Responsibilities of Adult Children

If you are healthy and over 18 your parents are no longer responsible for you. You have finished your education now is the time to get out of your parents house and into the work force.

Parents who continually bring their adult children back into the house after they have moved out are not helping them. Its possible that parents who do this are selfish, the are more concerned about being lonely than they are about the well being of their adult child.

When we remove all struggle from our adult children's lives we are robbing them of an opportunity to mature. Struggle brings about thinking that produces solutions to problems.

The best inventions were created because of a need or struggle.

Coddling adult children is insulting to them. Its the same as saying "I know you just don't have the strength or maturity to make it on your own." This mentality sends the message that "Mommy and Daddy" will always step up and bail little Rusty out of his troubles at the slightest inconvenience. Personally I think its demeaning and insulting to suggest they cannot make it without their Mummys!!!

Its amazing how resourceful a person can become when they are faced with having to use their brain power to find solutions. When a solution is found they can feel a sense of pride that they worked it out.

When Mummy and Daddy bail out adult children they are robbed of that sense that they made it without having to revert to infancy in depending on their parents. Parents who allow their children to return to the nest after leaving are emotionally immature themselves.

By the way..............Aging parents should be cared for by their children not their children by their aging parents. In our culture of entitlement children have been taught to always depend on their parents, the opposite of what God teaches in His Word.

1 Timothy 5:3-4
"3 Honor widows who are truly widows. 4 But if a widow has children or grandchildren, let them first learn to show godliness to their own household and to make some return to their parents, for this is pleasing in the sight of God."

1 Timothy 5:8
"8 But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."

1 Timothy 5:16
"16 If any woman who is a believer has dependent widows, she must assist them and the church must not be burdened, so that it may assist those who are widows indeed."

Ephesians 6:2-3 “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), 3 “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.”

The command to honor parents does not end when we grow up, it continues until the day our parents die.

It is dishonoring to parents to expect them to foot the bill for a lazy child. We are not all capable of making lots of money but we can work at something and be frugal with the money we get. God will bless a child who works hard and diligently plans well with his money.

There are always blessing associated with honoring our parents and obedience in every other area of our lives.

1 Samuel "15:22 And Samuel said, “Has the LORD as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to listen than the fat of rams."

If there is a tragedy that comes to an adult child not of his own making then he must return to his parents home placing himself under the rules and authority of that home.