Respect and Honor

Very often we think we are respecting a persons’ position, simply by withholding our anger at them when we disagree. Respect of ones position of authority is much more than just withholding our guile toward them. It is demonstrated in the way we address them, and can be seen in our attitude of inattentiveness to their conversation.  

One way of showing disrespect is "dismissivness" or "non-responsiveness." These two attitudes show us that there is disrespect coming from a person even though they may think they are hiding their hostile feelings from us.  

When we speak, they ignore what we say, and respond enthusiastically to others in the room to show their preference for the others, but disdain for us. This is much more common than we realize, and at times the perpetrator doesn't know they are doing it.  They are so wrapped up in themselves that what is inside comes out even without their awareness. 

Another sign that we have encountered competition and hostility, is the manner in which someone may choose to address us.  If we are being addressed by our first name by someone who normally would be expected to call us Mr. or Mrs. Or even Dad or Mom, we know we are encountering rebellion against perceived authority or position.

We live in a culture that has denigrated authority, has disregard for positions of prominence, as though there is an evil attached to any form of hierarchy.  Many of these same people who will not subordinate themselves to an older persons’ position, will demand respect for their authority when they feel it is warranted. 

Can we spell…”Narcissism” here? 

Our culture is becoming more and more inconsistent in our demands.  We say “follow my authority” but we do not want to follow anyone else’s authority.  This is the same double standard that we saw in the days when we heard quotes like this, “don’t do what I do, do what I say.”  What an immensely frustrating statement to those who desire to be respected, but are treated as insignificant and unworthy of fair treatment.

When we cannot humble ourselves before others, we cannot have a close walk with the Lord.  God says in James 4:6 “But He gives more grace. Therefore He says: "God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble." 

The Lord does not bless those who will not obey Him and He will not bless those who will not submit to others.  When we feel the Lord is not hearing us, we may be right.  It is best to ask the Lord to show us, as David prayed in Psalm 139:24 "And see if [there is any] wicked way in me, And lead me in the way everlasting."

I found a very good article by Dr. George Simon that describes the tactic of leveling that is used often today to throw us off our guard and cause us to believe we have done something wrong or evil in just attempting to clarify a situation or ask for a modifying of the actions of someone who is harming us. 

I am thankful for Dr. Simon’s writings and work, he clearly shows our culture and the attempts of many people to control others by manipulation and intimidation.  Our culture is getting worse, it is good to know what we are up against, to be able to withstand the darts of the devil and remain strong for the Lord no matter what comes.  Here is the article, well worth our time, not only for the victims of these people but also for those who may find themselves engaged in ungodly behavior from selfish motives.  May anyone reading this, gain insight into themselves and others.

http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/04/01/leveling-as-manipulation-tactic/