Commitment Christ's Way

Living with a woman before she is married to you is the ultimate disrespect toward her.

Living with a man before he is married to you is also the ultimate disrespect toward him.

If someone wants to move into your home or into theirs, without committing to you for a lifetime, that is the only clue you need to know this person is a narcissist, and mean spirited jerk. Get away from them as fast as you can, they do not love you.

Someone who loves, shows it by caring more about your long term welfare more than he/she does about their own fleshly desires.

Marriage is a commitment, if someone has no desire to commit to you the rest of their lives through all the hard stuff as well as the happy things, they don't love you. They also don't deserve the perks that marriage affords.

When we love someone we delight in serving them, we delight in helping them and we delight in their happiness. SEE THAT, it's all about THEIR welfare.

We should be careful not to allow others to manipulate us into disobeying God. If a potential spouse is constantly working to undermine your walk with Christ, then they are not for you.

You have to make a choice, "do you want to walk with Christ or do you want to chain yourself to someone who refuses to respect your walk"?

The man of god who walks with Christ would never ask you to do anything that would destroy your soul by mocking your Christian principles. It is a form of mocking to ask us to do things, or live ways, that would cause us to diminish in our spirit as we disobey our God.

Ladies and Gentlemen, ignore your infatuation in someone's appearance, to think clearly about who they are as a person. Look to their character, their desires and how they live them, to see if this is husband or wife material.

Do not listen to the foolish people who tell you to "follow your heart." Our hearts deceive us, the heart focuses on the feelings of security, happiness and personal enjoyment, rarely do our feelings ponder the character of someone.

Superficial dating for fun is a disaster waiting to happen. When we connect with someone over pleasure it is very hard to detach from a bond like this. Letting go from pleasure is sort of like a gambling addiction, even though someone may know they should stop, the pleasure and the thrill keeps them in bondage to that addiction. The same can be true of a relationship that is based on pleasure.

When the pleasure ends and the real life situations are no longer fun, then is when hearts get broken because things are no longer fun anymore, those who use others bolt.

True friendship is based on love, love as defined by commitment and devotion to a person no matter what the struggle. We want to be involved in the struggles of those we love to be helpful. A narcissist hates to have to forego their own things to help anyone else.

Christ was committed to mankind but mankind wasn't to Him. Christ bled and died for others, even healing them and their response to Him was to call Him a liar and murder Him.

When we see how Christ responded to mankind, out of the deepest kind of love, warning them, healing them and dying for them, then we can see how we should be for others.

When others are not interested Christ walked away, but the offer still remains, confess and there is forgiveness available, unless those who reject remain rebellious, then they will die in their rebellion and end up in hell.