Everything Counts for Eternity

Narcissists process information the opposite way their target sees things.

The narcissist will interpret events in terms of how they feel far more often than what really happened.

If we give a gift to a narcissist they will feel guilty for not giving you one so they believe you gave them the gift to make them feel guilty. It is not possible to please a narcissist because all their actions and reactions are filtered through their own perverted sieve.

If the narcissist calls you to invite you on a trip with them and you politely say you cannot go because you have other plans, the narcissist will believe you are being rude and disinterested for not accepting. Why? Because in the narcissist's mind you are in control of whether or not you will go on the trip. The narcissist hates not being in control of others.

If a narcissist hears you try to explain something to help them they will interpret your helpfulness as a bossy power grab. They do this because if they were helping someone in that same way they would be doing it to control and boss others. The narcissist also thinks they know everything, in order to remain in a superior position they must pretend they do not need your help.

When we share our concerns about something that happened with the narcissist they take it as a personal attack because if they were sharing the same thing with us they would be attacking our character or our motives, even though they don't have an inkling of what our character is or our motives.

Narcissists do not pay enough attention to anyone else to be able to know them deeply. Everything they guess about their friends is just that, a guess because we cannot know the heart of others without listening to them, responding to them and above all actually being interested in them as a person.

A narcissist is continually thinking everyone else thinks just the way they do, but it is not true, the narcissist has very strange and disordered thinking to the point that it moves beyond rational and reasonable normal human reactions.

I have seen narcissists blow up in anger at a simple and mild disagreement as though we did not have a right to disagree. For the narcissist, a disagreement is tantamount to hating them. Why? Because when the narcissist disagrees he is also hating. Narcissists are so sensitive that they see everything that is not just like them as opposed to their very being.

Narcissists have black and white as well as extreme thinking. If you agree with the narcissist you are wonderful and their best friend. If you disagree with a narcissist you are a terrible person worthy of disrespect.

One time I gave a gift to a narcissist, they acted almost angry and disinterested in the gift. I thought it was strange until I discerned later after prayer that when the narcissist gives a gift they are doing it to manipulate and control someone else. Because they would be manipulating and controlling others with a gift they think a gift given to them is manipulation and control over them.

Narcissists also do not like giving many gifts because giving a gift if it were genuine would be a form of deferring to another human being, leaving the narcissist vulnerable to the reactions of the person to whom they gave the gift.

Narcissists are not able to see anything beyond their own thinking which is twisted. They interpret events and actions of others in terms of how they personally feel, not the way a normally rational person would act.

When a narcissist is jealous of you they will interpret everything you do in the way they wish to view you, that is mean and hateful. Jealousy is not very rational, it is based on the thinking that says; "if you have something I don't have I hate you for it." It doesn't even matter if you share your blessing with them, they will be jealous that you were the one sharing, they were not the center of attention.

Everyone has a little narcissism in them. However, born-again believers who have the fruit of the Spirit will recognize their sin of jealousy before it becomes words or actions. If they have a weak moment and do something mean or rude they will quickly apologize. A born-again believer hates the sin in their flesh and keeps it at bay through prayer and confession to be cleansed. 1 John 1:9

Born again believers do not live a lifestyle of meanness and contention, they are hard-wired to be kind after Christ changed them into a new creation.

The character of the born-again believer has been completely changed into the mind of Christ. Trapped in this body of sinful flesh the born-again believer fights their flesh constantly through prayer and confession until the ways of Christ become natural for them.

God said "you shall know them by their fruit",

Matthew 7:15-20

You Will Know Them by Their Fruit

15 “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. 16 You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? 17 Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Therefore by their fruits you will know them."

Galatians 5:22-23

"22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."

Those who are born again can discern those who claim to be Christians but do not have the fruit of the Holy Spirit. These things are Spiritually discerned. They cannot be seen by the human eye or by works.

