately frustrated their children.

The word "helpmeet" engenders the connotation of "the opposite", meaning the woman is the opposite of man and the man is the opposite of woman, making the two together complete. There is greater power in a team than there is in an individual.

Each gender in a marriage must be allowed to freely exercise their God-given roles with support from their spouse.

The man does not dictate to the woman her daily tasks and the woman does not dictate to the husband his daily task, they each support the decisions of the others' roles while counseling one another based on their gender qualities.

No man/woman is an island as they say, everyone needs counseling and everyone needs support. As we exercise our roles we take into account the desires and needs of our partners in life, those whom we have committed to in marriage. Because we love them we care what they think, how they feel and about their safety. But most of all we care deeply about their Spiritual well-being, this takes priority over every single thing.

Proverbs 3:5-7 "…5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; 6 in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight. 7 Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and turn away from evil.…"

Those who think they are wise in their own eyes will not listen to their spouse, will mock and demean those who care about them. The most destructive attitude in any relationship is the mentality that we are so wise we need not hear from anyone else.

May those who are born-again see the value of living out the marriage the way God intended that not only will the family be secure as far as they have obeyed, but also the Christian example will be seen by those in the community as one blessed by God.

Our greatest witness to the world is in the way we live our lives and the joy we possess because we trust Christ every day. Hallelujah!!!!