Bullying Others is not God's Way

There is a growing faction within Christendom that practice "bullying" as their form of leadership in the home and in the church.

This mentality that real men bully, is demonically inspired as well as the opposite of what Christ taught in His Word the Bible.

1 Peter 5:3
"Not domineering over those in your charge, but being examples to the flock."

Titus 1:7
"For an overseer, as God's steward, must be above reproach. He must not be arrogant or quick-tempered or a drunkard or violent or greedy for gain,"

1 Peter 5:1-4 "5 Therefore, I exhort the elders among you, as your fellow elder and witness of the sufferings of Christ, and a partaker also of the glory that is to be revealed, 2 shepherd the flock of God among you, exercising oversight not under compulsion, but voluntarily, according to the will of God; and not for sordid gain, but with eagerness; 3 nor yet as lording it over those allotted to your charge, but proving to be examples to the flock. 4 And when the Chief Shepherd appears, you will receive the unfading crown of glory. 5 You younger men, likewise, be subject to your elders; and all of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, for God is opposed to the proud, but gives grace to the humble."

When we encounter a bully in the pulpit or in families we know they are not obeying God. Christ commanded the leaders of families and in church gatherings to be humble, sacrificial and loving.

There lacks humility and love in anyone who thinks they need to bully to force others to adhere to their idea of righteousness. When the Bible is ignored in order to follow man's traditions, or when the Bible is twisted to justify sin, we know that leader does not belong in a leadership position.

Those who dominate over others, punish and coerce those who are under them are using human desire to control others, this si not of God nor is it helpful.

God told the leaders of families to love their wives as Christ loved the church. Christ died for the church, He taught and encouraged in the way of righteousness. He never at any time forced people through manipulation or demeaning to do His will. He spoke truth and left the decision to the hearer.

Notice an interesting truth, our heart is never changed by bullying. Our outward actions can change to avoid further bullying, but the heart remains the same. When the heart is allowed to be what it is, it can choose to believe truth or not. When a heart decides to believe truth the outer actions will change. The bullying does nothing for the heart, but it might get people to do things our way so we are fulled into believing there has been a change, but only the actions have changed not the heart.

Those who depend on outward appearances to "feel" better or as thought they had an affect, that some actions have changed are living a dilution. These narcissists who believe in bullying others to think as they do are not doing it to honor God, but rather merely to feed their pride that they were able to get someone to do what they wanted.

Bullying to force people to accept your own way is not godly it is demonic.

James 3:1-18
"Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness. For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body. If we put bits into the mouths of horses so that they obey us, we guide their whole bodies as well. Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! ..."