Labels are not Needed, Actions and Attitudes are Enough

We have no need to label anyone as narcissistic, all we have to do is evaluate how they treat us and others and that will determine what we do.

If a "friend or "relative" consistently devalues you, disrespects you, dismisses you as insignificant, lies to us consistently, if they are doing things to hurt you and feel nothing about that or claim they didn't do it, and finally if their values do not align with our own then this person is not a friend.

When we evaluate a relationship based on our desired path for life and our "friend or family" continually negates it, demeans it or attempts to sabotage it, then we must build a boundary to keep them at bay.

Those who are continually defending themselves and will never admit to flaws and who resist correction will be contentious people. Kind and loving people will admit things which is why they grow emotionally and spiritually mature.

Titus 3:9

"9 But avoid foolish controversies and genealogies and strife and disputes about the Law, for they are useless and worthless."

1 Corinthians 3:3

"3 for you are still fleshly. For since there is jealousy and strife among you, are you not fleshly, and are you not walking like ordinary people?"

Philippians 2:14-15 " 14 Do everything without complaining or arguing, 15 so that you may be blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and perverse generation, in which you shine as lights in the world…"

2 Timothy 2:14

"14 Remind them of these things, and solemnly exhort them in the presence of God not to dispute about words, which is useless and leads to the ruin of the listeners."

If a "friend or family member" gossips about us, makes unfounded judgments based on that gossip, or repeats things to others about us that are none of their business, then the boundary wall must go up.