Dead to Our Children

When we are dead to our children while we still live, there is grief that cannot be compared to real death. When someone died loving us we grieve at the loss for a time.

But when we are considered dead when we still live then it would have been easier to lose someone to death who loved us than to lose them through contempt while they yet live.

Does this make sense to anyone else? We live in times of great turmoil in the family, irrational responses to simple life problems as well as raging anger over things that many years ago would have been shrugged or laughed off.

I am meeting and hearing about many grandparents who are being pushed out of their children's lives as well as out of their grandchildren's lives. The contempt the grown children have shown the grandparents has isolated them from their grandchildren.

These are tactics of a narcissistic generation! To punish the parents with isolation from their grandchildren because of their refusal to resolve a matter, is diabolical not to mention intensely selfish.

In the 70's we used to call that generation the "me" generation, now we have gone beyond just mere selfishness to revenge over things that would not warrant actions of revenge.

When attempts have been made to resolve small matters of disrespect and are met with worse accusation and punishment, we realize there is nothing we can do further to resolve problems. We live in a world that refuses to discuss anything unless the answer to the problem is that they get what they want without expectations.

There comes a time when we must leave these people to God and step away to get on with our lives. The pain of loss over the grandchildren will never completely go away, but it can be minimized by the realization that God knows all about it and our conscience is clear before Him.

Our walk in these last days of foolishness is not easy. We are bombarded constantly with contempt for our desire to follow Christ. When this happens we are comforted by the fact that one day this mess will all be dealt with, we will be home with Christ and all those other wonderful Christ loving believers. This must be our focus, otherwise our children and grandchildren become our idols. We love them, we grieve as Christ grieved over Jerusalem, and move on to those who do love Him.

2 Timothy 3:1-5
“Difficult Times Will Come”
3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come.
2 For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy,
3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good,
4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,
5 holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these."