There is a term these days that was developed by rebellious people to deflect any form of instruction or accountability that they refuse.
That phrase is "unsolicited advice." This is the new mantra designed to keep people from expressing concern about our actions.
Just because someone doesn't like the advice given to them does not mean it was wrong to express the advice.
"Unsolicited advice" the term came from a cultural mentality that we should never give our opinions or advice unless we are asked.
In the case of the prophet Jeremiah, God told him to go and warn the people saying they would not listen but he was to do it anyway. The people were going to be responsible for their response but Jeremiah would be pleasing God because He obeyed.
God never mentions anything remotely akin to "unsolicited advice" as being wrong. In fact He tells us to speak truth to people so they can consider some other way of thinking that might help them.
We live in a rebellious culture that wants no input or correction unless it sound like its what they want.
Proverbs 12:15
"The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice."
Proverbs 11:14
"Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety."
It is normal natural and good to listen to advice even when we have not asked for it. Becoming offended because someone offered us advice is exposing the pride within ourselves that says, "you have attacked me by telling me I might need to think another way."
It is not a personal attack for someone to suggest something to help. It only seems like it to people who are full of pride. When we are humble we listen to advice, evaluate it and carry on to do what God tells us to do. After all, it might be God Who is using someone to help us.
I recall the story about a man who was caught in a flood. The water was rising within his house, it filled the first floor so he went to the second floor. Along came a man in a boat to save him but the man's response was, "no thank you God is going to save me." Then as the waters rose to the second floor the man crawled out on the roof. A man in a helicopter came along and offered to pull him up to save him. The man declined this help saying that he didn't need the help, God would save him.
The waters rose above the roof, the man who could not swim died. When the man got to heaven he asked God, "why didn't you save me from the flood." God replied, "what do you mean, I sent you a boat and then a helicopter why didn't you use what I sent you."
Those who think they are an entity unto themselves and need no input from others are often those who make very bad decisions. No one person can know all there is to know. Those who listen to ideas and advice from others while evaluating them after praying for God to show them more, will be those who make good decisions because they know they are not all knowing, that God is the only One Who is and that He can also send others.
Those who will only listen to the advice of those who praise and honor them will likely be receiving only what they like to hear, further delaying their emotional and spiritual growth. The favorite friends of the "all knowing" narcissists are those who almost never advise and who say what the narcissist likes to hear.
2 Timothy 4:2-4 "…2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and encourage with every form of patient instruction. 3 For the time will come when men will not tolerate sound doctrine, but with itching ears they will gather around themselves teachers to suit their own desires. 4 So they will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.…"
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