People "say", we need to have unconditional love but act as though we have to earn love by being seen as special. I say "being seen as special" because no one is therefore it is all about appearances on the outside without inner substance and reality.
Telling a child or treating a child as though they are special, above others is creating a false narrative about self that is easily demolished in the real world where they will not always be praised as special.
This is the reason many if not most people in our children's generation today cannot love anyone unless they see them as accomplished in a talent or job and outwardly beautiful.
Proverbs 18:1-3 "1He who isolates himself pursues selfish desires; he rebels against all sound judgment. 2 A fool does not delight in understanding, but only in airing his opinions. 3 With a wicked man comes contempt as well, and shame is accompanied by disgrace.…"
Boasting about oneself is not only common in our day but encouraged, causing superficial relationships based on how special others make them feel.
It is not possible to have close endearing relationships without unconditional love. Our love drives our concern about others in difficult times. It drives concern about sin in their lives to come alongside to help them have the strength to leave sin and to grow in holiness. Love edifies others to walk in the Word of God.
Edification is not praise, it is using the Word of God to help, to learn, to encourage in righteousness.
Proverbs 14:7
"Stay away from a foolish man; you will gain no knowledge from his speech."
Many people who say they are Christians are playing a role to be accepted and elevated by onlookers. They have no substance, everything is forced, erratic and based on manipulating the responses of others.
When we are our authentic selves we will share the good, the bad, and the failures with our brothers and sisters in Christ who will share in the joy or the pain, whichever is present.
In our day we must be careful to discern who is a real brother or sister because many pretenders will gossip and use the events of our lives to disparage us rather than engage in helpful love according to the need.
Proverbs 10:8 "A wise heart will receive commandments, but foolish lips will come to ruin."
This world is growing darker and meaner, it is a blessing to know there are still some people in it who love Christ and will operate from His fruit that lives in them.
Galatians 5:22-23 "22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.…"
Seek relationships with those who have this fruit and your friendships will be quality and eternal. We can know who is from God and who is a pretender, sometimes it will be unclear but God can show us.
Matthew 7:15-20
You Will Know Them by Their Fruit
15 “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves.
16 You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles?
17 Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit.
18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit.
19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire.
20 Therefore by their fruits you will know them."
Telling a child or treating a child as though they are special, above others is creating a false narrative about self that is easily demolished in the real world where they will not always be praised as special.
This is the reason many if not most people in our children's generation today cannot love anyone unless they see them as accomplished in a talent or job and outwardly beautiful.
Proverbs 18:1-3 "1He who isolates himself pursues selfish desires; he rebels against all sound judgment. 2 A fool does not delight in understanding, but only in airing his opinions. 3 With a wicked man comes contempt as well, and shame is accompanied by disgrace.…"
Boasting about oneself is not only common in our day but encouraged, causing superficial relationships based on how special others make them feel.
This is a detriment to relationships, no one can love anyone else who is not seen as special.
It is not possible to have close endearing relationships without unconditional love. Our love drives our concern about others in difficult times. It drives concern about sin in their lives to come alongside to help them have the strength to leave sin and to grow in holiness. Love edifies others to walk in the Word of God.
Edification is not praise, it is using the Word of God to help, to learn, to encourage in righteousness.
Proverbs 14:7
"Stay away from a foolish man; you will gain no knowledge from his speech."
Many people who say they are Christians are playing a role to be accepted and elevated by onlookers. They have no substance, everything is forced, erratic and based on manipulating the responses of others.
When we are our authentic selves we will share the good, the bad, and the failures with our brothers and sisters in Christ who will share in the joy or the pain, whichever is present.
In our day we must be careful to discern who is a real brother or sister because many pretenders will gossip and use the events of our lives to disparage us rather than engage in helpful love according to the need.
Proverbs 10:8 "A wise heart will receive commandments, but foolish lips will come to ruin."
This world is growing darker and meaner, it is a blessing to know there are still some people in it who love Christ and will operate from His fruit that lives in them.
Galatians 5:22-23 "22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.…"
Seek relationships with those who have this fruit and your friendships will be quality and eternal. We can know who is from God and who is a pretender, sometimes it will be unclear but God can show us.
Matthew 7:15-20
You Will Know Them by Their Fruit
15 “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves.
16 You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles?
17 Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit.
18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit.
19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire.
20 Therefore by their fruits you will know them."
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