Narcissists Accuse in Generalities

Narcissists accuse others in generalities. We see this in politics all the time.

The narcissist will say, "he/she is mean spirited", "he/she is a liar", "he/she is manipulative, boring or self righteous", without any specifics that prove these things to be true.

When a narcissist tells us something general about a person it might be good to ask exactly what they did or do that proves this point. Generally when a narcissist is asked to prove their point with specifics they become angry, even raging at the person who challenged them for proof.

Perhaps the challenge was a mild questioning as to why they think the way they do, is seen as a personal attack. A narcissist expects to be believed whether or not there is evidence of what they are asserting.

When we see accusations against others or ourselves in generalities we are wise to dismiss them entirely as one person's opinion. And, we can expect that someone who speaks in generalities often is lying. Those who have evidence and believe what they are saying will be glad to share why they think the way they do.

There are many lies flying around in families today based on nothing more than one person's "feelings" when they are around this person.

The Pharisees had bad feelings when they were around Christ because they didn't like the conviction that came over them in His presence.

To the narcissist feelings are on the same level with facts in their mind. If they feel bad around you, then something is wrong with you. The narcissist must find a reason you are bad, but all they have is generalities based on how they feel, not on what you did or said.

Truth tellers will always be a target for their assertiveness and resolve to resolve things. Narcissists hate resolution and they hate being wrong. They will hold fast to their belief even when it is proven wrong. Once again blaming the truth teller for speaking truth, while coddling the wicked one whom they wish to believe is a good person.

This is what happens often in families where a scapegoat has been abused emotionally or sexually for years and finally decides to tell the truth. Often the disordered families believe the wicked persons' denial and reject the victim.

Because most people are dedicated more to their own good feelings than they are to truth and love for the victims, they end up punishing the victim and supporting the wicked person.

Isaian 26:10-11 "Though grace is shown to the wicked man, he does not learn righteousness. In the land of righteousness he acts unjustly and fails to see the majesty of the LORD. 11 O LORD, Your hand is upraised, but they do not see it. They will see Your zeal for Your people, and be put to shame. The fire set for Your enemies will consume them!…"

In other words one cannot reason with a wicked man, they are unreasonable liars.

Proverbs 29:26-27 "…26 Many seek the ruler’s favor, but a man receives justice from the LORD. 27 An unjust man is detestable to the righteous, and one whose way is upright is detestable to the wicked."

If you have told the truth in your effort to walk with Christ then the lies of the narcissist are on them, it has nothing to do with you. Shake off the dust from your feet and carry on with others who love the Lord.