Works can be an indicator but they are not the strong evidence. Even hateful unbelievers can have good works at times. The fruit of the Holy Spirit are the character qualities exhibited by the Spirit Who lives in us.

The full-blown narcissist will never self-reflect to see if there be any wicked way in them. The born-again believer does this continually, every time a wrong attitude rears its ugly head the born-again believer senses shame and immediately confesses it to be cleansed.

1 John 1:9

"9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous, so that He will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

We are cleansed from sin in direct proportions to how often we confess each thing. The more we confess the less we act sinfully.

"We are not sinless but we do sin less", as one preacher once said. We ought to be growing more holy all the time. Each new life experience reveals a little more that needs to be confessed and then cleansed.

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Our difficulties in life do not cause us to be sinful, they reveal the sin that was already inside of us. God allows difficulties to come so that we can see in ourselves what needs work. We do not work to be cleansed in the flesh, we confess to God and He changes our heart.

Have you ever heard of a person who lived a wonderful respectful life, the pillar of the town everyone thought had no sin at all, but who ended up doing something terrible, seemingly out of character? I have known a few of these kinds of people. They had not changed into something brand new when they went off the rails. They went off into sin because in their heart all along was hidden sin no one else could see. They were pretending to be something on the outside for others to see that was not the real them. It reveals a continually impure thought life until the thoughts become action.

If we do not care about sin enough to confess it to God and those we have harmed then He will not cleanse us. He will leave us in our sin to grow worse and worse until we can no longer stand the consequences that ultimately come. When we come to the end of ourselves and are ready to confess asking Christ to change our hearts, then He will do a mighty work in us. We ought to be far different in our character a year from now than we are now.

Ephesians 2:10

"10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them."

His workmanship, is an important phrase. He is the One Who saves us when we confess our sinfulness and want Him to change us. He sends the Holy Spirit to live in us as a promise that we belong to Him. Then He begins the cleansing process all our lives.

Ephesians 1:13-15 "…13 And in Him, having heard and believed the word of truth—the gospel of your salvation—you were sealed with the promised Holy Spirit, 14 who is the pledge of our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God’s possession, to the praise of His glory. 15 For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints,…"

The Holy Spirit is the sealing of the promise that we belong to Christ. He will never leave us as God said, but He will discipline us when we become self-willed.

Hebrews 12:5-7 "…5 And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not take lightly the discipline of the Lord, and do not lose heart when He rebukes you. 6 For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises every son He receives.” 7 Endure suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?…"

All discipline God sends for His children has a purpose, that is Spiritual growth and wisdom to be used as He leads. And, even though I cannot point to scripture to prove this next point, I am convinced of it, unless someone else can prove otherwise with scripture.

Here is the other point: I believe everything we learn on this earth, all the lessons God has for us will serve us in the Millennium when we rule with Him.

Now, this is just human logic, but I have to believe all that we learn here will have a purpose beyond just this life. I am convinced this is Bootcamp for training that will be useful in the Millennium. It really does matter how we live our lives here on earth right now.

Romans 8:28

"28 And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose."

Challenges that Cause Spiritual Growth

No one should ever be angry at a rational and reasonable challenge.

I see challenges as a good thing. Challenges do two things if I am right and the challenge is wrong it hones my skills in giving a good answer.

If I am wrong it causes me to go to God seeking Him and a growth spurt happens.

Anyone who sees a challenge to them as a reason to fight and argue then is a person who is far too elevated in their own minds. Anger is almost always a clue that someone is unteachable walking in pride.

1 Thessalonians 5:11

"11 Therefore, encourage one another and build one another up, just as you also are doing."

Flattery does not build up it tears down. Encouragement to go on to greater holiness builds up. Coaching someone to go the right way when they are on the wrong path is the definition of encouragement.

The Definition of Encouragement: "the action of giving someone support, confidence, or hope."

"Persuasion to do or to continue something.

"The act of trying to stimulate the development of an activity, state, or belief."

