Forgiving While Neglecting the Command to Confess!

Why do so many people quote verses about forgiving but neglect the ones that say to confess and repent? Both are necessary and two sides of the same coin.

When we say to one person to "forgive" but don't say to the offender to "confess", we are playing favorites, the offender skates to plunder another day but the offended must grovel before the offender. Makes no sense according to the Bible.

And, let me be clear, we don't become bitter when someone will not confess to become forgiven, the one who will not repent is bitter.

Born-again believers love to forgive when there is genuine repentance, but also know that the offenders remains in his sorry state without growth or peace until they repent. To say we forgive for our own sake is selfish, we ought to be concerned for the relationship and reconciliation based on that whole coin; confession and forgiveness.

Also, it is a form of bad parenting to allow offenders to have no consequences for their actions.

Luke 17:3-4

"If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him. And if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times in a day returns to you, saying, 'I repent,' you shall forgive him.”

Notice in this passage that the offender is coming to say I repent every single time. Why do so many people ignore this!?