Christ gave the job of CEO of her household to the woman and the job of protecting and providing for his wife to the husband.
There is not one scripture that demonstrates a hostile dictatorship in the home where the wife operates in the capacity of the slave to the man. Disrespect for women will result in spiritual and emotional wife abuse.
The rib to make Eve was taken from Adam's side, not from his feet. Each is to work together in their life, not one working and the other dictating.
Women are instructed by God to choose to honor her husband. She honors him by helping him make right decisions as well as obeying him when he obeys God.
There is no scripture that instructs a man to intimidate, mock, demean and silence a woman in order to control her. The man is never commanded to "control his wife." A man that sees his wife as a useful object to do his every bidding is an evil man.
Men who do not respect women, using their power to demean, harm and use as objects are not only not walking with Christ but very likely are not born again.
Now, after saying all that we can learn what a good wife looks like from the pages of Scripture. She loves homemaking as described in Proverbs 31. She is continually available to her husband to help him succeed in his calling, whatever that may be.
The Biblical wife counsels her husband, is involved in community cherity work as well as managing her home the way a CEO would manage a business.
God says that a woman who does these things will make her husband look good in the city gates.
This woman will not be mousy but bold and forthright in order to be steadfast in her decisions for the household.
Her husband safely trusts her with important decisions, that she would not have to consult with him for everything.
When a man must control every aspect of the household he oversteps the bounds of the woman's role given to her by God. In this sense he usurps God's authority by monitoring and micro-managing the duties of the wife.
The wife is serving all the time and so is the husband. Each in their own way according to God's directions.
If one party is always served and the other one is always serving then there is imbalance and sin in the marriage. Someone is not obeying God.
Ephesians 5:21-6:4
"21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God."
The command to submit one to another is for all believers to all believers, the marriage bond is no different.
If a husband is requiring submission but will not submit himself then he is in rebellion against God and demonstrating disrespect to his wife. If the wife will not submit to her husband then she is also disrespectful.
It is not disrespectful to take a stand against evil, nor is it disrespectful to speak our minds boldly. Disrespect comes when someone is not allowed to voice their opinion or take a stand for things that are spiritually important.
When there is good communication there will be mutual interest in one another's thoughts.
Our husbands should not be masters over our slavery. They should be our friend and confidant, partner in life and leader.
A leader is one who seeks the best for those he leads and serves. Leadership is not the same as dictatorship. Leading by loving, sacrificing and providing for those in their care is God's way.
Demanding, demeaning, intimidating and contempt is the devil's way.
Think about it!
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