Flattery is not encouragement, in fact flattery has torn down more people than it has helped.

Proverbs 26:24-28

"Whoever hates disguises himself with his lips and harbors deceit in his heart; when he speaks graciously, believe him not, for there are seven abominations in his heart; though his hatred be covered with deception, his wickedness will be exposed in the assembly. Whoever digs a pit will fall into it, and a stone will come back on him who starts it rolling. A lying tongue hates its victims, and a flattering mouth works ruin."

Flattery is a form of lying through manipulation to affect emotions, keeping people off guard. We are less likely to evaluate someone who flatters us. I have seen people accept wrong things many times merely because the person speaking to them was flattering them.

Proverbs 28:23

"Whoever rebukes a man will afterward find more favor than he who flatters with his tongue."

Psalm 5:9

"For there is no truth in their mouth; their inmost self is destruction; their throat is an open grave; they flatter with their tongue."

Psalm 12:3

"May the Lord cut off all flattering lips, the tongue that makes great boasts,"

Salesmen and Prosperity Preachers use a lot of flattery to disarm their hearers.

Romans 16:18

"For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the naive."

Bottom Line: Flattery is evil and is not encouragement. Encouragement includes words like "keep going you're on the right road" or "stop, you must go the other way." Coaching someone to do the right thing, go the right way, and think the right things is encouragement.

What is Real Encouragment?

For those who think they are encouraging us by telling us we will have a great blessing of money, health, and everything else, I have this to say; God never once promised us earthly comforts and pleasures.

At times we do have these things but generally for the most part we struggle living in a world that hates us because they hate Christ.

If we want to encourage someone in the Lord we must tell them the truth. The truth that life very likely will become harder because we have been born again. People will reject us when they didn't before. We will be mocked and disregarded because we love Christ. I have proof, the proof I have is from the Bible, God's instruction book to us.

2 Corinthians 11:24-29

"24 Five times I received from the Jews thirty-nine lashes. 25 Three times I was beaten with rods, once I was stoned, three times I was shipwrecked, a night and a day I have spent adrift at sea. 26 I have been on frequent journeys, in dangers from rivers, dangers from robbers, dangers from my countrymen, dangers from the Gentiles, dangers in the city, dangers in the wilderness, dangers at sea, dangers among false brothers; 27 I have been in labor and hardship, through many sleepless nights, in hunger and thirst, often without food, in cold and exposure. 28 Apart from such external things, there is the daily pressure on me of concern for all the churches. 29 Who is weak without my being weak? Who is led into sin without my intense concern?"

I think this is clear that born-again believers will not see continual health, wealth, and pleasure as long as they remain in this world.

It is not encouragement to tell a person they will have only happy things, in fact, it may cause someone to lose their faith when they have come to Christ to get all these perks only to realize that it does not happen this way. Coming to Christ for the perks very likely means the person never repented from their sin and want only the things they believe their false Jesus will give them. There is no thought of dying to self to seek Christ for His will for them.

Someone who comes to Christ to get things out of Him does not understand that He desires and requires worship of Him. He wants to bless us with Spiritual blessings of wisdom and His fruit, but we have to want it.

Galatians 2:20

"I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me."

Luke 9:23

"And he said to all, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me."

The life we live in Jesus Christ is not about this world, it's about being an example of the love of Christ while here as well as growing in holiness ourselves. In my experience, those who love this world and are running after health and wealth will have contempt for anyone who is walking with Christ.

Using Christ for our own glory and demonstrating self-righteousness is against Christ.

Mark 8:35

"For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake and the gospel's will save it."

Matthew 10:38

"And whoever does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me."

I see nothing in these verses or any other verses of the Bible in which God's primary purpose is to lavish worldly good and health on us, there is nothing at all to indicate this,, except verse taken out of context to justify greed and avarice.

When I looked up the word "avarice" I realized this is exactly what the Bible condemns.

"Avarice" means an excessive or insatiable desire for wealth or gain: greediness, cupidity.

"Cupidity" means "greed for money or possessions"

When a Christian flatters us with prayers and promises of wealth and health, run like the wind, they will deny what you are experiencing by claiming something must be wrong with your faith because you go through all these hard things. ?The truth is that it is faith that brings on the trials. The stronger our faith the more we are tested by God and the more the devil attacks us.

Hebrews 11:1

"Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen."

Faith is demonstrated in greater measure when we believe God even when we do not see something happening. We obey His Word because we have faith. Those who have little or no faith do not obey His word because they cannot see or understand why He commands what He does.

True faith causes us to obey His Word. No faith takes His Word, twists it to make it say what the twister wants it to say, they do not obey, but they deny Him by denying His Word.

Anyone who would say; "I am having faith that God is going to help me divorce my spouse", is lying, they are claiming God will help them do what He calls sin.

They are assigning to God a weakness of capitulation to His own word. God cannot deny Himself and He does not change His mind about His principles. He does expect obedience.

So many people are remarrying after divorce and claiming the new spouse was from God. God would not send a new spouse to a divorced person when He clearly condemns remarriage as a sin.

Luke 16:17-18 "17 But it is easier for heaven and earth to pass away than for a single stroke of a pen to drop out of the Law. 18 Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and he who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. "

Those who wish to live happy lives doing whatever they want without obeying God are not interested in the Holy God, they are merely interested in a sugar daddy that gives them the things they want, this is a false god and a false Jesus.

Think about it, better yet pray about it!

These Last Days of Angst

In these last days we can expect more people attempting to "gaslight" those they wish to control.

Many will say the good you do is bad and the bad they do is good.

2 Timothy 3:1-5

"But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people."

Romans 1:21-23 "21 For even though they knew God, they did not honor Him as God or give thanks, but they became futile in their reasonings, and their senseless hearts were darkened. 22 Claiming to be wise, they became fools, 23 and they exchanged the glory of the incorruptible God for an image in the form of corruptible mankind, of birds, four-footed animals, and [d]crawling creatures."

We are living in very strange times, we can call it what it is but never allow it to influence us. In order to remain uninfluenced, we must become bold and strong through the power of the Holy Spirit.

Romans 12:1-3 "1Therefore I urge you, brothers, on account of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God, which is your spiritual service of worship. 2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God. 3 For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but think of yourself with sober judgment, according to the measure of faith God has given you.…"

The Internet News Tabloids

Most information we see on the internet on just about any subject is nearly equal to information we might find in a tabloid newspaper such as the "National Enquirer."

I used to think that anyone buying those tabloids at the check-out stands were low intelligence because they were seemingly addicted to the trash in those so-called "news sources."

You know the tabloids I am talking about, the ones that have headlines like, "Elephant gives birth to a part human part elephant."

Or worse; "Human DNA found in wolf-dog." These headlines make us all shake our heads in disgust, but then again there are many such tabloid news articles and videos on the internet that are just as foolish lacking credibility as we see in these tabloids.

It's time for born-again believers to stop looking at the internet tabloid articles and videos which are disseminating as much false information as any check-out news tabloid.

There is a joke I heard many years ago when the internet first began to come into homes. The joke was; "it must be true I saw it on the internet." It was a joke because few people trusted what they saw or read on the internet.

I use the internet all the time for articles and videos that are done by credible people, however, many who say they are credible are not.

We are living in wicked times in which conservatives and liberals alike are spreading silly, even ridiculous news that CANNOT be vetted by the people reading or watching these news clips.

God has warned me not to fall into the trap of believing something simply because the writer or the maker of the video claims to have special knowledge.

If born again believers would stay to their mission of spreading the gospel and the word of God for His instruction for believers they would be far better off.

Too many believers are getting caught up in political issues, health paranoia, and much more as though these things are more important than the gospel.

Why do I believe they think these things are more important? The answer is simple they write far more about these things than they speak of God. We spend the most time on the things we think are important.

Christ is coming soon, people are dying and going to hell. Christians are becoming distracted by this life to the point of paranoia about what is going on around them, we need to stay focused on Christ and help those who are wavering, fearful and distracted.

I am excited about the number of videos and articles on the internet that are warning the people that Christ is coming for His church, the world is about to be taken over by the antichrist and the time is now to trust in Christ. God is clearly warning everyone what is coming in these last days, this is one of the reasons I know His return is soon.

Romans 12:1-2 "1Therefore I urge you, brothers, on account of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God, which is your spiritual service of worship. 2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God. '"

Let's keep our eyes upon Jesus Christ, He will not allow us to be deceived if we are fixated on Him.

Following False Prophets is a Lack of Faith

Matthew 16:4 "A wicked and adulterous generation demands a sign, but none will be given it except the sign of Jonah.” This is the sign of Jonah as a picture of Christ dying, being buried and rising from the dead.

The dreamer of dreams and those who will have visions are the Jewish people in the tribulation. God does a special work in them for the last days when He will fight for their nation with many miracles.

We do not have need of signs and visions because we have the Bible. We are commanded to walk by faith. We trust Christ for each day not salvation only.

When we trust Christ we have no need to know the future we know He already has control of that for us.

If we, as human beings, were to know the future we would make our own plans, even trying to thwart what is coming to make it come out the way we want.

We need not prepare except for what is normal to live our lives. God will tell us what to do when it is needed, if we are accustomed to obeying Him we will do as He has instructed without even knowing why we are doing it.

When the future comes we will be ready, but not because we figured it all out, but because Christ already knew and set things up for us. We must obey Him all the time. If we do not have the habit of obeying Him we will not be prepared for what is coming because we will not hear His voice within us.

All we need to know is what the Bible tells us and to be able to hear from the Holy Spirit at the time He speaks to us.

Those who want dreams and visions will see things God never said, it is happening all the time. Many people base their interpretations about visions and even just about life on how they feel and what they desire, these dreams and visions are tainted with a wish to be elevated above others. They are tained with personal desires.

I probably couldn't count the number of times someone has had a dream or a vision that did not come to pass but they never came back to say that they had not really heard from God. Their lack of response to the failed vision was to ignore that it failed and hope everyone forgets. We see a lot of this in these last days of self-promotion.

Deuteronomy 18:22 "When the prophet speaks in the name of the Lord, and the thing does not happen or come true, that is the thing which the Lord has not spoken. The prophet has spoken it presumptuously; you are not to be afraid of him.'"

When someone has a dream or vision that does not come true it is foolish to keep trusting in that "prophet." This person is not a prophet and cannot be trusted to bring words from the Lord ever again.

Many people who love their dreams and visions are not obeying His Word the Bible. First and foremost a prophet of God is one who is already obeying God's Word as a lifestyle.

If you love Christ and He lives in you then you are content to trust His Word the Bible and leave all the tomorrows up to Him.

From the "Daily Heartbeat" Love Worth Finding

The Book of Acts tells the story of a man called Barnabas, which translates to, “son of encouragement.” Five characteristics of Barnabas’ “gift of encouragement” show us how to be encouragers for others.

First, encouragers see needs that they can meet and meet them. (See Acts 4:36.)

Second, encouragers find lonely people and include them. (See Acts 9:26-30.)

Third, encouragers find a misunderstood person and affirm him or her. (See Acts 11:19-26.)

Fourth, encouragers develop disciples. Barnabas found buried gifts in new disciples and helped them develop their talents.

Fifth, encouragers help failures find second chances. (See Acts 15:26-41.)

Barnabas was a good man, full of the Holy Ghost; it was God in Him. We can all be encouragers like Barnabas. Ask God to fan the Holy Spirit in you to meet needs, befriend lonely people, affirm the misunderstood, develop disciples, and offer second chances.